Is there a way to make the husband and wife harmonious and the children happy, the answer is below.
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Many parents may be puzzled, isn't the child's excellence and happiness his own efforts, how can it have anything to do with husband and wife?
The CCTV documentary "Mirror" tells the true stories of 6 pairs of children in families, telling us that there is often a problem family behind the "problem children", and many problem families are caused by the problems of the relationship between husband and wife.
Parents are the first teachers of children, and what they say and do is like a projector in the child's heart, affecting his growth.
Mr. Yang Jiang said: "Marriage is not terrible, the worst is nothing more than divorce, what is really terrible is that I got married, found that I couldn't afford to leave, and I could only spend my life in this marriage that I wanted to escape but couldn't escape."
If you let go of the child, the child's life will be ruined, and if you pick up the child, the mother's life will be ruined, so she would rather destroy herself than the child's life;
In a child's world, anyone can leave, but not the mother.
A mother, a tear, a lifetime of responsibility, my child is not yet full-fledged, even if I am full of holes, I have to protect him, now he is my weakness, and he will definitely be my armor in the future.
"For the sake of children", how heavy these four words are.
Professor Li Meijin, an expert in parent-child education, once said: The quality of the relationship between husband and wife in marriage will directly affect the child's life.
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Marriage is a long process, and it is very important for two people to fall in love and marry each other from meeting and knowing each other to getting married for the rest of their lives.
Every husband and wife relationship has to go through four stages, and they can be happy for a lifetime
The four stages of a marital relationship:
1. Expectation - love period;
2. Disappointment, despair - divorce and separation
3. Acceptance - people reach middle age, adaptation period
4. Appreciate each other - people will be in each other's old age
Both men and women, from the beginning of dating to the stage of love, is a good period of expectation.
At that time, there was no economic pressure, no child raising, only two carefree people in the world, you and I were willing to communicate, each other saw the advantages, each other would have a tolerant and curious heart for each other, so I wanted to enter the marriage with happy expectations.
But once you get married and have children, from lovers to relatives, the sense of distance disappears, and there are more shortcomings and various incompetences in the eyes of the other party, plus the burden of children, and economic pressure, so complaints arise, and the trivial matters of pots and pans cause chickens and dogs to jump, and the marriage has entered a period of disappointment and despair of the 7-year itch.
Benjamin Franklin said: Open your eyes before you get married, and open one eye and close the other eye after you get married.
As the children grow up, the husband and wife grow up and have economic prosperity, and they have reached the middle age of life, if you get through it, you can get each other's acceptance, accept each other's imperfections, and tolerate each other in their own growth, and run a family.
But in reality, many couples have not survived, and the break that is going to hurt not only their children, but also themselves.
The happiest thing in marriage is that the lover who grows old with him is still the one he originally chose.
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So how to deal with the relationship between husband and wife, to influence the children, and make the family happy?
Husband and wife get along with each other and do a good job of these four "same" magic weapons, so that children can be happy and happy, and the family can be happy!
(1) Same frequency
The so-called same frequency means that the husband and wife should do something meaningful together in their busy schedules, just like going to the movies together in love, drinking coffee together, and holding hands to go for a walk in a place where they once had good memories.
(2) Sameness
To put it simply, it is empathy, when there is a disagreement, think about it from the other party's point of view, instead of being stubborn, only think that you are right, even if the other party is wrong, you must have a reasonable and forgiving demeanor, and respect each other. In short, it is to speak and think from the other person's point of view.
In terms of empathy, women should show weakness, give their husbands face and a sense of worship, full of kind words, and eyes full of appreciation.
(3) Classmates
Husband and wife study together, run the family as a company, and the husband and wife are the two shareholders of the company, and the goal is to educate children and a happy family, and to achieve this, in addition to making money, it is through mutual learning to promote.
(4) Comrade
That is, husband and wife must have common aspirations, so that their hearts can lean to one side, work together, make the company "listed", and cultivate the people in the company - children to be excellent.
People's hearts change hearts, no matter what stage they are, get along with each other with a first-love mentality, and they are not only happy with their children's families, but also with themselves.
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