The author of this article: Yue Qian
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In "The First Half of My Life", Zijun and Junsheng are in free love, from school uniforms to wedding dresses, envious of others.
In the past 10 years of marriage, Junsheng is responsible for "making money to support the family", Zijun is responsible for "looking beautiful like a flower", they are loving husband and wife, and they have a lovely son.
Zijun thought that life would go on happily like this.
Unexpectedly, Chen Junsheng, who has always been honest and cares for his family, gave her a "slap in the face": Ling Ling was out of marriage.
The little \\ three should be condemned, and the one who derailed \\ is not worthy of forgiveness.
There is no doubt about it.
However, Zijun and Zijun's family also played an indelible role in the divorce of the two.
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Zijun and Ziqun were raised by their mother alone.
It's hard for a single mother with two children.
Xue Pearl can only support her two daughters by "calculating" and "calculating".
Zijun was very "competitive", married a "capable" and "successful career" Junsheng, and became a "rich wife".
Since marrying Junsheng, Zijun has been the proudest daughter in her mother's heart.
His family has followed a "good life".
Zijun's mother's positioning of Chen Junsheng is a "long-term meal ticket", and even if her daughter divorces, her first reaction is not to give this "long-term meal ticket" to others.
The LV bags, shawls, and high heels that Zijun bought, he said he would take them.
Brother-in-law Bai Guang, who has no ability but loves to start a business, but none of them succeeded, and the money owed had to be borrowed from Zijun, and Zijun never let him pay it back once.
If the sister doesn't give it, the subgroup will directly ask Junsheng for money.
Junsheng said skillfully: No problem, the 20,000 will be called to you back, and it is still the previous number, right?
In addition, Junsheng also gave a few thousand yuan in his wallet to the subgroup, saying that "it takes money to raise a child".
Good guy, I've heard of "Voldedemon", Junsheng's proper "Fuzijun Family Demon"!
Nanny Yaqin couldn't stand the "excessiveness" of Zijun's mother and sister, and reminded Zijun that "you are too good to them, and in the end it becomes a matter of course."
And Zijun only said: It is natural to be good to them.
It's okay to be good for your mother's family.
But there must be a "degree".
Especially when Zijun doesn't go to work, all the money and things she gives her mother's family need Junsheng to take money.
In the face of a "vampire" family, after a long time, it is an individual who will not be able to stand it.
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In addition to the "excessive" demands of his mother's family, Zijun himself is also famous for his "excessive pleasure".
Zijun will be famous for his pleasure, shoes to 80,000 private customization, go to the mall to buy shoes directly a few pairs of all wrapped, eat crabs only eat Yangcheng Lake wild, do not eat other places, travel to Europe, buy sofas are also tens of thousands......
And all of these have to be paid by Junsheng.
Junsheng doesn't say anything, and he will have opinions in his heart, because he himself is never willing to buy expensive things.
1.5 million, in Shanghai, where every inch of land is expensive, is not much.
Let's do the math:
1.5 million a year, excluding the salary of the nanny 20,000 * 12 = 240,000, there is still 1.26 million left.
And Zijun, a pair of shoes is 6,000, buy 4 pairs at a time, and 20,004 will be gone.
This is just an "ordinary" shoe, and sometimes Zijun has to wear a private custom, a pair of 80,000.
Hermès handbag, 220,000 yuan, Leghila handbag 100,005, LV bag, about 31,500 yuan......
And there are countless such bags.
These are just bags, there are countless clothes, watches......
Calculated in this way, 1.5 million is really not allowed to spend money on such a "spending" gentleman.
Besides, Junsheng is just a project manager, although the annual salary is 1.5 million, he stays up all night and earns it hard.
These sons can't see it, they only know that they are enjoying themselves.
久而久之,俊生也会累。
Zijun can't help, forget it, when he is tired, but if Zijun can comfort softly, neither of them can go to the step of divorce.
However, in addition to himself, Zijun is full of sons, and there is too little attention given to Junsheng.
Therefore, when Junsheng met Ling Ling, who could not only help himself, but also was a "flower of interpretation", it was easy to fall into it.
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Although, we can't measure marriage in terms of "money".
However, we also need to know one sentence - poor couples mourn everything.
In the words of Gu Li in the small era: There is no material love, just a plate of loose sand, and it doesn't need to be blown by the wind, and it will be scattered after two steps.
Although, it sounds hypocritical, it is an indisputable fact.
Junsheng is desperately trying to "make money", but he can't keep up with the speed at which Zijun spends money.
It's tiring and desperate to think about!
[Floating clouds]
A good marriage needs to be managed, and everything must have a "degree".
For the mother's family, there must be a "degree" and a "sense of boundary";
For spouses, there must be a "degree", not just know what to take, but not to give.
In addition to that, female independence is important!
Whether it is material or spiritual, you must be independent, at least don't rely too much on your other half.
Don't turn yourself into a silk flower like Zijun!