Recently, a shocking news has been circulating on social media:
Xiaoyi and her husband have experienced an 8-year long-distance love run,
However, what is puzzling is that after only a little more than a month of marriage, Xiaoyi actually had the idea of divorce.
The reason is even more staggering: her father-in-law's behavior made her feel extremely uncomfortable.
Here's the thing:
After getting married, my parents-in-law chose to move in with them.
By chance, Xiaoyi found that the message sent by her father-in-law to her husband was so embarrassing: "Do you feel kissing your girlfriend?"
My father-in-law sometimes said wildly: "Your aunt has to hold me at night to sleep, otherwise she won't be able to sleep." ”
My father-in-law often walks around at home in autumn pants,
Even when she drank water, her father-in-law did not shy away from drinking the same glass of water.
These behaviors made Xiaoyi feel very uncomfortable, and she began to wonder if she could endure this kind of married life without a "sense of boundaries".
For these reasons, Xiaoyi, who had just entered marriage, had the idea of divorce.
This begs the question: how many relationships are ruined because of unclear borders?
In the program "Diary of a Freshman",
Wang Siran was watched by her mother-in-law's family when she was breastfeeding, and the scene of her emotional breakdown was impressive.
Although the mother-in-law's family behaved out of concern, this unconscious transgression,
made Wang Siran feel like an animal being watched,
I have lost my basic sense of boundaries as a human being.
Wang Siran's incident sparked heated discussions among netizens,
Many have shared their experiences of being watched by their family members while breastfeeding.
Some mothers said that when they breastfeed their children,
Often disturbed by family members such as mother-in-law or father-in-law,
Someone will even enter the room without permission.
Once, a mother was breastfeeding her child, and her father-in-law suddenly broke into the bedroom again.
She finally couldn't help but express her dissatisfaction.
Who talked about the father-in-law did not realize his own problems, but said disapprovingly:
"What is there to be hypocritical about being a mother?"
We are always accustomed to thinking,
These things are not a big deal, and people won't laugh at you for it.
However, it is this "indifferent" attitude,
It has done great harm to the dignity of the mother.
A mother was in confinement, and her mother-in-law showed off that she had an eldest grandson.
Greet many people to come to the house to see the baby.
What's even more unacceptable is that the mother-in-law actually appeared in front of male relatives and friends.
Talking about her own production process,
Completely ignoring the embarrassment and embarrassment of the daughter-in-law.
Faced with her daughter-in-law's shame and anxiety, her mother-in-law didn't care.
"The babies are all born, and they are not yellow flower girls, so what is the shame. ”
俗话说“儿大避母，女大避父”，
Whether it is mother and son, father and daughter, brother and sister or sister and brother,
Close family members should be in good measure.
Even parents who are related by blood should pay attention to the boundaries of each other, let alone family members who are not related by blood.
If you don't pay attention to your behavior and are too presumptuous, it will affect the harmony and harmony of the family.
12 years ago, the idol drama "The Star of the Sheep" became popular all over the country.
Now 12 years have passed, and Liu Ha Na, the leading actor in the play, has once again become the focus.
This time, she is not because of her outstanding acting skills, but because of a photo.
In the photo, Liu Hana is dressed casually, lying on the sofa with her head resting on a man's thigh.
It looked very pleasant, as if this position was a routine for her.
Hu said that the photo was taken by Yoo Ha Na's husband through home surveillance, and then Yoo Ha Na herself posted it online.
People once thought that she was showing affection and showing off her peaceful life, but this is not the case.
In the photo, Yoo Ha Na's head rests on a man's lap, but this man is not her husband. It's her father-in-law.
What's even more shocking is that Liu Hana did not realize anything wrong, and asked netizens:
"When you go back to your mother-in-law's house, will you lie on your father-in-law's lap like this?"
also revealed: "My mother-in-law was not at home, and I just happened to flip through her favorite pants, which were really comfortable to wear, so I wore them." ”
Liu Ha Na's series of behaviors are really confusing.
She wore her mother-in-law's pajama pants, lay on her father-in-law's lap, and was photographed by her husband with a monitor and posted on the Internet.
Many netizens said that even with their biological father, they would not have such intimate behavior, let alone between their daughter-in-law and father-in-law.
Maybe Liu Hana's family is used to this way of getting along and doesn't feel anything wrong.
However, when this kind of behavior is posted on public platforms, it will inevitably cause public discussion and attention.
We are not targeting Liu Ha Na, but this kind of behavior that is too close between family members is indeed worthy of our vigilance.
In modern society, there is no need to be overly intimate between relatives who are bound together by marriage.
It is enough to respect each other's private space, maintain appropriate distance and respect.
This is a form of respect for each other's personal space and an important principle for maintaining family harmony.
In a large family-style life, it is often difficult to draw a line between relatives, and there are not enough conditions to protect everyone's personal space.
Therefore, it is easy to contact and interact with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, father-in-law, sister-in-law, and uncle and sister-in-law.
Once the sense of boundaries is broken, all kinds of family conflicts may ensue.
In the face of these contradictions, many people can only choose to resolve them with patience.
If patience does not alleviate the problem, it can lead to a family ethical tragedy.
With the progress and change of society, people's lifestyles and family concepts are also changing.
Nowadays, more and more young people are choosing to leave their families of origin and live an independent life.
Marriage also translates into two people separating from their respective families of origin and forming a new family.
This means that we have more conditions and opportunities to live in a more independent and personal space-oriented way.
Parents and children should maintain an appropriate distance and sense of boundaries when their children grow up, which is key to respecting each other and maintaining family harmony.
In the same way, there should also be a certain distance and respect between the daughter-in-law and the in-laws, and between the son-in-law and the father-in-law.
Excessive intimacy can lead to unnecessary conflicts and conflicts, and may even affect the relationship between couples.
In family relationships, proper distance and respect can help family members better maintain their personal space and privacy, while also reducing unnecessary misunderstandings and conflicts.
Giving children a little respect and a little respect to their elders is also leaving a sense of dignity for the family.