The article comes from life and is told in the first person, which is more simple and direct.
Recently, the whole family has been discussing the marriage of the eldest sister, and the question of where the eldest sister got married has given me a lot of headaches, and I feel that there is a problem with what to do.
My mother-in-law thinks that since the whole family lives in our house, the house in my hometown is empty and no one lives in it, and I have to clean it when I go home, and the key is to go back to my hometown to pick up relatives, and the travel expenses are one or two times more, so there is no need to spend this wish in vain, just marry directly from my family.
My husband thinks that this is our home, and it has nothing to do with my eldest sister, my eldest sister's family is in the county seat, not with us, and we should marry from the county seat, not from the house we bought ourselves, and we are not willing to provide a wedding house.
In fact, I don't agree with it, the house that my husband and I are buying now is not the wedding house where my husband and I got married, and I didn't ask my in-laws to pay for it, we paid for the down payment of the house, and we paid the mortgage ourselves, and my in-laws are just helping us take care of the children, but this is not the eldest sister's home.
Considering that the eldest sister is not married, and there is still a vacant room in our house, the eldest aunt has always lived with us, eating and drinking together, but this does not mean that this house can allow her to marry from here.
In addition, the in-laws have a house in their hometown county, and there is a set of wedding rooms that are empty, no one lives in them, and they are not rented, and the mother-in-law makes the house very clean, and there is no need to clean it at all when she goes back, and this house has an elevator, and it is also very convenient for the husband to carry the eldest sister.
On the contrary, the sixth floor where we live now is a staircase, the eldest sister is 120 pounds, and the husband is only 120 pounds tall and thin, I am afraid that he will not be able to carry it at all, after all, he will carry it directly from the sixth floor.
But the mother-in-law resolutely disagreed, feeling that the price of the wedding car was too expensive to pick up relatives from her hometown county, and the man's family conditions were not good, so it was impossible to pick up relatives from the county seat in line with the principle of saving money.
But in our opinion, these are all the conjectures of the mother-in-law, the eldest sister's boyfriend's family, the father-in-law is a small bag foreman, in his hometown can earn almost 120,000 a year, the eldest sister's salary is more than 10,000 per month, when they bought this wedding house, they still have a house in Zhejiang, spent more than one million, paid a down payment, but their son did not have a partner at the time, but now I talk to my eldest aunt about the object, ask to buy a house at the place of work, and the man has bought a set.
The decoration of the house at home, only furniture and household appliances, all cost thirty or forty thousand, not to mention the hard decoration, so their family looks like this at all, not like people who can't afford to pay for a wedding car.
My mother-in-law felt that since she was married, she wanted to live a good life, so she simply married from our family in line with the principle that she could save a little.
But my husband and I think more, the new house in my hometown is ready-made, soft and hard decoration are brand new, but the house we live in now, when I bought it considering that the child was still young, there was no decoration at all, and even the wall was not painted white, but I didn't want to redecorate the home because of the eldest sister's marriage, and even change the furniture to fight for the eldest sister, I don't think there is any need for this, in my opinion, this money is purely wasteful, there is no need, so I still think it is more reliable to pick up relatives from my hometown.
Because considering that our in-laws brought us children, and we didn't want to have conflicts with the elderly, although we were ten thousand unwilling, we still didn't know how to refuse this matter.
I even told my eldest sister about this and directly expressed my attitude: I don't agree with you marrying from our family, and I won't redecorate our house because of you, it's more reliable for you to marry from your hometown.
The eldest sister also expressed her understanding and could marry from her hometown.
But now there is a new problem, the eldest sister has a custom for the family, the night of the kiss is not sleeping, the probability of leaving for the county seat at about four o'clock in the morning to pick up relatives, more than six o'clock in the morning from the county to the provincial capital, about eight o'clock to the new house, then it means that the driver is not resting, this way, let us feel, the issue of safety, have to consider.
Therefore, we are also very entangled now, where to let the eldest sister get married, I can't take my own master bedroom to the eldest aunt, after all, this is my own house, and I don't want to ask for the grievances of others.
After all, considering that our own family is far away, and I also got married from a hotel near my husband's house, I didn't think there was anything wrong with it, so why did the eldest sister and mother-in-law have to regard their younger brother's home as their own?
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