Wen Weiyun
Narrator: Wu Yilin
My surname is Wu, and I was doing well until I was 65 years old, but when I was 65 years old, my life took an emergency turn.
My wife and I have a son, and we have cultivated him all the way, and later supported his small family, and my son and daughter-in-law are also very grateful to us.
After his wife retired, he wholeheartedly helped take care of his grandson, his son and daughter-in-law went to work with peace of mind, and his son and daughter-in-law came back for dinner on weekends.
At that time, I often told my wife that as long as we were in good health, we would not worry about anything, we would try our best to take care of ourselves if we could take care of ourselves, and we would not worry about our son living close to us.
Later, when my grandson went to school and we were free, we often traveled.
We have been to many cities all over the world, and this kind of life makes us happy physically and mentally.
But God didn't fulfill people's wishes, my wife suddenly fainted one night, and when she was sent to the hospital for rescue, she left me forever.
I was devastated that my wife had not been rescued, and at the same time I felt lost about my future life.
In the past, as long as my wife was there, I was very down-to-earth.
She takes care of her life, she also cooks delicious meals, no matter how big or small, we have a discussion, and the days are relaxed and peaceful, but she is gone, but I don't know what to do anymore.
My son saw that I was sad and wanted to take me to live with him, but I refused.
I don't want to trouble my sons, they have to be busy with work and children, and I will cause trouble for them when I go.
I tried to take care of myself, and I watched the introduction on TV and I also went to buy vegetables and came back to cook, but the food was not delicious after a long time, so I had no choice but to go downstairs to buy myself two steamed buns.
In the past, when my wife was still there, I went downstairs for a walk, and I went back to eat when the time was almost up, but now even if I go down to chat with people, I am also absent-minded, as long as I think of going back to a cold home, no one cares if I have food to eat, I feel uncomfortable.
It's strange to say, after my wife left, I didn't like to go downstairs to talk to someone, so I stayed by myself when I had nothing to do, and my heart became more and more withdrawn.
Because I was in a bad mood and my health was not good, I lost a lot of weight in less than half a year, and my son repeated the same words every time he came back, asking me to go and live, and I agreed when I thought about it.
When I came to my son's house, my son and daughter-in-law treated me very well.
My daughter-in-law gave me a south-facing room and covered my bed with a soft and thick mattress, and the first night I lay on the bed tossing and turning and couldn't sleep, and my heart was excited and complicated.
As it turned out, moving in with my son at my age still bothered them.
There are clear differences in the way we eat and live our lives.
I didn't sleep well, so I woke up at 4 a.m., and if I continued to lie down, my back hurt, and I had to get up.
I also tried to be quiet, but my daughter-in-law still felt that I disturbed her rest, and I also knew that their young people worked hard during the day, so I couldn't keep out of the room, but after a long time, I felt very wronged.
Because I always go to the toilet at night, and the sound of frequent flushing, my daughter-in-law feels that she can't sleep well.
Eating too, I'm used to eating early in the evening, and I can't digest it when I eat late.
But my son and daughter-in-law's family eat very late, and I am embarrassed to say that I can't stand it when I wait until half past seven to eat every day.
Because of the different living habits, my daughter-in-law still had a lot of opinions about me later.
It is said that it is not fragrant to live for a long time, and I also understand this truth.
I didn't want my son and daughter-in-law to quarrel because of me, so I proposed to go back to my own house, and this time my son readily agreed.
Because I was still lonely at home, I later went to a nursing home.
At that time, I thought that as long as I paid the money, I would have food and a bed to sleep, and it would be full of peers and talkers.
But I thought too simply, and living in it wasn't like that.
During the day, there were sleepy old people in the room and in the corridor, and most of them didn't talk much, just watched, and didn't know what they were looking at.
At night, the big brother who was in the same room with me seemed to have some amnesia.
From time to time he asked me who I was, and he wanted to kick me out, and he kept talking and making loud noises when he slept at night, and I couldn't sleep well all night.
In the morning, when I went out and went back to my room, I saw him rummaging through my cupboard, my clothes were still on him, I said it was mine, he still didn't believe it and wanted to beat me, I was frightened and hurriedly called the staff.
The people inside seemed to be surprised, and after a few words, they left.
I wanted to change rooms, but the management refused, and this big brother later pooped in my basin, and I couldn't bear it.
I called my son to help me solve the problem.
My son was at work at the time, and he didn't have a good time off work, and when he heard me call him because of this, he didn't speak very well to me.
As a result of the discussion, they refused to help me change the room, and the other party said that if I wanted a single room, the cost would be almost doubled, and I was very angry and offered to go home.
My son helped me with the formalities, sorted my luggage, and got angry at me for the first time in the car.
The son blamed me for not understanding him, making trouble for him, and said that he was reprimanded by the supervisor for taking leave.
He always asked me to be considerate of him, and when he was excited, he said it very loudly, and I was like a child in the car, and he was so disciplined that I didn't dare to say a word.
In fact, I also know that I am old, and I can't do everything by myself like in the past, and my son has gradually become impatient from the beginning of filial piety, which is inevitable.
I felt so bad that the two generations couldn't understand each other, and I wondered why I didn't go with my wife.
My son sent me home and left, and I sat on the sofa with my head bored, unable to react for a long time.
In the evening, I got up to go downstairs to buy steamed buns, and our neighbor on the ground floor, Sister Qin, came up.
Aunt Qin brought me a bowl of braised pork, and when she learned that I was going downstairs to buy steamed buns, she said she didn't need to go, and when she saw that I didn't cook, she hurried down again.
When I came up again, I brought a bowl of fragrant white rice and a bowl of green vegetables, and she asked me to eat first.
During the meal, Sister Qin asked me some words, and I knew the purpose of her coming.
She knew that I had been living in a nursing home for more than a month, and when she saw me coming back suddenly, she wanted to inquire about the real situation of the nursing home.
I was very hungry at the time, and when I saw the braised pork, I ate several pieces in succession, and Sister Qin said with a smile:
Old Wu, slow down, it's not enough for me downstairs.
Sister Qin said that since her daughter got married, she has always had a concern.
She didn't want to trouble her daughter and son-in-law, and she didn't want to burden the children, so she wanted to find a nursing home to live in after the New Year, so that the children could go and see as long as they were free.
Hearing Sister Qin say this, I was anxious and hurriedly said: Don't go, don't go.
I told Sister Qin everything I saw and experienced, and Sister Qin stopped talking.
I know that she is scared, she must be very complicated in her heart, and she doesn't want to drag down her children, and she feels that she should arrange for herself in advance.
Looking at this bowl of braised pork that I ate almost the same, I suddenly had an idea, and later I told Sister Qin, and she agreed.
Since then, the two of us have started to officially support each other.
This year is already in its third year, and both of us think we are having a good time.
Sister Qin is a person who is good at housework, cooking is delicious, people are also diligent, every day I accompany her to the vegetable market to buy vegetables, I have a lot of strength to help her carry vegetables, to give her a hand at home, she cooks the food and we eat together.
We also do housework together, we make an appointment to pay half of the living expenses, this money is not only for food expenses, occasionally we will go out to the park, go to the suburbs to play, Sister Qin can't use a smartphone, and I will use it, our travel is also much more convenient.
Last time, when Sister Qin was sick, she didn't contact her daughter, so I accompanied her.
I made an appointment for her, took her for examination, waited for the results, and accompanied her to get the medicine.
It took most of the day from beginning to end, and when I got home, Sister Qin still told me, it's good to have you, otherwise I would have to let my daughter take leave to accompany me, and she will have to take another day off, and it is indeed difficult for the children.
In the past two years, Sister Qin and I have not only been companions in life, but also spiritual partners.
We are all the same age, we will not dislike each other, we will not dislike each other's slow walking, slow reactions, we will not dislike each other's lack of clarity, but more mutual understanding and mutual tolerance.
We do chores together, take care of each other, travel together when we're bored, help each other when we're sick, and we can get things done even when our children aren't around.
Sister Qin and I have already agreed that even if we can't take care of ourselves when we are old in the future, we will not go to the nursing home, the big deal is that we will hire a part-time worker to help us cook and wash clothes, and we will talk together and accompany each other, so the quality of life is much stronger than going to a nursing home.
It is said that it is difficult to provide for the elderly, we are all parents of only children, and the children are under great pressure, and I also understand, but we are indeed old, not as independent as in the past, and we can't accept the kind of caregiver without temperature in the nursing home.
Now that I have found this way of providing for the elderly, Sister Qin and I are very satisfied.
I call it mutual pension, this way does not need to spend too much money, but also can live in their own home, do not trouble the children at the same time, we also have a sense of belonging in our hearts, this way of life is what we elderly want most.
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