It is said that it is difficult to produce a noble son from a poor family, and in the context of a relatively solidified society, social resources will never be inclined to the poor, and in recent years, the topic of discussing the issue of "original family" has often aroused thinking. It has been said that an unhappy childhood takes a lifetime to heal, and a happy childhood can often heal a person's entire life.
The word family of origin once became a hot word on the Internet, and then when we faced the difficulties in life, everyone seemed to have a habit - it was very easy to throw all the disasters and pains we encountered in our lives to the childhood self, so there will be some sentences like this: my parents, the education I received since I was a child, and the scenery I saw. Because of the kind of environment in which I grew up, it is why I am not successful now.
Such words became popular for a while, and the core factor was that this sentence would reduce the burden on our humanity. To some extent, he has achieved a kind of reconciliation between himself and the unsuccessful world, and has relieved the anxiety of many people.
But at the same time, it is precisely because of one word that it suddenly seems to mean that we no longer have to take that sufficient responsibility for our negative situation today. Of course, the role of the family of origin is very important, that is the first environment we face when we come to this world, and even in the last ten years we will feel the dampness for a long time in a bad family of origin, but it is only the environment after all!
Pang Zhongwang, who was born in Wuqiao County, Cangzhou, Hebei Province, is a typical boy who grew up in a bad original family, but he lived up to expectations and broke through the inherent shackles, and was admitted to the Department of Precision Instruments of Tsinghua University with a total score of 744 points. What kind of touching story does he have behind him? What is the boy's life like now?
1. If you survive in a desperate place, you will have a blessing!
In fact, it is still a euphemism to say that he was born in a bad family, and his family has a more unimaginable predicament than ordinary people. In Pangzhuang Village, Goudian Township, Wuqiao County, his father suffers from severe mental illness, while his mother has congenital spina bifida and lower limb disabilities. In the absence of normal parental care, he was raised by his grandparents since he was a child.
However, what is even more sad is that in 2005, Pang Zhongwang was also diagnosed with congenital heart disease. made the already difficult family even worse, but the doctor's words lit up hope for the family, saying that his illness is now
It can still be cured, because the age is still young, so the risk of early surgery will be smaller, so it is necessary to hurry. However, the "high" cost of surgery has made his already poor family even more stretched.
The cost is 40,000 yuan, and I believe most people will not think it is a big problem when they hear 40,000 yuan, but for a family whose parents are unable to work and can only rely on their grandparents and poor households to subsidize their lives, the 40,000 yuan will really overwhelm them.
In addition to the unhealthy parents at home, the grandparents also have to take medicine often when they are old, how can the 40,000 yuan be scrapped?
When they were all worried about this matter, people in the same village even persuaded her: "If you really can't do it, give up." So Pang Zhongwang's mother sat in a wheelchair, and the family went to borrow money, and she borrowed money everywhere in a low voice, with whatever she could do to save her son. In the end, at her insistence, she finally scraped together the 40,000 yuan of life-saving money.
This time, God seems to have begun to favor this family full of suffering, and Pang Zhongwang's surgery was successful, and after many years, it did not relapse again, and finally became a normal child, at least in terms of health. And this seems to have become a signal that there must be a blessing in the future! How will the story continue to be written?
2, is there really a real phoenix in the cold door!
As he grew older, Pang Zhongwang gradually grew up and began to understand the hardships of his parents and grandparents. Although his body has recovered, the family's debt problem has also become a concern for Pang Zhongwang. Although the people who lent them money were considerate of their difficulties, they did not urge his family to repay the money. But the sensible Pang Zhongwang deeply remembered their life-saving kindness to him, how could he not want to pay them back as soon as possible?
In order to subsidize the family and repay the debt as soon as possible, he began to do what he could to help the family at a young age, so he inherited his grandfather's business, and would use his free time to go out to pick up waste every day, and he could earn a little. His mother also felt sorry for the child's work while studying, so in order to repay the money as soon as possible, although he and her body could not work in the field, it was still possible to do some simple handicrafts, so with the joint efforts of their family, they paid off the family's debts when Pang Zhongwang was in junior high school.
But in addition to his studies, Pang Zhongwang still needs to spend a lot of time doing something unrelated to studying, but what is surprising is that Pang Zhongwang's grades are notoriously good, and he also successfully scored high in the high school entrance examination and was admitted to the local key high school. Everything seems to be moving for the better.
During the period of high school, Pang Zhongwang's grades were still as top-notch as ever, and there was no problem in getting into a good university. His mother fell ill again at this time due to physical reasons.
Because of long-term eye use, Pang Zhongwang's mother suffered from various diseases, coupled with the fact that her lower limbs could not walk normally, and she worked day after day, which aggravated her condition. The family is poor, and they can save money in terms of living food, which leads to nutrition not keeping up. Due to the superposition of various external reasons, his mother's body finally fell ill unsupportively. In the days to come, the body will deteriorate!
And his father, due to mental illness, often has emotional instability, and even sometimes goes crazy and beats people. So when there is no way to do it, he will lock his father in the house.
For Pang Zhongwang, from the moment he was born, he was destined to be different from other children, and he began to help the family do a lot of things when he was a child. What did the unhappy childhood bring to Pang Zhongwang, and in the face of such misfortune, what kind of mood will Pang Zhongwang face the predicament?
3. An unhappy childhood
For Pang Zhongwang, life has never been easy, and it takes him a lot of effort to live alone. An epidemic paralyzed his mother, who cared for him, in bed, and the world of life was either in bed or in a wheelchair, and he was completely unable to take care of himself, so he needed someone who could take care of him for a long time.
Earlier, Pang Zhongwang's grandparents could still help take care of it, but the older they get, the more they will sometimes be unable to do it, so this responsibility naturally falls on the young Pang Zhongwang. Dad is even more troubled by mental illness, not only can he not help a little, but he also needs to be taken care of by others.
As the only child in the family, he not only bears the heavy responsibility of real life, but also carries the hope of the whole family. He is also well aware of his responsibilities, and in order to reduce the burden on the family, he has been taking care of the housework at home since he was a child, from the simple chopping wood and cooking at the beginning to the housework later. He needs to take care of everything in the family.
And loneliness is also a subject that Pang Zhongwang has faced since he was a child, Pang Zhongwang is poor at home, but children of the same age look down on him because of his family and poverty, and they are unwilling to play with him, and the big and small things at home also make him lose time to play, he was trapped at home and became a complete little adult.
should have had a carefree and happy childhood, but it is not here in Pang Zhongwang. Outsiders would seem to sympathize with his plight, but Pang Zhongwang never complained about the hardships that life gave him, and he never even thought that these things were misery for him.
He faces the world with a very optimistic mindset.
Because love is priceless!
Although Pang Zhongwang's family is very difficult and he can't take good care of him materially, the spiritual care does make this child develop a sunny attitude, and even in the interview, he also said that everyone should envy him because he has a family that loves him.
His grandparents' love for him also gave him the confidence to face life, and he praised him without hesitation, making him full of confidence. Even if the family is poor, there is no lack of support for Pang Zhongwang's education. His family took out all their savings for many years in order to provide for him to study, just so that he could receive more education.
Compared with material scarcity, what is more difficult is not to be spiritually satisfied, Pang Zhongwang, growing up in an environment full of love, even if life has been hard, but the abundant spirit and love are indeed priceless treasures.
In one case, his childhood was both unfortunate and lucky.
4. Walk into the high school and step into the door of the highest university
Seeing that Pang Zhongwang was admitted to a key high school, with excellent grades, he was about to usher in a better life. He has always been a good student in the eyes of teachers at school, but his mother's health is getting worse and worse, and he has to find time to take care of his mother while studying.
In 2017, Pang Zhongwang took the college entrance examination, and as his name suggests, in that hot summer, Pang Zhongwang got a notice from Tsinghua University. With a naked score of 684, coupled with the blessing of 60 points of the rural special plan, he finally won the top science in Hebei Province with a total score of 744, which amazed the entire Hebei Province, and his achievement became a legend in the place where he lived. A bright future awaits the young man.
Seeing that his child is so good, he was personally received by the president of Tsinghua University, and he is also very proud to be his family!
When he was in college, many people wanted to sponsor him, but he rejected the kindness of strangers, and he relied on his own efforts to participate in school competitions and get scholarships. I strive to live a good life every day, and I hope that I can make a good life for my family by my own efforts.
But life is always joking with him, and in 2020, Pang Zhongwang's mother left him due to physical reasons. While still studying, his mother hid her situation in order not to worry her son, and when the bad news came, Pang Zhongwang couldn't cry and was depressed.
He may have grieved the death of a loved one, but these have never been an obstacle to his pursuit of a better life. Instead, relying on his own ability, he walked step by step into the life he expected.
5. Later, he became a doctor and lived a good life
In the days that followed, Pang Zhongwang took everyone's expectations, from undergraduate to doctorate, and also met his love during this period.
His girlfriend is from the same high school, and the relationship has always been very stable, this hard-working boy has finally built his own good life with his own efforts, and hopes that this kind and down-to-earth boy can have a good future.
Write at the end
We never sing about suffering, we sing about the vitality of those who are able to live happily in the face of suffering. Faced with the difficulties of childhood life, Pang Zhongwang never seemed to be disappointed in life. In every photo he takes, he seems to be smiling, and his eyes are full of tenderness.
Today, the issue of the acoustic family is still worth discussing, but when we talk about the family of origin itself, we don't talk about the original family itself to blame the childhood self and the unchangeable environment in which we lived, we talk about it because of where we are constructed, and then in turn to understand it better, so as to confront or reconcile with it.
And Pang Zhongwang, when we think of suffering, he never feels how miserable his life is, but finds all kinds of small blessings in a poor life. As he grows up, he seems to have learned to objectify his childhood situation in the process of moving away from his acoustic family.
His calm narration and calm acceptance have led to his current achievements. Use a bystander's perspective to peel yourself off from suffering, and then objectively face the misfortunes of life. In the end, in the process of complete resistance and reconciliation, he completed a transformation of himself.
If a person keeps trapping himself in the past place, guarding the time of more than ten or twenty years and suppressing the current self, it seems that this is not only a problem of the original family, but also an abuse of the current self. When we encountered misfortune in childhood, it seemed difficult for us to resist, but now when we have the ability to resist, we should pull the self who was once unable to resist.
Growth is the slaughter of the spirit of the self again and again, the past can only be the past, but the present can determine your future, on the issue of the original family Pang Zhongwang handed over a satisfactory answer, and I wish everyone can hand over a satisfactory answer.