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Xiao Miao saw that the Spring Festival was approaching, and she would discuss with her sister in advance in the past, but this time she didn't discuss with her sister how much to give her parents in advance, she directly gave her parents 6,000 yuan, but she didn't expect her sister to have an opinion on her after she knew.
Narrator: Xiao Miao
I am Xiao Miao, our family is two sisters, and I am two years younger than my sister, now my sister and I are married, my sister married in the county next door to our family, and it is much closer to my parents' house than me.
Because I am married far away, my husband is my college classmate, at that time my husband and I went home to tell my parents about my marriage, my parents still did not agree, in fact, my husband's conditions are okay, they do not agree, because they do not want me to marry far away. So I did a whole year of ideological work for my parents for our marriage. After they agreed, they didn't ask my husband's family for anything, and the bride price was only 60,000 yuan.
And when I got married, my parents also gave me the 60,000 yuan, and added another 40,000 yuan, making up 100,000 yuan for me.
However, after my sister knew, she said that her parents were partial, because when my sister got married, my parents also asked for 60,000 bride price, and the 60,000 bride price was also given to her, and her parents also added 20,000 yuan, a total of 80,000 yuan as her dowry money.
Speaking of which, my sister got married 2 years earlier than me, so when I got married, she saw that her parents gave me an extra 20,000 yuan, so she complained.
But I think my parents gave me an extra 20,000 yuan, and they also felt that I was married far away and felt sorry for me, not because my parents were partial.
Because my sister and I grew up, like the Chinese New Year, my parents would buy us exactly the same new clothes, as well as delicious food at home, and if I had a share, my sister would have a share, and when I went to school, the pocket money for the two of us was the same.
Later, my sister couldn't study, and after finishing high school, she went out to work, and in those years, although her parents knew that she had also started to earn money, they never let her take a penny for the family.
So my parents basically took the money to go to college, and then I worked some part-time jobs at school to earn some living expenses.
Sometimes I don't have enough money to live on, so I talk to my sister, but I get the money from her, and after I graduate, I start working, and I get paid, so I return the money to her.
When her sister got married, although she was more than two hours away from her parents' house by car, she only went back to her parents' house two or three times a year.
In the third year of her marriage, the first year of my marriage, we went back to her parents' house during the Spring Festival that year, and she and her brother-in-law also went back to their parents' house to pay New Year's greetings, and I chatted with her privately. I said: "Sister, I am married far away, it is not easy to go back to my parents' house, you are married close, and I will come back to see my parents and them more often when I have time, after all, they are also so old." ”
When my sister heard what I said, she said: "It's easy for you to say this, it's not easy for you to go back to your parents' house, it's easy for me to go back to my parents' house, although I live in the next county, but in the past two years, you also know that I am at home with children, if I often go back to my parents' house, then my parents-in-law will definitely have opinions." ”
As soon as I said this, my sister began to complain to me. Because we are all married, we don't go back to our parents' homes every Spring Festival, and even if we do, it's after the third day of the Lunar New Year.
So my sister and I would give my parents a lump sum of money before the Chinese New Year. I originally planned to give it to me, and my sister gave it to her, but my sister gave it to her every year when she gave her parents their holiday money, she had to discuss it with me first.
For example, last year, she said: "This year, I will give my parents 1,500 yuan each, adding up to 3,000 yuan, and you will also give this amount." I said, "Will 3,000 yuan be less?" ”
As a result, she said: "Mom and Dad don't spend much money in their hometown for a day, I give 3,000 yuan, plus the 3,000 yuan you give, this 6,000 yuan is enough for Mom and Dad to buy New Year's goods." ”
I was about to say something, but my sister said, "That's it." ”
Therefore, every year during the Spring Festival, I give my parents a holiday fee, basically my sister will give as much as she says, and I will also give as much money as she says.
Last year, my sister called me when there were still ten days before the Chinese New Year, and I told my parents about the festival fee, but this year there are not a few days before the Spring Festival, and my sister did not call me.
So I didn't call my sister, I directly transferred 6,000 yuan to my parents, and after I transferred the money to my parents, I called them and asked them to collect the money.
And the next day I received a call from my sister, in the phone sister said to me, she said: "You give your parents the festival fee, why don't you call me and say, let's not say okay, give my parents the festival fee, discuss it in advance, you directly give your parents 6,000 yuan this year, I originally planned to transfer 2,000 yuan to my parents two days before the New Year." But if you give it now, I want to give less than 6,000 yuan, what do my parents think of me, I give less, and I don't have face, you really don't consider my feelings at all. ”
I heard my sister say that such a big phone call was complaining that I was doing something wrong, and I was really angry, so I retorted and said: "Sister, every year before the Chinese New Year, you call me, saying that you are discussing the festival fee for your parents, but that time you didn't directly set the festival fee, have you asked my opinion? But I take into account your feelings, so in this matter according to what you said, there is no objection, what do you want?"
My sister said, "Listen to you, the annual holiday fee for your parents is less, you want to show off in front of me how much you earn." ”
I said, "Sister, I didn't mean that, I just felt that I couldn't go back to accompany my parents for the New Year, so I wanted to give them more money, let them buy two new clothes, and buy more New Year's goods." ”
I explained, but my sister thought I meant that.
So I said: "Sister, there is no need to discuss this holiday fee in the future, what you give you, I give me, no matter how much we give, in the hearts of my parents, this is a heart." ”
When I was about to hang up the phone, my sister said on the phone, "You can bear it." I retorted: "This matter is obviously unreasonable for you, just like when I got married, my parents gave me an extra 20,000 yuan, and you said that they were partial, but you ask yourself, are your parents really biased after so many years? I don't want to quarrel with you because of some old things." ”
After I finished talking this time, I didn't care what my sister said, I just hung up the phone, and if I continued, the two of us would definitely quarrel.
I also decided to give my parents the festival fee every Spring Festival in the future, and I decided that I would not discuss this matter with my sister again.
epilogue
Xiao Miao and her sister will give their parents a holiday fee every year before the Chinese New Year, which is also the filial piety of their sisters, but the elder sister asks her sister to give her the amount of money she set, which is a bit unreasonable.
And Xiao Miao also took into account her sister's feelings in previous years, so she gave the money set by her sister, but this year she gave it first, and her sister felt that Xiao Miao didn't care about her feelings and was showing off to her.
In fact, this is Xiao Miao's sister thinking too much, in this case, Xiao Miao wants to give more, and also wants her parents to buy two new clothes and buy a little more New Year's goods, which is her intention.
In fact, Xiao Miao's sister can come according to her actual situation, she doesn't need to be unified with her sister, I believe that her parents won't say anything, and doing so will not hurt her sister's feelings.
Of course, Xiao Miao can also follow her sister's original way, but just like this, Xiao Miao will definitely complain in her heart.
Therefore, if there are many brothers and sisters in the family, then when giving it to parents, you really have to communicate well.
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