In a university in Zhengzhou, Henan Province, a post-90s doctoral teacher shared with students the topic of giving and gaining in love. She said: "You want to reap love, so what have you paid?" This sentence was like a sharp knife that pierced directly into the hearts of the students.
"Pay" and "gain", these two words sound simple, but in love, they have ever-changing meanings. Some people say that love is giving, unconditional giving. It is also said that love is mutual, and it is the giving and gaining of both parties. There is nothing wrong with these two statements, because everyone's view of love is different, and everyone's love story is different.
But I personally feel that giving and gaining should not be the standard for measuring love. Love should be selfless and uncomplaining. When you fall in love with someone, you will be willing to give for them and be willing to do anything for them, not for anything in return. Of course, I'm not saying that there will be no gain if you pay, sometimes, your contribution may be exchanged for the other party's sincerity, or in exchange for your growth and harvest.
The sharing of this female doctoral teacher reminds me of a sentence in "The Little Prince": "It is the time you give that makes your roses so important." "In love, what we give is not only material and time, but also our emotions and hearts. It is precisely because of our dedication that our love has become so precious.
In today's society, this dedication is often ignored. Many people see love as a transaction, a calculation of giving and receiving. They think that if I give it, I will be reciprocated, and if it is not reciprocated, then the relationship is a failure. This kind of thinking is too narrow.
Love, this eternal topic, has always puzzled mankind. Some people think that you should get what you pay for, but this is not always the case. Sometimes, we give our all only to find that the harvest is not what we wanted. It's like the popular saying on the Internet: "If you're serious, you'll lose." ”
In love, giving does not always equal gain. We expect our efforts to be rewarded for the sincerity of the other person, but sometimes our efforts may be taken for granted and may even be devalued. When we look forward to the harvest, we find that the other party does not give us a corresponding response. At this point, should we continue to give?
In a relationship, giving and gaining are constantly changing. Sometimes one party gives more and the other party pays less, and sometimes both parties may pay equally. This change is normal because people's emotional needs and the stage they are in are constantly changing. We can't always expect an equal return at every stage, and we can't always expect the other person to give consistently.
Love is a journey, an adventure. In this journey, we may encounter surprises as well as setbacks. But no matter what comes our way, we should persevere, because we know that only in this way can we find true love.
The sharing of this female doctoral teacher made me deeply feel the beauty and complexity of love. Love requires us to manage it with our hearts, and it needs us to experience it with our hearts. Only when we truly understand love can we have true love.
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