Affection is a matter of two people, but marriage is a matter of two families.
You can be willful when you fall in love, but you must keep your eyes open when you get married!
Xiao Liu is an ordinary office worker who has been living with her boyfriend for two years after graduation.
During the period of cohabitation, although there were quarrels, they generally got along quite well, and they also passed the run-in period.
Xiao Liu felt that it was time to talk about marriage, however, her boyfriend was a little unhappy when he heard Xiao Liu mention marriage.
Seeing that she was not too young, Xiao Liu didn't want to drag it out any longer, and under her repeated requests, her boyfriend finally relented, and the two arranged for their parents to meet.
It's just that Xiao Liu would never have thought that because of this meeting, she was completely dead to her boyfriend.
It turned out that Xiao Liu's parents proposed to ask for a dowry of 60,000 yuan, and they would also subsidize a little more as a dowry to bring back.
Unexpectedly, the man's parents immediately became anxious when they heard this:
"We won't pay a penny, you who have slept with my son for a few years, what kind of cheek do you have to ask our family for a bride price?"
This kind of saying is ugly, doesn't it mean: "You are all asleep by my son, and you still want a bride price?"
As soon as these words came out, her anger suddenly dropped to freezing, and Xiao Liu looked at her silent boyfriend on the side, she was completely dead to this relationship.
After coming back to his senses, Xiao Liu scolded back domineeringly: "In a family like yours, even if you give money, I won't marry!"
After saying that, she left with her parents, and this relationship came to an end.
Through this incident, we have to pay attention to the topic of premarital cohabitation again.
Should you live together before marriage?
According to the data, 76.11% of men and 42.86% of women are in favor of premarital cohabitation.
As you can see from the data, the proportion of women is much lower than that of men, in fact, it is not difficult to understand, after all, the cost of trial and error for women is much greater than for men on this topic.
The same is a premarital cohabitation, and men are hardly criticized or criticized for it.
On the other hand, women, unscrupulous, unscrupulous, unclean, and other ugly words are overwhelming.
In addition to this, women also bear the risk of unwanted pregnancies.
Once you break up with your current relationship, you will have to face the situation of being minded by the other party in the next relationship.
All in all, women are at a disadvantage compared to men when it comes to premarital cohabitation.
Therefore, it is not said that women are too cautious about their feelings, because the cost they have to pay is far greater than that of men.
However, despite women's caution about premarital cohabitation, many women are still forced to consent.
The reason is simple, they are afraid that they will break up if they don't agree.
In fact, it is extremely absurd to test a relationship by whether you are willing to live together before marriage.
True love will not be broken up because one party refuses to live together before marriage.
If you really break up because of this, then you have to congratulate you, you can take this opportunity to see a person clearly.
Because this is not love, it is just possessiveness, and such feelings are not destined to last long.
In marriage, since the three views do not match, why should you lower your value to integrate and please?
There have been countless cases in real life of unequal marriages, where either the weaker party has wronged themselves or ended in tragedy.
In fact, there is no such thing as whether you should live together before marriage, only whether it is worth it or not, whether you are willing or not.
Although there are many disadvantages to living together before marriage, it has to be admitted that there are certain benefits to living together before marriage, such as:
1. Experience married life in advance and confirm whether such a life is what you want.
2. Further run in with each other and feel more intuitively whether the other party is suitable for you.
3. You can enter the role faster after marriage.
There is a couple who met through a blind date, and the two quickly established a relationship.
But the woman didn't want to get married too early, but the family was pressing, and in desperation, she and her boyfriend chose to experience a trial marriage and feel the life after marriage in advance.
However, after only a month, the woman said that she couldn't stand it and that this was not the life she wanted.
The man is very good, he cooks and does housework every day, but the woman just doesn't want to live like this for the rest of her life.
Through this premarital cohabitation, the two also understand that they are not suitable for each other, which also avoids the process of marriage and divorce, after all, this process takes a lot of time, energy and financial resources.
A female netizen in Changsha, Hunan Province shared the history of her best friend and her boyfriend's premarital cohabitation.
Girlfriends and boyfriends are in free love, and when they first met, they felt that each other's personalities and three views were very compatible, and they decided that the other party was the person they were looking for in their lives.
So, the two couldn't wait to live together, which was called paving the way for married life.
However, after actually living together, many problems begin to come to the fore.
The two often quarrel over trivial matters, such as who cooks, washes the dishes, or mops the floor, and neither of them is willing to compromise.
Every time I quarrel, I don't talk for several days, and when it's serious, my boyfriend doesn't go home at night.
It wasn't until later that her boyfriend cheated on her, returned to the rental house with her new girlfriend, and drove her girlfriend out directly, and this relationship ended here.
It can be seen that although there are disadvantages to living together before marriage, there is also a positive side, it helps us avoid an unhealthy marriage.
In short, there is no real right or wrong when it comes to premarital cohabitation, it's just that everyone's choices are different.
Whether it's worth it or not is known only to those who make the choice. Only, whatever the final choice, it should
Be true to your heart.
We can afford to love, and we can afford to lose!