Dictation: Zhang Gang
There are more than 20 days left before the Chinese New Year, and my son, who is far away, called to say that their family will not come back for the Chinese New Year this year, and they will come back to see me after the New Year.
I said it doesn't matter, I'll celebrate the New Year with Jiang Feng's family this year. I told my son about my plans, and he agreed to my plans.
Let me tell you my story. After listening, let's express our opinions in the comment area
My name is Zhang Gang, and before I retired, I was an engineer in the unit. My wife is a nurse. My wife has been dead for six years now.
We only have one son, who is now settled abroad. Many people asked me curiously, why did you only have one child when you didn't have family planning at that time?
Alas, this is all fate, my wife was bleeding profusely when she gave birth to my son, and her body was damaged, and then even if we tried hard, we couldn't have another child.
My son's grades in reading have been good since he was a child, and when he was studying, it was smooth and smooth, and he didn't let us worry about it. Elementary school, junior high school, high school, university, graduate school, and then went abroad to study for a doctorate, married a foreign daughter-in-law, and naturally stayed abroad.
At that time, the neighbors gave my son a thumbs up and praised me again and again, envying me for having a good son.
But now I envy them for having children by their side, and when something happens, the child can help.
My wife and I are in free love, and I am five years older than my wife. When my wife retired, I was still working. As soon as my wife retired, I flew to my son's house abroad.
At that time, the daughter-in-law had just given birth to her second child, and the eldest grandson had not yet gone to kindergarten, so the wife went to help take care of the child.
After three years of our separate flights, the little grandson can also go to kindergarten, and the wife no longer goes to the son's house to take care of the child. She said she wanted to come back and be with me.
The two of us often plan to travel all over the country when I retire, go to Harbin to see ice sculptures, go to Xinjiang to eat cantaloupe and sweet dates, go to places we didn't go to when we were young, enjoy the great rivers and mountains of the motherland, and even plan the way to travel.
If we want to travel in a distant place, we can travel by car in a nearby place, I can drive, and my wife can't drive. My wife said that when I was old, it was too hard to drive alone, and we didn't drive far away.
We also thought that when I retired, the two of us would go to live with our son for two or three years. The family lived happily together.
But plans can never catch up with changes, and no one knows which one will come first, tomorrow or the accident
Two months after I retired, I was about to implement our travel plans when my wife died of a cerebral hemorrhage.
My wife left very suddenly, that morning as usual, went downstairs to play cards with the neighbor, came back and said that she was very tired, I told her to lie on the sofa to rest, who knew that as soon as she lay down, she never got up again.
My son flew back from abroad and took care of my wife's funeral with me.
After finishing his wife's funeral, my son went back, leaving me alone at home.
The year my wife just left, I really wasn't used to it. Looking at the photos of my wife every day, my heart will be flooded with memories of those good times.
As the saying goes: Men don't flick when they have tears, but they don't get to the sad place. I miss my wife, and tears flow out of my eyes involuntarily.
Every day I am alone at home, lonely. In the huge room, I can only hear my sighs, and other than that, the sound of a needle dropped in the quiet of the house can be heard on the floor.
For a whole year, I couldn't lift up the energy to do anything.
A colleague came to my house to persuade me to go out for a trip and relax. I think it's okay that I once agreed with my wife to travel together, and now I am left alone to complete our agreement.
My retirement salary is 7,000 yuan, which is enough to cover my expenses alone.
In the past few years, I have traveled to many places in my homeland. Like Xishuangbanna in Yunnan and the ends of the earth in Hainan, I also went to Harbin to see ice sculptures and Liuzhou to eat snail noodles.
Every time I come back from a trip, I rest at home for two months and then go out again. This lasted for four or five years. If nothing else, I think this will last for a few more years.
One year, during the Spring Festival, my son's family came back to celebrate the New Year with me, and I was so happy that I drank a little more wine at night, but I woke up the next morning to find that I couldn't move.
My daughter-in-law made breakfast in the morning, and my son came to my room and asked me to eat breakfast, and when he noticed that something was wrong with me, he immediately called an ambulance and took me to the hospital.
I had a stroke, and after timely rescue by the doctor, my life was saved, but I was left with sequelae.
My fingers were stiff, my hands were weak, and I couldn't lift anything too heavy.
I couldn't walk on my feet at first, and after a period of rehabilitation, I was able to limp but I couldn't walk steadily, couldn't stand for a long time, and had to use a wheelchair.
The doctor said that it would take a long period of rehabilitation to achieve a more ideal state. I would not have been able to do this rehabilitation alone.
The son and daughter-in-law are very worried because they are also busy with their own work. The two grandchildren also have their own jobs and studies.
A neighbor came to see me, and when he learned about my situation, he enthusiastically said to my son, "In the case of your father, you can ask a nurse to come and take care of me at home."
The son said to him very distressed: Where to find a reassuring person?
He hurriedly said: I have a distant relative who is a nurse, she does things very properly, careful, some time ago she went home to have something, these days back is looking for something to do, I introduced her, what do you think?
When the son heard this, he hurriedly agreed.
The next day, the neighbor brought someone over, it was a middle-aged woman in her 40s, medium height, and she looked very capable. The neighbor introduced her name as Jiang Feng. Jiang Feng also greeted my son and me very warmly.
On the first day, my son drove Jiang Feng and me to the hospital for examination and rehabilitation. Jiang Feng went upstairs and downstairs to get the medicine, took the checklist, and waited for me to finish the rehabilitation treatment, and carefully asked the doctor what to pay attention to.
Later, we got along for a few days, and I felt that she was very attentive and nice. It was decided to leave her behind.
My son negotiated with Jiang Feng and asked her to live in my house to take care of me, and in addition to taking me for rehabilitation, he also asked for cooking for me.
Jiang Feng looked at my son a little embarrassed, then looked at me again, and said in a slur manner: Uncle Zhang, Brother Zhang, I'm really a little embarrassed, my husband also came out to find something to do, and he has no place to live now, can we both live in your house? Otherwise, my salary will be reduced by 300 yuan and used as rent.
The son thought for a moment and said, "Okay." I don't want your 300 yuan rent anymore, I hope you can treat my dad well.
Jiang Feng hurriedly said: It will definitely be.
After the son's family left, Jiang Feng's husband moved in. Jiang Feng's husband is a construction worker, and he hasn't found anything to do yet.
After Jiang Feng's husband moved in, he and Jiang Feng took care of me together, and every morning, he pushed me into the garden of the community in a wheelchair, and then helped me to train and walk in the garden carefully.
Jiang Feng went to buy groceries, and when we came home after walking, Jiang Feng's husband began to cook, and the food cooked by Jiang Feng's husband was delicious, much better than what I made myself.
Jiang Feng's husband told me that his own parents died very young. He knows how to cook, and he learned it from his mother, who cooks a good cook.
When the day of rehabilitation treatment came, Jiang Feng and his wife took me there, and watched them take good care of me, and the hospital staff thought it was my son and daughter-in-law.
Under the careful care of both of them, I was able to quickly lose my wheelchair and walk on my own, although I was unsteady and limped. But I'm also very happy
Later, Jiang Feng's husband found something to do, but he came back every night because there were many things that he had to help with.
My son videotaped with me every night to see how I was recovering.
Jiang Feng and his family lived in my house to take care of me, and when my son came back during the Chinese New Year, they also went back for the New Year. After the New Year, their sons left, and Jiang Feng and his family came back.
Jiang Feng and I get along like a family, and I think I am very lucky to meet Jiang Feng. When people are old, sick and in pain, don't you need someone to serve you tea and water?
The son also raised Jiang Feng's salary, which was 5,000 yuan for Jiang Feng before, but now it has risen to 6,000 yuan. My son's life is good, and he can afford it.
I'm in good shape now, and I'm able to limp far, but my hands aren't good yet, and I'm always stiff. I don't go to rehabilitation anymore, I just walk slowly in the community every day.
Jiang Feng said that he had to train slowly.
I think my current lifestyle is very good, I don't have to leave home, I live in a place I am familiar with, and I am not alone, I am accompanied by someone.
I also wanted to go to a nursing home before, and I heard that if you live in a nursing home, you can easily be bullied if you don't have children to visit you. I dismissed that idea.
Jiang Feng and his wife treated me like their own father. The two of them lived with me, and they also saved a lot of money, and Jiang Feng's husband paid his salary and always bought some things back.
I didn't let them pay for food, I gave Jiang Feng 2,500 yuan a month for food, and Jiang Feng arranged it, if it wasn't enough, I would give it again. I have a retirement salary of 7,000 yuan, which I can still afford
This year, my son said that he would not come back for the New Year, and I said to Jiang Feng that they should take the child over and we will spend the New Year together.
But Jiang Feng wanted me to go back to the countryside with them for the New Year and experience the taste of the New Year in the countryside. I think it's a very good idea. I decided to go back to the countryside with them for the Chinese New Year.
I'm alone, and it's the New Year wherever I spend it, as long as I'm happy. You're right?
I wish you all happiness in your old age
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