Family, have you received the Spring Festival holiday notice?
I have not yet.
When I thought that I might still work in the company in my Chinese New Year's Eve, I wanted to give two punches to others indiscriminately.
Recently, my time online has plummeted, and I don't have to be red-eyed by photos of other people traveling.
I thought that there would be no one on the whole network who would be worse than me, and I turned on the phone full of screens: college student Dehua went to work.
Originally, I thought that college students would work for a whole year, and I could finally rest during the winter vacation.
Who would have thought that the first batch of unmarried and childless college students would already be painless mothers.
In the eyes of college students, the holiday is: freedom, open party!
But in the eyes of his family, it became: Dehua, go home!
Dehua, the younger sister of the male protagonist Jiang Defu in the TV series "Parents Love", because she has been unmarried for many years, she has helped her brother and sister-in-law raise 5 children in the play, which can be said to be a high degree of hard work.
The college student Dehua is on the job, which refers to the phenomenon of these college students who are not married and have been on vacation to take care of their babies at home.
The students here are still preparing for the exam, and the sisters and sisters-in-law over there are starting to worry about when they will be able to get home.
What are you doing at home?
Answer: With a baby.
When I went to school, I complained about the power outage at night every day, and I had classes in the morning, and when I came home, I found that I had never slept for more than 8 hours.
Ideal holiday: day and night with my brother to open the dark.
Holidays in reality: The small one at home lets you watch "Peppa Pig" with you, and the big one grabs your phone to open the game handle, which is a headwind.
The most feared thing every day is to kill three consecutive questions:
"Let's go see what my aunt is doing";
"Let's go see if my aunt is up";
"Let's go and wake up my aunt."
There are also weekends and lunch breaks at work, but with a baby is 24 hours ready to fight.
Because you don't know when he's going to wake up, hungry, pee, cry.
The child does not understand that adults have adult time, and all he can do is to be absolutely attached to you.
Once you get the child's approval, he has to squat at the door even when you go to the toilet.
College student: I have only been studying for two years in the kindergarten teacher major, and my work experience is already comparable to that of a teacher.
The worst thing is the 19th class of Dehua, who took a few years of online classes and took children for a few years.
Life is like confinement, I don't remember much of the knowledge points in the textbook, how to shake milk powder, how to burp milk is a practical operation every day.
I haven't suffered the pain of love, and I first experienced the pain of raising a baby.
The child was born to my sister/sister-in-law, but it was my sister-in-law and sister-in-law who got postpartum depression.
College student: Thank you, it turns out that helping your family watch their children is the best contraceptive pill.
It's funny, but it's not funny at all.
My friend didn't know about Dehua's stalk, but when she got home, her sister-in-law always shared this kind of video with her, intentionally or unintentionally.
In the eyes of some people, unmarried and pregnant, it is natural for college students to show them their children.
I only saw the joke that everyone compared college students to Dehua.
Pretend not to see the tickets, gold, and cars that other people's families have prepared for the "Dehua".
In fact, an enlightened family member will not make you tired at all, you can watch it if you want to, and you won't watch it if you don't want to watch it, but an enlightened family member will let you contribute money and effort and time to complain in the end.
As soon as the college students in someone's family are on vacation, the family directly asks the confinement lady to go home, and the picture is a free labor.
It's not that you can't afford a nanny, but Teckwah is more cost-effective.
Even if you volunteer to help take care of the child, you are distressed that it is not easy for your sister and sister-in-law to watch the child.
But if you feel sorry for others, others don't necessarily feel sorry for you.
If you don't see it well, you have to continue to do it.
If the child is too good, it is possible to get a bad review, after all, human nature is still in front of family affection.
Do you think it's good to bring a child a year or two older?
Sorry, bring one, most likely there will be a second.
One day as a Dehua, a lifetime as a Dehua.
When I was a child, I watched "Parents' Love" and felt that Dehua was a harlequin, disgraced every day, not as intellectual as the heroine;
When I grew up, I realized that the clown was actually me.
Without her, how can the heroine have energy and intellectuality, and the male protagonist is even more unlikely to be promoted.
The happiness of the family is the result of the efforts of three people, but Dehua is not named.
After dedicating her entire youth to the male and female protagonists' family, she didn't get married until middle age.
It sounds like a horror story, but it's actually completely realistic.
Some netizens said that they had already helped their family bring a baby, and in the photo, she was holding a baby who might just be full moon.
My classmate went to college for a year and came home to find that he had an extra brother.
There is no other reason, I just feel that my daughter is older, and I can help myself raise my son.
Some netizens go to college in their hometowns, and they have to be pulled by relatives from other places to tutor their children.
For the sake of the children of relatives, Dehua doesn't have to go home.
The children in the family are small, and they are free nannies;
When the children in the family are older, they are free tutors.
College students are a walking resource bank at home, and any relative is worried about it when they see it.
Some people say that college students are taking on new family responsibilities when they help take care of the baby, which is a matter of course;
Responsibility falls to college students, and respect and rights have never been given to them.
When I didn't go to college, I was the center of the universe at home;
I don't have to worry about anything but studying, but I'm only allowed to do things related to studying.
Good adults give children good food and drink for the sake of children's healthy growth.
The adults of the Dehua family gave the children good food and drink, which was to make offerings to Wenqu Xing, wishing that the children would get good grades and give themselves a long face.
went to college without the identity of "college entrance examination candidates", and the Dehua people plummeted at home;
was urged to get married, brought a baby, and didn't even have his own room at home.
A while ago, the current situation of college students returning home to their rooms during winter vacation was on the hot search;
Some college students go home and sleep in a room with a motorcycle, and someone hangs the family's bacon on the bedside;
The camera swept over, the room was full of clutter, and three months after the start of school, his bedroom was used as a warehouse.
The tag given by the platform is #College Students' Fun Stories About Going Home#, college students just want to die after watching it.
Not everyone has enough family conditions to have their own room;
But making a bed and waiting for the wanderer to come home is not difficult for those who care.
In Dehua's family, the status of family members will be suddenly reshuffled, and the status rules will always be followed:
Preparing for the college entrance examination> married and childless> married and childless > college students> double non-college students> homosexual
The whole family is more like a company, and "college entrance examination" and "having children" are major projects in this company.
There is meritocracy within the family, and there is no emotional communication between projects, only resource replacement.
Members with a project will be valued by everyone, and those who don't have a project will resist eating at the table.
There is a saying that home is a gentle harbor and the destination of the soul;
It's true that not everyone's home can be their own harbor.
In the past two years, the concept of "raising yourself again" has been very popular;
Many young people choose to distance themselves from their original families, leave conditional love, and kidnapping expectations;
No more talking to your family, making your own dock.
Someone enrolled himself in an interest class that he couldn't learn when he was a child, and found that it didn't matter if it was hot for three minutes;
You don't have to get a grade for everything, and it's important to make yourself happy.
I feel that no one has to rely on me, I can give myself the love I want.
They're handsome, they're cool, but they're also very helpless.
You see, the issue of the original family has been talked about for so many years, and in the face of elders, we can only discuss "respect";
Because "love" cannot be taught.
And facing up to the fact that you are not loved is the first step to learning to love yourself.