My husband and I have been married for 19 years, and in the past 19 years, we have gone back to my husband's home in the countryside every year for the Spring Festival. In the past, my mother-in-law didn't give me a red envelope every year, but this year I received a red envelope from my mother-in-law, and I was a little flattered.
My husband and I got married in 2004, and I think for the first time, I went to my husband's house to meet my in-laws. My mother-in-law doesn't seem to have a bad impression of me at all, because I can tell from the red envelopes she gave me.
In 2004, the red envelope market here was that when we went to meet our in-laws for the first time, the in-laws would give at least 100 yuan in red envelopes to their future daughter-in-law. But my mother-in-law only gave me a 50 yuan red envelope for the first time.
At that time, I thought that my mother-in-law was not good to me, but when I saw that my husband was good to me, I didn't pay so much attention to it, and then I married my husband.
After marrying my husband, I gave birth to a daughter. My mother-in-law is a bit patriarchal, after my maternity leave, she refused to help me take care of my daughter, my husband said that I must call my mother-in-law in person, maybe my mother-in-law will help me take my daughter.
At that time, I didn't want to do it so much, so I did it according to my husband's method and returned to my hometown. I begged my mother-in-law to help me take care of my daughter, and finally my mother-in-law finally agreed to help me take care of my daughter.
When my mother-in-law went to help me take care of my daughter, she was so focused on her hometown in the countryside that she wanted to go back to her hometown because she wanted to go back to her hometown, so she could help me take care of my children while doing farm work.
Because I only have a daughter, and my daughter is only eight months old, I really can't bear my daughter, I didn't promise my mother-in-law to let her take her daughter home.
My mother-in-law couldn't live in our house, so she found all kinds of excuses to go back to her hometown in the countryside. My husband and I saw that it would not work like this, so we asked my mother to help me take care of my daughter, but my mother took pity on me for working too hard, so she agreed to help me take my daughter.
After all, my mother is going to bring my niece, and my mother-in-law will also speak cool words, often saying some nonsensical words to anger my mother, my mother-in-law once said: 'I don't need to bring my granddaughter, in the future, this granddaughter will also call me a grandmother, only a fool will take her granddaughter!' Hearing my mother-in-law say this, I knew that she was a 'ruthless character', so I didn't bother to pay attention to her.
Since then, there is a gap between me and my mother-in-law, as a daughter-in-law, in order to do my daughter-in-law's job, I will follow my husband back to the countryside every year for the New Year, we will give my mother-in-law a red envelope every year, and my mother-in-law did not give me a red envelope.
Later, when my daughter grew up, we went to work and took care of our daughter at the same time. My mother-in-law once said: 'Now I don't help them take care of the children, when I get old, I won't ask them to support me, it's enough for me to have my eldest son'
My mother-in-law has two sons and two daughters, and my husband is the third. My husband has an older brother, a younger sister and an older sister, because my husband's brother and sister-in-law have two children, a boy and a girl.
My eldest brother has a boy, and my mother-in-law values my eldest brother very much, she always helps the eldest brother, and she also loves the eldest brother's children, and she doesn't care about my daughter at all.
By 2016, the country opened up the two-child policy. My husband and I were also trying to get pregnant, and finally in 2018, I gave birth to a boy.
At that time, my husband was also fighting for a breath, and he would rather go to the confinement sister-in-law than ask his mother-in-law to take care of me. But after my maternity leave ended, I had to go to work again. Again, we are faced with the question of who will take care of the children.
Later, my husband had to ask my mother-in-law to help us bring Erbao, because this time my mother-in-law saw that I gave birth to a boy, and she was not as picky as she was with my daughter.
Time flies quickly, my second baby is three years old, my mother-in-law has been in our family for two years, and we have been very good to my mother-in-law in the past two years.
My mother-in-law has a pension herself, and my husband and I never have to pay a penny for living expenses, she can cook whatever she wants in our house, and she is very free.
On the contrary, my father-in-law was in the countryside with my eldest brother, and my father-in-law was disliked by my eldest brother. He hated my father-in-law for not paying attention to hygiene, and sometimes they didn't give my father-in-law access to their kitchen.
In the first month of 2023, my eldest brother and sister-in-law, in order to make a little more money, they had to leave their hometown to work in the county seat!
It turned out that the eldest brother and sister-in-law worked in a lumber mill near their village, but because housing prices were falling, the lumber mill in the village closed down, and they had to go to the county seat to find work.
My father-in-law is over 70 years old, and there is no one to accompany my father-in-law in his hometown, we are not at ease, my husband and my eldest brother discussed, and asked my father-in-law to go to the county with us to live, and my husband had to agree.
Now my father-in-law and mother-in-law live with us in the county seat, and I pay the usual living expenses, and my mother-in-law doesn't have to use the pension at all, and my husband is also very open-minded and doesn't mention the living expenses to them.
And the two of them are very free in our house, the ingredients in the refrigerator, they can cook whatever they want, and my husband went to buy the ingredients again.
I think this time my mother-in-law gave me a red envelope, she also expressed her apologies to us, it turned out that she once said that she didn't want us to support her old, who knows that in the end, it depends on us!
Now my mother-in-law clearly understands that he depends on us for his old age. Because the eldest brother and sister-in-law are running around to work, they will not return to the countryside to live soon.
My mother-in-law has been with us in the county for five years, and she has become accustomed to the life in the county, and sometimes she admits that she is reluctant to go back to the countryside to live, because it is inconvenient to buy groceries in the countryside, and the medical conditions are not good.
From today onwards, my mother-in-law gave me a big red envelope, and I knew that my mother-in-law had other plans, and what she wanted was to rely on me and my husband to provide for her in the future!