Recently, female colleagues have always complained in the office that their parents-in-law only care about themselves everywhere, regardless of their grandchildren. She is under a lot of pressure with her baby, physically and mentally exhausted, and her husband often travels, so she can't take care of her work. The mainstream view of the people around me is "If you can't raise don't give birth, why do you rely on others if you give birth", "Parents are the first guardians of children, and others have no obligation to help you take them", "Don't help don't force it, let alone moral kidnapping, help and be more grateful".
Seeing the leopard, I can understand the main reason for the continuous decline in China's fertility rate. It's really not because of material poverty, work volumes, it's basically because the children have become a burden to the family. The people around them regard children as a burden, lest they avoid them.
In such a general environment, how to persuade the current post-00s and the future post-10s to regard giving birth to the next generation as a social responsibility and the future of the nation?
In traditional Chinese society, children are the wealth of a family, and raising children is the common responsibility of the family. In ancient times, the cruel system of joint sitting was implemented, and if the uncle saw that his nephew was not successful, he might be more anxious than his parents, because it was not good to have an unfilial son who caused trouble, and a family had to be buried together.
In this case, the child is not just anyone's child, but also needs at least three generations of immediate family members to work together to raise and educate the child to adulthood.
In ancient times, many prosperous families would set up clan schools, and provided good education for the children of the family by inviting famous teachers and Confucians. In the case of family clustering, bringing a baby is also a clan-style mutual help, and everyone will not put their own interests first. #工作带娃难抉择#
