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Nowadays, life is more stressful, and many families can only maintain the normal operation of the family with dual income. Therefore, the care of children is a big problem, and many families can only ask the elderly to come and help take care of their children.
I believe that many older generations know the difficulties of the younger generation, and are willing to help young people take care of their children, and do their best when they take care of their children, so that young people can work hard without worries, so that the life of the family will become more and more prosperous.
But some old people are too calculating and too selfish. After their son and daughter-in-law have children, they know that if they don't help, don't say that their son's life is not good, and complain about themselves, it will not do them any good if the relationship with their son and daughter-in-law collapses. The point is that outsiders will also talk about it, saying that such an old man is selfish, does not help with children, etc., and has no reputation.
Therefore, many elderly people are reluctant to let themselves fall into the trap and also help take care of children. But most of them are just putting on a show, and they don't really think about the physical and mental health of their children.
For example, I often see an old lady in the park next to us, with a boy who is more than a year old, or let the child in the cart, if the child is noisy, put the child down, play cards on the side, several times see the child snot on the face, the child diapers are coming out, this grandma doesn't care, someone next to you shouted, your grandson knocked, the grandmother looked at the grandson from the card, said it's okay, let the baby get up and play by himself, and then continue to play cards.
Several people in the park knew this grandmother, and discussed in private: "This grandmother is too irresponsible, if this child's mother knows that her child is brought like this, she must not be distressed to death." "As a mother, every time I see this child, I feel that this child is really pitiful.
I also heard a friend say that her mother-in-law took the daughter of the concubine family, even if the day was good, she would not take the child out, let the child stay at home all day to watch TV, brush her mobile phone next to her, and give the child heavy oil and heavy taste when eating. So my friend said that when I saw my mother-in-law with her baby, I would never hand over my child to my mother-in-law in the future.
I think the above mothers-in-law are pretending to bring up babies. I also helped take care of the children, and when I went out, I could also tell others that I helped my daughter-in-law take care of the children, but it was hard and so on. Many unreasonable relatives and friends did see the mother-in-law helping to take care of the children, and this kind of mother-in-law fell into a good reputation. When her son and daughter-in-law couldn't bear it and didn't let her help take care of the children, she said that the young people didn't let her take it, not that she didn't bring it, and let herself stand on the moral high ground.
And the daughter-in-law can't say what she is suffering about, left and right. Choose a job, don't take care of the children well, give up the job, take care of the children wholeheartedly, the family is difficult to function, and the family life is a mess.
Many old people feel that with a fake baby, they are not only relaxed but also have face, but they have lost more. It is difficult to make up for the sequelae of the sequelae that affect the relationship between the son and daughter-in-law, the frequent conflicts in the small family, the disharmony between the husband and wife, and the impact on the fortune of the family. Of course, such old people are in the minority after all.
[Topic discussion: Do you have such an old man around you?]
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