Life is a journey, and in the eyes of many people, a woman's life should revolve around children, husbands, and families. For this reason, when necessary, they can abandon their jobs, return to their families, become full-time housewives, and worry about trivial matters.
There are some women who give everything for the family, but in the end no one is grateful to them, leaving them only their husbands as a matter of course, their children are not impressed, and in the end they themselves are not happy.
In fact, many times, they often forget that as a human being, as an independent individual, they should first feel sorry for themselves.
Aunt Chen, who is 59 in the courtyard, said this: If a woman wants to be happy, she must know how to do subtraction in a timely manner, work hard all her life, retire, and live her life behind closed doors, first putting her mind on herself.
59-year-old Aunt Chen is retired
When Aunt Chen was young, she was a special family person, she gave all her energy to her family, husband, children, and socialization, and gave almost nothing to herself.
On weekdays, when no one asks her out, she puts all her energy on her husband, children and trivial matters. A friend asked her out to play, and she never refused.
Every day is busy, there is always a lot of excitement around me, friends everywhere, and there are dinners. Such days passed for many years, and it was not until retirement was approaching that she found that when people reached middle and old age, there were not many left, and there were only two or three people who accompanied her to the end, nothing more.
In the past, a friend who had been friends for a long time, because of the distance, went from frequent contact to two or three times a year, and finally gradually stopped contacting.
Maybe that's all the fate of the two, Aunt Chen thought to herself.
She didn't want to maintain this friendship anymore, it was too tiring for her, and she subtracted from it.
Paying too much, Aunt Chen felt very tired, she began to want to be the active contact every time, but fortunately maintained this relationship.
Aunt Chen said: In a relationship, if one person takes the initiative every time they contact, and the other person passively waits for the other party to contact, when they don't contact, there is no communication between the two, and this kind of relationship has already lost its original flavor.
The relationship between the two has long changed from good friends to ordinary friends, and finally because of the increasing estrangement, they were separated for the first time.
Feelings have always been closer and closer, and they have always been two-way, and a person's care will eventually come to an end.
cares about you, you don't always take the initiative to find her, she will also take the initiative to respond to your feelings, don't care about you, no matter how much you contact, you can't wake up a person who pretends to be asleep.
People go farther and farther, the heart is getting colder and colder, it's time to do subtraction, subtraction, subtraction, we always have to understand that not everyone can accompany us to the end.
In the end, the train of life will only leave less and less in life.
After retiring, Aunt Chen did one thing, she took the initiative to clean up the contacts in her mobile phone, those who were not contacted, and those who should be deleted; those who contacted every time they had something to do were also deleted; and those strangers did not have to stay.
In the past, before the weekend, she was thinking about whether to ask her friends out to play, but now she just wants to stay quietly, read books, write, and spend time with her wife.
For the affairs of her children, she also chose to let go, after all, the children are all married and have their own families, and she does not need her to keep an eye on them at all times and participate in their lives.
Aunt Chen began to focus on herself, and unnecessary meals gradually stopped going, in the past, there were ordinary people, and when they were fine, they often made appointments to go out to eat and play together, but now Aunt Chen rarely goes.
The older she gets, the more she participates, the more Aunt Chen discovers that these are actually useless, let's say it's connections, the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, there are really difficulties, and there are really few people who are willing to reach out to help.
Even if you are too close and think that it is an important friend, you may choose to ignore it when you are in trouble, let alone these ordinary nodding friends.
For the trivial matters at home, Aunt Chen no longer worries as before, she became the shopkeeper, and handed over all the favors to her children.
Aunt Chen said: We are old, it's time to quit socializing, and these human relations will eventually be home to young people. Leave the affairs between relatives to them, because when people are old, their abilities are limited, and they can't play a big role. It's time to put all your mind on yourself and live your own little life.
In terms of life, Aunt Chen has also changed a lot, she is no longer the same as before, she has to shop around for everything, and she is even reluctant to buy what she wants.
When she meets what she likes, she will not hesitate to buy it, and she is not so picky about eating, she will always go out to eat a big meal she likes every week, instead of wanting to eat and look at her pocket, and give up the thoughts in her head when she thinks about other things.
She said that when people are old, although there are some things that need to be paid attention to, under the premise of paying attention, they still have to enjoy life and do what they like.
Some places that should be spent will be spent, the first half of the life is busy and saved half of the life, and in the second half of life, love yourself as much as possible and enrich yourself.
No one knows when they will leave, let alone whether their wife will miss them after they leave. Is it that you are thrifty and end up cheapening others.
You know, there are still many such examples in reality, fortunately after a lifetime of hardship, the savings saved, I haven't enjoyed it, so I hung up.
As a result, the other half soon had a new person, and what was fortunate enough to be left behind was also enjoyed by others, and this contrast was quite hurtful.
Of course, having said that, you must also have a degree of wealth and self-support, and you can't spend it maliciously, otherwise it will only cause some trouble for your future life, which will outweigh the losses.
Write at the end
If you want to live a good life, you must know how to subtract when you should do subtraction, just like there are so many spaces in a certain space, you stuff things into it, and when you can't fit so much, this space will be squeezed to the point of exploding. Only by knowing how to do subtraction can you travel lightly and not get tired.
The rest of your life is short, don't waste your time and energy on people and things that are not worth it.
You must learn to love yourself, spend reasonably, enrich yourself when conditions permit, do what you like, eat what you want, pay more attention to your health, and live every day well.