My grandmother died at the age of 90.
The three sons cried heartbreakingly one by one, and the three daughters-in-law were not far behind, their noses were full of tears, their howling voices were speechless, and they even had to be supported when they walked.
The onlookers all praised: "Filial sons and daughters-in-law are just like that." ”
In the midst of the mourning crowd, my only aunt seemed a little out of place, her face was so indifferent that she could hardly hear her crying.
There was a female elder in the family who couldn't stand it anymore, and she secretly said to her aunt: "Lan, why don't you let go of your voice and cry when your mother is gone, don't you make people see jokes, hurry up and cry loudly." ”
My aunt choked her: "Why are you crying, I'm relieved when my mother is gone, are those who cry and can't stand up to true filial piety?"
The elder choked and turned to whisper to the others.
My aunt was actually a miserable person, she was 35 years old when her husband left, and her two children were 12 years old and 8 years old.
Originally, my aunt didn't have a mother-in-law, and after her husband left, she could only take her two children to live with her father-in-law.
finally survived until his daughter joined the work, his son finished high school, and his father-in-law died after a serious illness because of perennial fatigue.
My aunt's concubine is a powerful woman, and when her father-in-law was alive, she didn't dare to make too many mistakes, and her father-in-law revealed her true form as soon as she closed her eyes.
She wanted to occupy all the property, but fortunately, her aunt's maiden family was not easy to mess with, and her aunt's three younger brothers took the guys and went to her aunt's house.
When the other party saw this posture, he could only take a step back and give his aunt the house where his father-in-law lived before his death, and the rest had to leave.
During her aunt's widowhood, many people asked her to find another family to live with, after all, she was still young and her days were still long.
My aunt actually thought about this step, but when the other party heard that she had two children, she immediately shook her head and refused, or proposed to let my aunt keep the children and marry alone.
The two children are the lifeblood of her aunt, and she can't say anything about leaving them behind and running away to marry herself, she can't do such a thing.
In this way, my aunt broke off the idea of remarrying, and survived from her thirties to her fifties, until her daughter got married and had children, and her son joined the work.
I thought my aunt could breathe a sigh of relief, but I didn't expect her to spend nearly ten years on her mother again.
Grandma has a total of four children, my aunt is the eldest, and then my father, second uncle and younger uncle, grandma has always been patriarchal, and my aunt's status in the family is humble and she has no right to speak.
After the death of her uncle, her aunt had to rely on her mother's family for everything, so her status was lower, although she was the eldest sister, but her younger brothers did not respect her, and often shouted at her when she was in a bad mood.
But only for their own people, if outsiders bully their aunt, then their father will never agree, and they have to theorize.
My aunt is not stupid, so occasionally when my father and uncle murder her, she laughs it off and never quarrels with them.
Grandma has always been physically strong and can take care of herself, her grandfather died early, and she has been widowed all her life, usually living alone.
Only during the Chinese New Year, her father and uncle would take turns to take her home, and after the fifteenth day of the first lunar month, her grandmother would return to her house.
Every year, it has become a habit for everyone.
But when my grandmother was 80 years old, she suddenly fell and broke her lower leg, and she could barely walk on crutches for a while after recuperating in bed for more than half a year.
Although she can move, it is far worse than before, especially since she can't cook by herself, and eating and drinking has become a big problem.
The father began to discuss countermeasures, the first thing to solve the problem of grandma's life, they first considered taking grandma into their own care, the family for a month.
But this proposal was rejected by the second aunt and the younger aunt, who said that her family was small, and she couldn't live at home with an old man.
The sister-in-law said: "I still have to go to work and take care of two children, how can I have the energy to take care of an old man in his 80s, it is better to send it to a nursing home, and we will all share the cost." ”
It is also unrealistic to send a nursing home, one is that three sons are afraid of laughing at the nursing home, and the second is that the second aunt is unwilling to pay this fee.
The second aunt means that she lives close, and when it comes to her round, she delivers food every day, and as for others, she will find her own way to solve it.
For various reasons, my house and my uncle's house are the farthest away from my grandmother's house, and it is two hours away by car, so it is unrealistic to deliver food every day.
However, the second aunt has already expressed her position, and my father and my uncle can only find their own way, and the two of them discussed whether it was really possible to find a nanny.
The little sister-in-law's brain turned quickly, and she came up with an idea and said: "I still need to hire a nanny, our sister is not a ready-made, it is better to find someone else than to find her." ”
In the end, my dad and my uncle decided to give my aunt 1,500 yuan a month each, so that she could help take care of my grandmother and cook and laundry for her.
Grandma was not happy when she heard this, she said: "Isn't it a natural thing for my daughter to take care of the mother, how can I still ask for money from my younger brothers, it's just too unusual." ”
My mother counted down my grandmother, saying that providing for the elderly is the obligation of being a son, and my aunt is obliged to take care of her, but it is not easy for her, and it is reasonable for her to contribute to her sons.
The eldest daughter-in-law spoke, and the grandmother had to shut up.
My aunt did not refuse, but accepted this task, and from then on began her retirement life, which was ten years long.
At first, my grandmother was able to get up and walk on crutches, but after a year, let alone walking, she couldn't even stand up.
It didn't take long for my grandmother to collapse on the bed and couldn't take care of herself, and she had to solve it in bed for eating, drinking, and Lazar, which made my aunt miserable.
In the past, after my aunt cooked for my grandmother, I could go to do something else, but after my grandmother was paralyzed, my aunt couldn't go anywhere.
She waited at her grandmother's house every step of the way.
Grandma always felt that my aunt should take good care of my father and uncle's pension money, so it was unceremonious to arouse my aunt.
One moment she pulled, one moment peed, one moment she was hungry, another moment she was thirsty, and during the day she fell asleep, and at night she kept tossing.
My aunt was exhausted by the toss, and her original weight of more than 140 pounds was later reduced to less than 100 pounds, and her gray hair was increasing day by day.
During this period, my father and uncle also felt a little sorry for my aunt, but what could they do except let her take care of it, and then the two discussed, and the original 1,500 yuan per month rose to 2,000 yuan.
Grandma was even more distressed, she said when she met people: "My son is filial, give his daughter a salary of 2,000 yuan a month, let her take care of me, I said that my daughter should not ask for this money, it is natural for her to support the elderly." ”
Not only that, but grandma also complained to the uncle, saying that the aunt was not attentive, and she didn't change a new one when the diapers were full, and the sheets were smelly, and she didn't change them.
The uncle angrily found his aunt and counted her down, and the aunt was so angry and anxious that she ran back to her house and cried.
Uncle took care of him at his grandmother's house for a few days, and in the first few days he was patient, but in less than a week he was annoyed.
Because grandma is so tormenting, she eats a lot, and she keeps getting up at night, and as soon as he falls asleep, grandma calls him.
The freshly washed sheets and quilt covers did not wait for them to dry, and the grandmother peed again, and the uncle realized that it was not easy for his aunt.
In such days, his aunt has passed for several years, and he can't stand taking care of his grandmother for a week, so what qualifications does he have to scold his aunt.
The uncle apologized to his aunt and left dejectedly.
At the age of 90, her grandmother, who had been paralyzed for nearly 10 years, died, and her three sons got together after dealing with the aftermath for her.
Grandma didn't leave anything behind before her death, just an old house, and the pension money in her passbook has not been touched, with more than 40,000 yuan.
There are more than 70,000 yuan collected on official business, and there is 90,000 yuan left in addition to all the expenses, and the second aunt said: "This is a coincidence, the three sons share 30,000 yuan each, and no one suffers." ”
As for grandma's old house, it is just a dilapidated house, and it is worthless even if it is sold, so it is regarded as a real estate.
The second uncle and the younger uncle also felt that it was natural for one person to share 30,000 yuan, but my mother suddenly said: "You have one less person." ”
The second aunt was stunned for a moment and asked: "Who else, sister-in-law, isn't it just his three brothers, why is there one less person, who do you say?" ”
My mother said, "This money should be divided into four parts, and our sister must have a share as well." ”
The second aunt was anxious, stood up and said loudly: "Why, she is a daughter, it is the water that was spilled, this money has nothing to do with her, I don't agree to give it to her." ”
My mother said unhurriedly: "The second family, our mother has been paralyzed in bed for all these years, who is serving, you just started to say that you will send food, but then it will only be delivered once in two days, and our sister will not send it directly after taking care of it, if it is not for our sister, can we live with peace of mind, we must be a man with conscience, and we can't just want to be cheap and not suffer losses." ”
The second aunt blushed all of a sudden and stopped talking.
Indeed, my father and uncle each gave my aunt 2,000 yuan a month, but the second aunt begged for a trick, and said that she would deliver food, and behind her back, she asked my aunt to take care of my grandmother for her.
That night, my father, second uncle, and younger uncle went to my aunt's house with 60,000 yuan, and they unanimously decided that each person would only share 10,000 yuan, and the rest would be given to my aunt.
The eldest sister is like a mother, and the grandmother has passed away, and the aunt will be their elder in the future, and family affection is precious and should not be measured by money.
(Source: Records & Transmission)