The victim may not be perfect, but the perpetrator must be guilty

On the last day of January, there was two great news!

First, Wu Xie Yu was executed in the case of killing his mother,

Second, the defendants Zhang Bo and Ye Chengchen in the Chongqing sister and brother fall death case were executed.

These three wicked people, who had worried the people of the whole country for many years, finally ushered in the results of their iniquity. Some people say:

"If there is an afterlife, I hope that Zhang Bo and Ye Chengchen can get married as they wish, and Wu Xie Yu will be reincarnated as their child. ”

Indeed, not letting the three of them enter the new year alive is definitely a double happiness, but my heart is still half-hanging.

In November 2020, in a community in Chongqing, a pair of siblings less than 3 years old were brutally pushed off the 15th floor by their biological father and cheating girlfriend.

This move was not unintentional, but had been planned for a long time, and this was the sensational Chongqing sister and brother who fell to death.

In addition to letting the child's biological mother Chen Meilin taste the betrayal of her husband and the heartache of the death of her children, there is also long-term cyberbullying. In the three years since the incident, she has often been subjected to unwarranted blows and rumors:

At the beginning, her parents did not support her marriage, she was not married, and she did not listen to the old man.

I remember that less than a month after the child's accident, she dressed up exquisitely for a live broadcast.

Even laughing has become a "crime", and she is not allowed to dye her hair or paint her nails:

After the second trial ended in May last year, Chen Meilin opened a live broadcast to convey her gratitude to those who supported her, and some people in the comment area insinuated that she consumed her own children, and the next step was to bring goods.

Chen Meilin was so angry that she cried: Who wants this traffic? Give me back the child, and I will give you everything I have, is it okay?

As a mother, it is normal for Chen Meilin to uphold justice for her children and reveal the facts to the world.

Now, the wicked man and the have gone to hell, and the two children can finally rest in peace.

Chen Meilin decided to start the next "revenge" plan: to sue and fight back against those who have abused her online for 3 years.

In today's era of "condemnation of victims", perhaps someone should always take the first step.

Many victims are trapped by the title of victim, and are "rumored" by judges who are high up on the Internet.

The public is more demanding on victims than they think, and they are always expected to be morally perfect, without any flaws, or even with any traits that do not match the "victim".

There are many such examples.

At the end of January, the Tsinghua Google wife murder case that shocked the world, didn't the victim's wife escape the "victim's condemnation"?

27-year-old Chen Liren (male) and 27-year-old Yu Xuanyi (female) both graduated from Tsinghua University, then went to the United States to study, and stayed in the United States after graduation, both of whom worked at Google.

In the eyes of outsiders, this pair is an enviable golden boy and girl, they have a high education, a good job, and a bright future.

After Chen Liren's evil deeds were exposed, major platforms cited many theories, and there are many versions of speculation on the Internet about why Yu Xuanyi was subjected to domestic violence.

Yu Xuanyi was beautiful and smart, which attracted the favor of the male boss, and under the crazy pursuit of the male boss, she proposed to divorce Chen Liren.

Because Yu Xuan's family is not as good as the man, he divorced in order to divide the property.

Once someone condemns the victim, someone will surely understand the perpetrator.

In life, Yu Xuanyi is independent and individual, she likes skiing, rock climbing, and photography. Therefore, it has been suggested that such women should not be taken as wives, because they do not conform to the characteristics of "good wives", otherwise they will harm boys.

Some netizens believe that Chen Liren was hospitalized because of the woman's resistance.

If you don't resist at this time, do you kneel and beg to be beaten?

Before the results of the investigation came out, the Sherlock Holmes on the Internet knew the inside story. Fortunately, there are people on the Internet who know the victim in reality and speak out immediately: Yu Xuanyi passed two exams before entering Google to work, and someone deliberately made yellow rumors about girls to divert attention.

This is also the most scary thing to think about,

The public's demands on the victim are almost perfect, but they always find all kinds of reasons to excuse the perpetrator.

even listed a "wife-killing man" like Chen Liren as a "top blind date".

The terrible thing about victim guilt is that its negative effects are chronic.

It will unconsciously affect the public's judgment of the truth of the matter, the judgment of the bad guys.

Not to mention Chen Liren, even the demon like Zhang Bo, who killed two children, has some sympathy:

"A scumbag like Zhang Bo confuses you, you just fell for love. ”

In addition, what is more worthy of our pondering is that

What is the psychology of those who try to exonerate the perpetrators?

1. The assumption of a fair world. Psychologists once said that people are taught from an early age that "if you behave, you will be safe." If you don't follow the rules, you will get into trouble. ”

When the public looks at the injustice encountered by the victim, they often wear this kind of colored glasses, and habitually feel that as long as they are hurt, it must be the victim who also has a problem:

"Look at her dress, she doesn't look like a good woman, no wonder she was beaten"

"Why doesn't he rob others, only you?"

It's like the old saying that a fly doesn't bite a seamless egg, but it's misleading because it only works on certain occasions. As Zhou Jie explained in response to his bad comments:

"Where doesn't the fly fall? It doesn't even have anything on the table, and it also falls, so you say there's something wrong with the table?"

Most of the time, people are domesticated by the "fair world hypothesis", which makes people who have not yet come to their senses lose the ability to think holistically and become potential perpetrators.

2. Special filters for women.

Whether it is a murder or a sexual assault case, the most effective attack on a woman is to humiliate and slander her in relation to "women's morality" and "sex".

After all, the easiest way to ruin a woman is to create pornographic rumors.

"When you open your mouth and say that a woman is a young lady, whether she is or not, she is already there. ”

Chen Meilin's manicures and hair dyeing, and Yu Xuanyi's male boss's pursuit and division of property, are all invisible weapons that put them above the moral cross.

Speaking up for the perpetrator is not a slander against the victim, but a subconscious blurring and downplaying of the perpetrator's behavior.

After a long time, everyone will acquiesce that the perpetrator has come to this point, which is really a last resort. Thus ignoring another truth:

Taking away someone's life is a big mistake.

When a news or hot event appears, why do more and more people no longer express their opinions, but choose to let the bullets fly for a while?

It's because onlookers can only see one side of the story, not the whole picture. A bystander's statement is likely to have an irreversible impact on the parties.

In an interview, Chen's mother said:

"There are a lot of people who help women talk to cyberbullying and beat my daughter down. With her mother, you'll never be able to defeat her. ”

At the end of the shot, Chen Meilin's mother looked at the camera firmly, as if she wanted to declare war on these keyboard warriors.

Perhaps only those who have become mothers can understand the word mother, and the child is called once for a lifetime.

Now, Chen Meilin has started a new career, and her busy work may allow her to forget about those unpleasantness for a while. As she said:

I sincerely hope that the person who caused public opinion harm to Chen Meilin will be punished by the law as soon as possible.

I think this day will definitely come with spring.

This is not only an explanation to Chen Meilin, but also an explanation to all the "imperfect victims".

Whenever I hope everyone can remember,

Society should restrain the demonic perpetrators, rather than demanding all sorts of high moral standards from the victims.

The victim may not be perfect, but the perpetrator must be guilty.

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