There is a sentence in Su Shi's "Theory of Chao Error": "Those who have achieved great things in ancient times must not only have supernatural talents, but also have perseverance and perseverance." "I think this is the performance of a person with a big picture.
Wang Bo's "Preface to the Pavilion of King Teng" said that "poor and strong, do not fall into the ambition of the clouds", I think this is also a kind of spirit that a person with a big pattern should have.
There is also a saying that when you see a person clearly and do not expose it, you understand the meaning of the pattern. It's also a pattern. However, in others, I found that there are 3 terrible manifestations of people with a large general pattern.
1. Never complain
I have found a kind of person who is able to deal with any difficulty quietly and never say a word of complaint, as if he is insulated from complaining. In fact, that's just people's "basic exercises".
In his opinion, since the matter has already happened, we should face it with a problem-solving attitude, and complaining about others will not do any good, but will only increase our troubles, so why bother? No matter how much you complain, what problems can be solved?
When he thinks about it, he never complains. Even if others make mistakes and cause him a certain amount of loss or trouble, he can be tolerant and not complain about others, but first think about whether he is also at fault, as Socrates said, "While complaining about others, don't forget to examine yourself." ”
Second, it can bend and stretch
You must have heard the story of Han Shin's humiliation under his crotch. If Han Xin had killed the person who humiliated him in order to understand the momentary anger, would there still be Han Xin later? A person with a big pattern should be able to bend and stretch, and what kind of hero is the courage of a horseman?
In life, you see some people groveling in order to please others, don't think that he is just a timid and afraid person, he may encounter difficulties and have to do it, not really afraid of things.
For example, if there is a person who has an argument with someone and the other party slaps him, he can also fight back and punch back, how relieving this is.
But he thought that the child's wife was still waiting for him at home, and his parents still needed him to support him, so he took the initiative to apologize to the other party, even if it was not his fault. I think such a person is also a terrible manifestation of a person with a big pattern.
Third, there is a win-win mentality
There is a blind man who walks at night with a lamp in his hand, do you think he is stupid, he can't see in the first place, what's the use of carrying a lamp, isn't it superfluous?
Actually, no, it's a fact that he can't see the lamp he is on, but it's convenient for others to walk, and to prevent others from bumping into him - I think this is the most vivid win-win thinking, in the vernacular, "Hello, I'm good." ”
Generally, people with a large pattern have this kind of win-win thinking, thinking that everything is beneficial to both parties, rather than just taking advantage of themselves. Even if he can't achieve a win-win situation, he gives priority to altruism, just like Kazuo Inamori did: "Accumulate good deeds and think about altruism." ”
If it is not easy for you to identify who is the person with a big pattern around you, you might as well take a seat from the above three performances, and you will definitely find that some people you don't usually pay attention to have such a big pattern.
At this time, you can also think about what you have done, it doesn't matter if you can't do it for the time being, you can first demand yourself according to these three performances, I believe that it won't be long before you are also a person with a big pattern.