You can't choose when you're born, marriage sometimes really depends on luck, and the only thing that can make you live this life well is to have the ability to adjust your emotions.
If your parents love you and your loved ones accompany you, then don't make a fuss and cherish it;
If the family affection is weak and the people are not ladylike, then live for yourself;
Life is already so bitter, and there is no need to let yourself be depressed.
The wealth of life contained in "Romance of the Three Kingdoms" offers a wisdom to live in the moment for us who are busy!
What is easily obtained is often not cherished
After Cao Cao easily surrendered Zhang Xiu, he got carried away and hooked up with Zhang Xiu's aunt Zou to commit adultery.
Cao Cao's disregard for honesty and shame was actually a contempt for them, if they surrendered like this, it would be difficult to do anything, so Zhang Xiu discussed with Jia Xu to plan a "counter-water" plan.
Zhang Xiu's night attack on Cao Ying's camp almost killed Cao Cao, and this battle made Cao Cao fully realize Jia Xu's power.
When Zhang Xiu surrendered to Cao Cao again, Cao Cao didn't remember the old evils, and even if the sentence "If you have a small mistake, don't take it to heart", even if it was over, it was really a bit like you didn't know each other.
Jia Xu was able to judge the situation, collect and release it to a certain extent, protect the light and face that Cao Cao cared about the most with the golden mean, and protect himself with no fighting, no resentment, no jealousy, and no hatred. This is Jia Xu's great wisdom, and it is also the capital that he can live leisurely and chic in his later years.
Don't overestimate your place in the minds of others
Under Cao Cao, although Xu You only offered two strategies, he created almost half of the country for the Cao family, and his contribution was not insignificant.
But he overestimated his position in Cao Cao's heart, and misjudged the relationship between him and Cao Cao.
In the era of panic in the late Eastern Han Dynasty, the relationship between Cao Cao and Xu You was nothing more than the relationship between using and being used.
In Cao Cao's eyes, Xu Yu was just a tool that could help him seize the city, win power, and build hegemony.
If Xu Yu is a little more interesting and restrained, maybe Cao Cao will remember the old love and give him a good position.
But Xu Yu was arrogant and didn't take Cao Cao's dignity and authority seriously, and as a result, he was killed.
No matter how great the merit is, we must remember who is the leader, and the wise person will downplay his own merit, which is called "being wise and self-preservation"; the proud person will publicize his own merit, which is called "causing trouble."
高调做事、低调做人，不以物喜，不以己悲
Han Xin was ashamed to be with other ministers because of his pride in his achievements, and he stayed at home with illness for a long time, and was finally accused of "plotting rebellion" and his reputation was ruined.
On the contrary, Zhang Liang, another hero, not only does not claim to be miraculous, but also does not even want fame and fortune, and leaves his name in history with a "low-key" attitude, shining in the Spring and Autumn Period.
Proper performance allows leaders to see your excellence. If you use complaining and showing off as a means to win the attention of the leadership, and not putting yourself in the right position, you will be in a passive situation, which can only be said to be "self-inflicted".
Therefore, we should learn to be smart, and not be fluttering because we have achieved a little achievement.
Don't think you're important, because at the end of the day, you're probably nothing......
Do what you want to do, try boldly, set off bravely, and take positive actions to achieve the life you want.
No matter how much wind and rain you encounter, you have the ability to make yourself happy.
In the world of fireworks, everyone has regrets, today is better than yesterday, may we all be safe and happy
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