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Yu Dan: "The power of a gentleman is always the power of action, not the power of words."
The most crucial point in judging the essence of a person is to look at what he does, not listen to what he says.
Rhetoric and beautiful words are often a smoke bomb, and the action chosen to pay is the history of the development of fate.
Whether a person is reliable or not refers to whether he is down-to-earth in doing things, rather than whether he seems to be honest.
In the Book of Changes, it is said that the sky is strong, and the gentleman is constantly striving for self-improvement.
The gentleman is not satisfied with the status quo, is not willing to be mediocre, and does not want to be muddy and do nothing, so he will choose to struggle.
Roll up your sleeves and work hard, sweat watering the flowers of happiness. This is the right way to open up a wonderful life.
Giants in language and dwarfs in action are despised by gentlemen, and such people will only become abandoned babies of the times in the end.
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Yu Dan: "Choosing a friend is actually choosing a way of life."
The vast majority of people have a strong side. This is also the root cause of "upward socialization".
Because, people want their lives to get better and better, and their lives are thriving and going to the next level.
"Zengguang Xianwen": "Friendship must win oneself, like I am better than nothing".
As the saying goes, things gather like and people are grouped.
What kind of circle, what kind of people are produced.
From another point of view, it is what kind of person and what kind of circle will enter. It is an objective fact that all human beings are products of their environment.
Xunzi said in "Persuasion", Pengsheng hemp is in the middle of the line, and he does not help but straighten. The white sand is in Nirvana, and it is black with it.
Making friends is risky, and you need to be cautious when you know each other.
Choose like-minded friends, learn from each other, help each other, make progress together, develop together, and become better and better with each other, which is the best intersection.
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Yu Dan: "The most appropriate distance is to not hurt each other, but also to keep warm."
Whether it is family, friendship, or love, it all requires a certain distance. The right distance produces beauty, and the wrong distance will make people uncomfortable, such as sitting on pins and needles.
Speaking in a measured manner, doing things in an organized manner, and making others and yourself feel comfortable is the top emotional intelligence.
This is an era when emotional intelligence is greater than IQ, and in the adult world, leaving is often silent: get along with others, get together, and disagree.
When I was a child, in the countryside in winter, we sat in a circle, talking, laughing, and having fun.
This roasting fire is also grasped at the right distance, and if you get closer, you will feel burned, and you won't feel warm when you are far away.
Any relationship, as it is!
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Yu Dan: "The reason why people are tired is because they can't let go of the shelf, can't tear face, and can't untie the complex."
Do you have such a person around you: always sighing, saying that the environment is not good, the fate is not good, the pressure is high, and the life is too tired.
Not being able to think about it, not being able to see through, not being able to hold it, and not being able to put it down is the root cause of feeling tired.
The road of life, courage ups and downs, unsatisfactory things are often eight or nine, and can be the same as the language people.
I'm used to living a good life, I can't bear any hardship, I'm used to being arrogant to others, and I can't stand it with a blank eye from others.
Can't put down the shelf, can't lose face, it's often a taboo for survival.
As the saying goes, three poor and three rich live to old age.
It is a dragon that can be big or small, and it is a worm that is only big and small.
People are under the eaves and have to bow their heads.
To what river, what shoes to take off. Don't think you're amazing, only to see mud on your feet when you get out of the water.
Reality is iron-faced and selfless, and only when you conquer survival can you be free.
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Yu Dan: "Managing your own strengths can increase the value of your life, and managing your weaknesses can devalue your life."
As the saying goes, interest is the best teacher.
Starting from interest, people will be happy and motivated to do things. If you have no interest in one thing, you will be perfunctory and have nothing to do, and it will not have any good results.
A person's greatest happiness is to do what he likes, love the people he likes, and live the way he wants.
It looks easy, but it's not that simple.
Most people are doing things they don't like, or about to die.
When your interest develops, it will become your own major, and if you achieve the ultimate in your major, you will be a great talent.
Let the profession become the capital of your own life, and you will be able to live a prosperous and colorful life.
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Yu Dan: "When people are young, they live by addition, but when they reach a certain level, they must learn to live by subtraction. If your mind is filled with gains, you will end up tired of gains."
In youth, everyone was scrappy and high-spirited. Work hard with enthusiasm.
Some people are young and ambitious, and the spring breeze is proud, and they see all the Chang'an flowers in one day. Some people were caught in a storm and sunk in the sand.
No matter what, everyone is trying to make additions, hoping for more and more wealth, hoping for a better life.
When people live to a certain level, they will suddenly find that doing subtraction is the great wisdom of life.
Subtract the redundancy, subtract everything that is unnecessary, and people can live easily and comfortably.
Therefore, there is a saying that "when people live to the extreme, they must be plain and simple". Not burdening oneself too much is the highest way to live, and it can also allow the soul to fly freely and happily.
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Yu Dan: "The free realm of life is not that human life is above all things, but that our hearts are connected with all things in the world."
Zhuangzi, who has been chic all his life, said in his "Getaway": I am alone with the spirit of heaven and earth.
People are children of nature. It is natural to be born with natural attributes.
Nature is a wordless book that contains encyclopedic knowledge and contains all the true meaning. Great wisdom people like to immerse themselves in it and linger.
We revere nature because everything is spiritual.
In the embrace of nature, we return to the basics, find the original intention, happy and comfortable, like a fairy.
It is a great sin not to love nature.
Bright sunshine, splendid mountains and rivers. The lush grasslands and the boundless sea are all our mentors and friends.
It's fun, it's fun!
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Yu Dan: "A life that is completely out of control is a failure, and a life that is completely controllable is another kind of boredom. Walking between the controllable and the uncontrollable is creation".
Napoleon said that controlling one's emotions is more powerful than controlling a city.
Maintain inner balance, and at the same time there is no lack of passion, in order to continue to innovate and develop, self-transcendence.
As the saying goes, impulse is the devil.
People who are not able to restrain themselves are actually the most likely to live a tragedy. When the temper is on fire, he is angry at every turn, and the first to burn himself is often himself.
Sensibility and rationality often need to reach a state of harmony.
If people don't have an emotional part, they lack human touch, which obviously doesn't conform to reality. People are irrational, just like a car without brakes, there must be dangers ahead.
Reasonable arrangement of the relationship between the two is an indispensable quality for a good life.
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Yu Dan: "Leisure is a kind of joy and rhythm of life. Being able to grasp the priorities and be busy without chaos is a kind of realm."
In the fast-paced world, it's an amazing talent to be able to slow yourself down.
In an environment where everyone is very impetuous and impetuous , you can be as calm as water, calm and calm, that is the top existence.
The busier your life is, the more you have to relax yourself. Life should be relaxed and moderate, or not slow.
Grasping your own rhythm, keeping your small days in order, and letting your big career go according to schedule is the standard for successful people.
We are all initially in pursuit of a happy life, a grand goal, a happy feeling.
But he was troubled by problems along the way, became impetuous, miserable, and completely contrary to expectations.
Therefore, it is necessary to take stock of yourself in time and adjust your mentality.
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Yu Dan: "Tao Yuanming guards the stringless piano and plays the music of the soul. Pleasure in life has nothing to do with material things, and true pleasure comes from the nurturing of the mind."
Picking chrysanthemums under the east fence, leisurely see the South Mountain. Perhaps it is the spiritual realm that many people dream of.
Is there an insurmountable gap between reality and the Peach Blossom Spring?
We spend our whole lives searching for ourselves.
If you find the place of your heart and the Garden of Eden of your soul, you will become comfortable and content.
If you straighten out your heart, the world will be peaceful.
The heart is smooth, everything is smooth, the heart is clear, everything is good.
As we get older, we begin to be less hungry for material things, and our lives will be easier and happier when we do subtraction.
All things are for my use, and all things do not belong to me.
Without being bound by material and spirit, people can be chic and chic, and their hearts can fly freely!
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