The helplessness of parents of students who are tired of school
Watching the child change from a positive student to a problem student who causes headaches for the teacher, and even gets contaminated with all kinds of bad habits, no matter how hard you try to reason with the child, or even do something that makes the child disgusted, it will not help.
Not only does it not have any positive effect on the child, but it also makes the parent-child relationship worse and worse. For countless nights, parents thought about their children's problems, and they couldn't sleep, and they didn't know what to do with their children······ This should be an outcome that every parent does not want to see.
If you don't want things to get to this point, the only way is to cut them off when your child is just showing signs of boredom with school!
How did school boredom start?
I have summarized the three most common signs of adolescent school boredom in clinical practice, and I hope that parents can carefully observe and find out in time.
First, boredom with school starts with the anxiety of parents
In order to make their children's future journey easier, many parents have been strict with their children.
For example, when children write homework every day, some parents will strictly supervise them, and as long as the child is a little distracted or makes a little mistake, the child will criticize the child harshly;
For example, before each exam, the child's review results will be checked again and again, and the child will be repeatedly emphasized to what ranking must be obtained in the test and how many points each subject must be achieved.
Although we can all understand that parents only think about the future of their children, but children don't understand.
Children will think that parents only care about their academic performance, not whether they are happy or not, and whether they can really do it, they know to make demands on themselves.
In the long run, children will use the learning that their parents are most concerned about to express their resistance to their parents, at first only to arouse their parents' awareness of their inner feelings, but if parents do not notice it in time, the child's disgust with school will become stronger and stronger, until it becomes a problem student.
Second, disgust with school, starting from the child's denial of himself
There are some children who have worked hard and have good academic performance, but because of their parents' high expectations, they always fail to meet their parents' expectations.
At this time, if the child is not learning in the right way or has done his best, thinking that he or she is really unable to meet the expectations of his parents, he will feel frustrated and blame.
Once children begin to doubt themselves and become unconfident, they will develop a fear of difficulties, and they will simply give up learning because they feel that their ability is not good and because they are afraid of failure. This is also the real reason why many children who originally didn't let their parents worry about learning suddenly become dislike to study.
Third, boredom in school starts with the lack of care from the family
There is a kind of family where children are very sensible, but parents often quarrel and conflict with each other because of emotional discord or other issues, and many parents will even fight in front of their children.
Children do not have basic happiness and security in the family, and they do not feel the beauty of their future, so they do not have any expectations for the future. In this way, the child will not have the motivation to study hard and become a better version of himself.
This boredom in school leads to secondly, and the most terrible thing is that children who have been in this state for a long time are very likely to develop depression, anxiety and other mental illnesses.
Having said so much, I hope that parents can understand that any problem behavior of their children is their inner cry, and I hope that parents can create good habits for the healthy growth of their children in ordinary times, timely detect and patiently listen to their children's needs and feelings, solve their children's inner problems in a timely manner, and avoid children falling into the abyss!