Bai Juyi's "Night Rain" said: "I miss people, and I am separated from a distant country." ”
The person Bai Juyi misses is his first love Xiang Ling, and he is the first woman in his life. That year, Bai Juyi was 19 years old and Xiangling was 15 years old.
Due to his mother's opposition, he failed to marry Xiang Ling. So, he spent the rest of his life thinking about his sweetheart and wrote countless moving chapters for her, such as: "Neighbor Girl", "Sauvignon Blanc", "Ji Xiang Ling", "Cold Boudoir Night", "Winter Solstice Night Huai Xiang Ling", ......
And the sentence "I miss people, separated from the far away", was written when Bai Juyi was 40 years old, which shows that he misses him deeply and for a long time.
In everyone's heart, there is their own cinnabar mole. That's the person he once loved deeply, the one who will leave a place for him in the corner of his heart for the rest of his life.
Many things were just ordinary at the beginning. On this night, there is no way to change it. In this world, there will always be such a person who suddenly breaks into your heart, making you remember and miss for a lifetime.
only complains about the word "loved", always mixed with sadness, as if the time that can never be returned, the past that cannot be recalled.
I can't forget it, so I survived the countless cold days and nights alone, and I couldn't let go, so I tasted the torment and pain of missing alone.
I have thought of countless ways to say goodbye to the past completely, but in the end, they all came to naught.
Time has made everyone more and more mature and better at disguising their sincerity. When people around you casually mention him, you can already laugh it off.
However, when you are alone, a familiar song, a path we have walked together, and a movie we have watched together will make you shake your mind.
You, like many people, want to ask for the help of time. Thinking that by waiting for time to dilute everything, you can be liberated.
But day after day, year after year, the people who can't forget still can't forget, and the memories that can't be erased still pierce the heart in the dead of night.
Don't bother, don't contact, don't mention, don't touch. When I thought about him, I typed a series of words, but in the end, I could only delete it with one click.
As Guo Jingming said:
"Some people will always be engraved in their memories, even if they forget his voice, forget his smile, forget his face, but the feeling when they think of him will never change. ”
In life, there are some people who are used to miss out.
If you miss it, if you can't get it back, then go with the flow, stop holding on to your illusions, and refuse to come out of your memories.
If you can't let go, it's easiest to have obsessions. This kind of obsession will be like a creeper, silently, it will gradually crawl to every corner of our hearts.
Suddenly, there are old people who have fallen in their hearts, and it is autumn to look back at the mountains and rivers.
Yang Jiang once said: "How can a person who has entered his heart say that he will forget, and how can a person who is moved by love say that he can let go." ”
The person who has entered the heart, if he wants to forget, can only make his heart numb little by little, so numb that he does not know the pain when he mentions him again, and he must fill his heart little by little with other things, until everything overflows, including him......
But at this time, you are no longer yourself.
Some of them don't remember anymore, it's just self-deception, and the thoughts that they try to cover up will always show their true colors inadvertently.
Counting carefully, after separation, I walked through several springs, summers, autumns and winters alone. The years are colorful, and they are also colorful about who we used to be.
Life is like a journey, always meet while saying goodbye. When you say goodbye, be more relaxed, and when you meet, be calmer.
In life, you always have to keep moving forward.
"The Weakness of Human Nature" once told us this truth:
To really let go of a person is not to "cut off" with him, but to meet.
When we meet, we can fill in some regrets, which is a psychological comfort for ourselves and a formal farewell to the past.
The more you want to forget someone, the more you will miss him. It's better to make up your mind and go to meet each other.
- When we meet again, we may have long since become different. What you can't forget may be the one in your heart;
- When we meet again, we let go of the obsession in my heart. Maybe the other party has already forgotten you, but you don't want to stay away, that memory that you can't go back to.
- Say goodbye, give an explanation to your own past emotions, make a summary of your past, and leave a perfect freeze frame for each other's backs......
Many injuries are originally one-off, but it is precisely because of your permission and your obsession that it is like a saw, constantly pulling on your heart, and the person holding the saw tightly is actually yourself.
The best way to get rid of obsession is never to run away, but to face it. At that moment, you may be cruel to yourself, but the more cruel you are, the more completely you can peel off. Worth.
Once you've seen it, remember to give yourself a fresh start. For those who can't be together, the best ending is that they don't hear from each other, and they don't want to miss each other from now on.
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The world is so big, thank you for seeing me!
[Text: The pen has a temperature and speaks for love, an atypical writer who loves words, invites you to perceive life together]
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