In our daily life, we can often see such a scene: parents take the trouble to tell their children, from learning to life, everything is too small. However, can this frequent nagging really help children become self-disciplined?
The limitations of nagging
Weaken your child's self-perception: Too much external evaluation can affect your child's self-perception and make them doubt their abilities.
Suppressing children's motivation to grow: When children feel excessive attention and expectations from their parents, they may feel stressed, which can affect their motivation to grow.
Reduce your child's autonomy: Too much nagging may make your child dependent and reduce their autonomy.
The power of silence
Give your child space: Giving your child space to think and act independently can help develop self-discipline.
Encouragement rather than blame: Give encouragement and support instead of blaming and criticizing your child when they try something new or encounter difficulties.
Exemplar: Parents' own behavior is the best example for their children. By demonstrating self-disciplined behavior, children are subtly influenced.
The changing role of parents
From Leader to Facilitator: The role of parents should change from that of a leader to a facilitator, helping children discover their interests and goals.
Develop your child's sense of responsibility: Help your child develop a sense of responsibility by giving them appropriate responsibilities and tasks, which will help them develop self-discipline.
Building trusting relationships: Building a trusting relationship with your child and making them feel trusted and supported by their parents can help them build self-confidence and self-discipline.
Too much nagging does not help children build self-discipline, but can weaken their self-awareness, motivation and autonomy. Conversely, with appropriate silence and role shifting, parents can better guide their children and help them build self-discipline. Therefore, parents should learn to "shut up" at the right time and let their children grow up in the appropriate space and trust, which will be more conducive to the development of their self-discipline ability.