In the cultural outlook of Chinese, "Shun" has always been a special existence.
In terms of cultivation, people pay attention to "gentlemen to Shunde". It means that only by being cautious of one's own virtue and constantly cultivating oneself can one become a noble person.
In terms of behavior, the ancients believed that "if the name is not right, the words will not be good, and if the words are not good, the things will not be done". First of all, you must win the trust of others in order to get things done.
Knowing how to obey and learning to obey is the foundation of unwritten life.
Wishing for a smooth life, looking forward to a smooth career, and praying for smooth sailing are good wishes from beginning to end.
It can be said that "Shun" is a very important part of people's values, outlook on life and outlook on development.
And the essence of "Shun" is also pointed out: everyone wants to "Shun", but Shun is not in heaven, not in God, not in hexagrams, in fact, it lies in ourselves.
To sum up, a person should practice these three shuns in his life: the heart is smooth, the words are smooth, and the things are smooth.
Only when we cultivate these things can we have a beautiful life and achieve something.
01
Smooth heart
Learn to cultivate and control yourself
The ancients said: Life in the world, unsatisfactory things nine times out of ten.
In the face of these unpleasant people and things, different attitudes often lead to different results.
Controlling one's heart and controlling one's emotions directly affects people's happiness index and is also related to the quality of life.
Zhuangzi once said: "Those who respect it but do not like it, and insult it but do not get angry, only those who are in harmony with heaven are the same." ”
It means that when things are good, don't be ecstatic, don't be angry when you are insulted, and only those who know how to be in harmony with heaven and earth will live with ease.
Shunxin means being able to control and grasp oneself, not being irritable, not discouraged, not sad, not retreating, and achieving a state of pampering and humiliation, and being consistent.
In the era of Wu Zetian in the Tang Dynasty, there was a prime minister named Lou Shide who had this realm.
Someone once scolded him, but he ignored it.
The younger brother was promoted, and he said to his younger brother: "We brothers, one prime minister and one assassin, will definitely be jealous."
If someone spits on their faces, we don't wipe them dry and leave, but smile and wait for the spit to dry itself. ”
Later, Lou Shide recommended Di Renjie. Di Ren didn't know the inside story, and often disdained him, saying that he was too Buddhist in front of the empress.
The empress admired Lou Shide very much, and couldn't help but say to Di Renjie: "Do you know who recommended you?
Di Renjie was ashamed when he heard this, and then he knew that Lou Shide had a noble character, and he admired it since then.
With "Shun Xin", in the era of rampant cool officials and purge of officials, Lou Shide not only was not punished, but also died right, but also preserved the future of the entire family.
If you practice your mind well and have a calm mind, you will not struggle with trivial matters, you will not struggle with setbacks, and you will not struggle with unhappiness.
If you have no external objects in your heart and see openly, the road of life will become wider and wider.
Life is also smooth, and life is naturally full of blessings.
02
Speak well
Harmony is precious, everywhere is precious
The world we live in is a human world. Socialize with peopleConnecting with people, happening all the time.
The second thing to learn is to have fewer excuses when encountering problems, to be humble to others, and to be kind in words.
Have good intentions, say good things, and do a good job of people, and everything will go smoothly.
In the Book of Songs, Daya, and Ban, it is said: "The people are harmonious when the words are harmonious, and the words are beautiful, and the people are peaceful." ”
It means that the monarch governs the country macroscopically, and only when he respects the people in words can he make people submit.
Xunzi also pointed out the following three points from the details:
"Whoever comes to consult should be polite and respectful, so that you can talk to him about moral methods;
Only when the words are gentle can we talk to him about moral order;
Only by being willing to listen can you talk to him about the essence of morality. ”
You see, people who are obedient always get special favor and opportunities.
The Soviet psychologist Davedova did an experiment.
He selected four groups of people with different personalities to go to the theater, and made them all encounter such a situation, 15 minutes late, unable to enter the theater.
The staff stopped them and said, "Sir, I'm sorry, you're 15 minutes late, you can't enter so as not to disturb others." ”
According to everyone's reactions, there are four results.
The first type of people quarreled with the staff. The staff was more resolute in preventing him from entering, and forced him to evacuate, so naturally he didn't see the play.
The second type of person did not argue with the staff, and found another way to enter the theater and continue to see the show.
The third type of person comforted himself, found a snack shop, sat down and waited for the intermission to re-enter, which also became a play.
The fourth type of person keeps complaining about himself, and when he comes home, he transmits his anger to his family, so the family fights-for-tat, and everyone is unhappy.
Different ways of doing things have different consequences.
A Master once said, "What you say is actually what others see as you. Everyone wants to change their fate, and to speak well is to change their fate. ”
People who are kind in speech and in a good mood not only minimize the risk of rebound, but often end up unexpectedly achieving their goals.
Good words are warm in three springs, and bad words are hurtful and cold in June.
Speak well, have love in your heart, and be virtuous in your mouth, which is the watch of goodwill in the world.
Words are the voice of the heart, rather than making people disgusted when they hear it, it is better to say it well, so that people feel like a spring breeze.
03
All goes well
The vision of the top is to move with the times
In the "Chronicles of the Three Kingdoms", it is said: "The sage always moves with the times, and the wise man will be born according to the opportunity." ”
Smart people have a top-level vision and know how to follow the trend.
They have insight into destiny that part of it can be grasped by themselves, and part of it is created by providence. What can be grasped is obtained, and what is unable to be reversed is lost without force.
According to different situations, adjust your attitude and methods towards people or things, "plan for the time to move", and grasp the initiative.
Xue Baochai in "Dream of Red Mansions", Cao Gongdu gave her the word "time" because she knew how things would go smoothly and move with the times.
She said, "The good wind sent me up to the clouds with its strength." ”
Always and everywhere, Baochai does not force it.
The family situation is decaying, and her food and clothing are halved by herself, and they are all half-new and not old.
Jin Chuan died, Mrs. Wang asked her for advice, and she quickly saw from the chaos that people can't be resurrected after death, so it is better to comfort her family.
So, take out her clothes and give them to Jin Chuan, and I don't mind.
Baochai sees deeply and clearly.
Always and everywhere, to understand the needs of others.
For example, give Daiyu bird's nest with snowflake candy;
gave Xiangyun Zhang Luo a crab feast, regardless of money;
saw Xing Xiuyan's thin clothes and knew that she was wearing winter clothes......
Only those who conform to the way of heaven can achieve humanity. Only those who adapt to the times can seek innovation and change.
Life is a curve, no one's life is smooth sailing, a turn, is a different kind of sky.
If you complain about God's injustice and fate, you will never be able to get up.
Sanshun is about heaven and earth, about reason, about you and me.
In this era, materialism is rampant and there are many temptations.
Only by cultivating can we uphold something, uphold it, and pursue it.
Shun keeps us at peace, broad-minded, and clear-minded, and practices our hearts.
Speech makes us speak kindly, speak kindly, and be gentle and moderate, complementing our behavior.
Things go smoothly so that we can do things with a spectrum, be calm in the face of things, broaden our horizons, and achieve our future.
Because of the return to calm, omitting impetuousness, can light up the personality life.
Only by restoring purity and omitting hypocrisy can we create a satisfying life.
Source: Classical Book City