Divorce is a painful process in many people's lives. The partners who used to be in love with each other ended up being strangers, and even turned against each other.
But in many divorce cases, some people have a strange and familiar feeling when they see their ex-husband or ex-wife after a divorce. How did this emotion come about?
This article will explore the sources and effects of this familiar feeling through a few points of analysis, and try to shed some light on those who have experienced similar situations.
1. Familiarity comes from shared experiences in the past
There was once a popular song that sang, "Because I loved, I was familiar." ”
For many divorced couples, they have spent countless days and nights together and experienced the bits and pieces of life together. These shared experiences have become indelible memories in their hearts.
When I see my ex-husband again, the beauty and pain of the past will come to mind like a movie, making people feel a strong sense of familiarity.
2. Habitual dependence and security
People tend to develop a habitual dependence in their long-term married life. Even after the divorce, this dependence does not disappear completely.
When seeing your ex-husband again, this habitual dependence and sense of security may be reactivated, creating an inexplicable sense of closeness.
3. Nostalgia for the good old days
Everyone has nostalgia for the good old days, and divorced couples are no exception. They may miss the romantic moments they once spent together, the heartwarming images of raising children together, etc.
When you see your ex-husband again, these nostalgia may be rekindled, creating a desire to go back to the past.
4. Emotional entanglements and unfinished business
Divorce does not mean that all emotional entanglements are over. Some couples are still connected after divorce because of children, property, etc.
These unfinished business may create a sense of psychological disconnection between the two parties, making for a special emotional bond when they see their ex-husband again.
5. The psychology of comparing new partners
Some people remarry after a divorce and may unconsciously compare their current with their ex when they see their ex-husband again.
This psychology of comparison may give the impression that the ex-husband is still attractive in some way, creating a mixed emotion.
6. Other factors
In addition to the above points, there are a few other factors that can contribute to that familiar feeling when you see your ex-husband again after a divorce.
For example, both parties have not completely let go of each other after the divorce, or they are not truly satisfied in the new relationship, etc.
summary
The feeling of familiarity when you see your ex-husband again may stem from a combination of shared past experiences, habitual dependence, nostalgia for the good old days, emotional entanglements, comparative psychology, and other factors.
It is necessary for people who have experienced this to re-examine their emotional and psychological needs.
Sometimes, this familiar feeling does not necessarily mean that both parties should get back together, but it can provide an opportunity for both parties to get to know each other again, deal with past entanglements, and provide a useful reference for future relationship positioning.
At the same time, you also need to be clear about your position and needs in your new relationship to avoid falling into emotional entanglements and being unable to extricate yourself.
The most important thing is to learn to cherish the present moment and take responsibility for your own happiness and inner needs, so that you can walk more calmly and firmly on the road of life.