Narrator: Ms. Li, a citizen (Disclaimer: This article is not my own experience, but is based on the narrator's words)
Ever since I was a child, my parents were biased towards my older brother and didn't even want to pay for my college education, and I ended up getting through college by taking out a bank loan. On my brother's side, my parents used my money to buy him a house and a car, and I didn't have anything. A few years later, I worked my way up to the leadership of a large company and bought myself a luxury apartment. Unexpectedly, at this time, my parents came to me and said, "Good daughter, you are really capable, we will live with you in the future." ”
After listening, I sneered: "Who knows you?"
My name is Li Qianqian, I am 29 years old, and I am the manager of a large company. Some time ago, something happened that made me very annoyed, that is, my parents actually brought relatives from their hometown to our company downstairs to make trouble.
They pulled up a banner saying that I didn't want to take care of them, that I was ungrateful, that they had been frugal enough to help me finish college since I was a child, and that they had abandoned them when I was in the position of manager today.
During that time, everyone in the company was talking about me behind my back, and even my superiors found me and told me that if this matter continued to ferment, then my future would stop here.
I was very annoyed, but I couldn't do anything about it, because I had no proof, after all, I was the only one who knew, and it wasn't what they said it was.
I grew up in a rural area with an older brother who was five years older than me. My parents didn't go to school when they were young, so they were both more feudal in their thinking. Perhaps it is precisely because of this that they doted on my brother very much, and would give him anything to eat and drink, but I had nothing.
I remember one time when my father went out to town to catch a market, and when he came back, he bought two chicken legs, and I was very happy, thinking that he would give me one. I didn't expect that these two chicken legs were bought for my brother, and I yelled that I wanted to eat them too, but I was reprimanded by him: "What's the use of eating so well for a girl?"
At that time, I was still young, and I didn't dare to contradict him. My brother didn't let me go, but gloated and stuffed all the chicken legs into his mouth in front of me.
After suffering such a grievance, I was very angry in my heart, and ran out of the house crying and found my uncle. My uncle was my mother's eldest brother and he was very nice to me. After listening to my words, he comforted me and gave me another ten dollars to buy chicken drumsticks to eat. Unexpectedly, as soon as I bought the chicken legs, I was seen by my brother who came out to play, and he wanted to come and rob me, but I refused to let him go home and complain, and my father learned about it, and slapped me angrily.
This was one of the things that I remember the most, and it was at this time that I began to gradually distance myself from all of them, and I rarely even spoke at home, but no one cared about this change in me.
Until I was 11 years old, my father wanted to invest in a business and start an orchard. At that time, he borrowed 30,000 yuan from relatives and friends to buy a mountain. As a result, in less than half a year, he lost all his money and owed 100,000 yuan.
During that time, our family basically didn't eat vegetables every day, only a little rice. One night, my mother suddenly talked to my father about withdrawing me from school so that I could save money so that my brother could continue his education.
My mother reprimanded me, "What do you know about a child? My daughter will marry after all, and we will still rely on your brother in the future." And if your brother is admitted to college, you will have a light on your face, right?"
After listening to his mother's words, his brother was very happy, and he still echoed on the side: "That's it." ”
None of them wanted me to go to school, and I was very puzzled, because my academic performance was a thousand times better than my brother's, and he would only play in the village on weekdays, and even if he finished high school, he would not be able to get into college.
I was very aggrieved and ran out of the house to find my uncle again. My uncle found my mother and said to her, "Sister, you are so confused, the current situation of your family is not too bad, not to mention that in such a village, if she does not go to school as a girl, what will be the way out in the future? Is it possible to be a lifelong farmer like us?"
My uncle supported me to go to school, but after he said these words, my mother refused: "Brother, I didn't go to school when I was a child, and now I still live a good life, if we have money, we will definitely let her go to school, but now the family does not have much money, so I can only let my son go to school first." ”
They argued for a long time, but they couldn't get my parents to relent. My uncle was also very helpless, he wanted to help me, but he also knew that what my mother said was right, the family really had no money.
When he got home, he discussed it with his aunt and decided to sponsor me a sum of money every month to continue my education. That's why I was able to get into university.
When I was in college, my parents never sent me a single tuition fee, I always took out a loan from the bank or lived with the money my uncle gave me.
After graduating from university, I was fortunate to enter an Internet company, the boss is also my fellow countryman, plus my ability is quite good, he attaches great importance to me, after several years of hard work, I finally became a manager.
At that time, I had saved up a sum of money to buy myself a house, but I didn't expect that at this time, my parents came to me and told me that I should spend the money for them first, because they had raised me for more than ten years. He also claimed that if I didn't give them the money, they would go to my company to make trouble. I was so helpless that I ended up giving them the money while I stayed in a hotel.
After that, they would come to me every once in a while and ask me for money, and in just four years, I had to get at least 150,000 yuan. Unexpectedly, a few years later, they actually bought a house for my brother with their backhand.
I knew that it was bought with my money, and when I came home and had a big fight with them, my mother actually told me: "We raised you, your money should be spent by us, we can spend it as we want, that's your brother, who will you spend if you don't spend it on him?"
"I'd rather not have this money, and I don't want you to talk about me like that!", I was also very annoyed at the time, I had worked hard for many years, and I didn't get any money, but I still had to be treated like this by them.
I had a big quarrel with them that day, and my mother actually wanted to drive me away, and said that she had raised me for so many years for nothing, and she wanted to cut off the mother-daughter relationship with me.
After hearing this, I was very sad and finally left without saying a word. After that, they asked me to borrow money, and I didn't talk to them again. When they came to make trouble, I called the police. It was as if we had broken up completely, and for the next few years, we never had any more contact.
So when I got a boyfriend to marry, they didn't care about me anymore. It wasn't until last year that my boyfriend and I finally saved enough money to buy a house and bought a set of about 100 square meters of fine decoration in the city.
This community is relatively prosperous, and our lives seem to be getting better, but I didn't expect this matter to somehow reach their ears, and my parents came to the house again.
I originally thought that they were coming to ask for money as usual, but I didn't expect that this time they would smile and say to me: "Daughter, you have the ability now, you can afford to live in such a high-end house!"
"What's the matter? Are you here?", I didn't want to deal with them at the time, I just wanted to send them away quickly.
Sure enough, after I said this, they revealed their true purpose: "You see that you live so well now, it is not suitable for us to live in our hometown, it is better to move in with you, so that you can take care of her when you have a child in the future." ”
My husband was next to me at the time, and he knew exactly how my parents treated me when I was a child. After listening to what his parents said, he was very annoyed: "How did you treat Qianqian when you were a child, and now you dare to come to the door, when I married Qianqian, have you come to see it? I'm afraid that I didn't even make a phone call, and now I see that Qianqian has a good home, why did you come to the door with a thick face?"
I didn't refute what my husband said, because what he said was correct, and I looked at my parents with a cold face. They probably didn't expect us to have such an attitude, they were very stunned and stunned.
I looked behind them, and there were already bags of luggage on the floor, obviously prepared. At this moment, I suddenly had a deep sense of powerlessness in my heart, and said to them: "You have been biased towards my brother since I was a child, and now that I have grown up, I finally have my own happiness, and you have to take away this happiness, do you have parents who do this?"
After listening to my words, my husband hugged me tightly, and although he didn't say anything, he had already made his attitude clear. Seeing this, my parents no longer pretended to be and yelled at me: "We are your biological parents, you don't care who cares?"
"I'd rather you hadn't had me!", and at this moment I could no longer control my anger.
Hearing my roar, the neighbors came out of the house to see what was going on. My parents didn't save me face at all, and when they saw the neighbors, they immediately went up to them and said, "Look, this is our daughter, who has worked so hard to raise her, and now that she has the ability, she will abandon her parents." ”
"That's enough!", the husband couldn't stand it anymore and yelled at them: "Don't you just want money? Take this bank card and don't come here again!", he threw out a bank card and threw it on the ground, closing the door.
I couldn't sleep for a long time that night, thinking back to what happened when I was a child, my heart was full of grievances, helplessness and anger. I thought this was the end of the matter, but a few days later, they found my company and made a big noise downstairs.
I went downstairs to talk to them, hoping that they wouldn't get involved in my work, but they didn't care about my feelings and pushed me in front of all the staff. This incident had a great impact on me, and in the end, I couldn't bear it anymore, so I said to them: "In that case, then you can go back and prepare the materials, and we will leave this matter to the court for a verdict." ”
I decided to cut ties with them because I knew that if I didn't solve this farce quickly, they would only be more unscrupulous in the future, and maybe even more trouble. I'm so bored, but I don't know what to do.