I have a female colleague named Xiaomei, who is 42 years old this year and lives alone with her son.
Xiaomei turned out to have a happy family.
She and her husband are high school classmates, and after getting married, the two of them went to Shenzhen to work hard, Xiaomei's husband is very capable, and within a few years, he has his own company in Shenzhen.
After making money, I bought a house and a car in Shenzhen.
At that time, the relationship between the two was very good, there were no worries, they spent money when they had money, and they lived a good life for a few years.
The good times didn't last long, and then the company went bankrupt and owed a lot of debts, and all the houses and cars were sold, and they couldn't pay off the debts.
At that time, Xiaomei was pregnant, and in order to save money and have children, Xiaomei returned to her native country mother-in-law's house.
The child was born, but there were cracks in the relationship between Xiaomei and her mother-in-law.
One can't see the other, and it's noisy every day.
She can't stay in her mother-in-law's house anymore.
So, Xiaomei took the child back to her parents' house.
However, my parents' parents are old and still rely on my brother and sister-in-law to support them. Although my brother and sister-in-law are rich and live in their parents' house temporarily, my brother and sister-in-law don't say anything about their mother and son, but she is embarrassed to live in her parents' house for a long time.
He asked her husband for money, but her husband turned a blind eye to her and the child.
As soon as she asked for money, her husband said, "I am in debt, I can't even support myself, how can I have money for you."
As a last resort, Xiaomei rented a small house and found a handicraft job, doing handicrafts while taking care of the children.
The salary for doing handicrafts is very low, and her hands often hurt, so she silently endured everything for the sake of her children.
Seven or eight years have passed, and she thought that her husband had paid off the accounts and came back to take care of their mother and son, but after so many years, her husband still rarely asked about their mother and son.
One year, her son was sick during the Spring Festival, and she really had no money, so she asked her son to call his father.
She couldn't get the money, she thought, her son is so old, he hasn't seen his son a few times, for his son's sake, even if he doesn't care about her, he should care about his own son.
Who knows, he gave his son 1,000 yuan.
From then on, as soon as he called, he hung up, as if he was afraid to ask him for money again.
The marriage of the two has come to an end.
It's just that Xiaomei is unwilling to face this unhappy marriage.
When her son was eight years old, Xiaomei went to the industrial park to find a job, although it was hard, at least it was higher than the manual salary.
Thinking of the ups and downs over the years, Xiaomei has been disheartened.
In the end, Xiaomei and her husband divorced.
Recently, a colleague discovered that Xiao Chen and Xiao Mei from the company next door were in love.
Xiao Chen and Xiao Mei are of the same age, divorced, and have a daughter about the same age as Xiao Mei.
Xiaomei looked happy and satisfied.
Soon the two of them reached the point of talking about marriage.
Xiao Chen has a house, but he also has a mortgage, and the economy is not very rich.
Xiaomei thought, it's all the second marriage, the wedding will be exempted, save a sum of money, give the two children a future study, and get the marriage certificate first.
Although the parents at home are old, they are very open-minded, saying that you are all adults, and you decide your own affairs, we don't care, as long as the two of you live happily in the future.
However, the brother and sister-in-law did not agree, and insisted that they hold a banquet first and then get a marriage certificate.
The reason is: although it is a second marriage, the rules of marriage and the wedding must not be missing, otherwise, people will say that a woman ran away with a man without knowing it.
If the two of them have a good life in the future, they don't have to say, if they don't have a good time and Xiaomei is bullied by her mother-in-law's family, what should I do?
Isn't that ridiculed?
If the banquet is held to let everyone know that she is married again, and she is justifiably married, if her in-laws are in trouble in the future, her brother and sister-in-law will come forward to support her.
If she doesn't hold a banquet, how can her brother and sister-in-law support her?
What's even more outrageous is that her colleagues all knew, and persuaded her one by one to hold a banquet first, and then get a certificate, saying that she was a woman who had suffered a loss and could not suffer a second loss.
Everyone in the troublesome company knew about it, and everyone came to persuade her intentionally or unintentionally.
It's really that the emperor is not in a hurry, and he is in a hurry to die of a eunuch.
However, Xiao Chen's meaning is the same as Xiaomei, the two of them have a good relationship, they don't care if they have a banquet or not, they are both middle-aged, and it is more practical to save some money to plan for their future life. The banquet is for others to see, and you have to live your own life.
Xiaomei felt that her brother and sister-in-law and Xiao Chen had their own reasons.
Therefore, Xiaomei is very entangled, she listens to her brother and sister-in-law and colleagues, she must hold a banquet and leave a way back for herself?
Or get the certificate, don't care what others say and think, don't hold a banquet, just invite the close relatives of the two families to get together, and simply eat a meal, which is more realistic?
