Go to grandma's house or grandma's house during the holidays? The child's answer is surprisingly consistent, and it has little to do with who is closer

Text/Ting's mother

Every time I have a winter vacation, I will take Tingting back to my hometown for a while.

Because my hometown is located in central Hunan Province, sometimes it will snow when the Chinese New Year is approaching. For children who grew up in Shenzhen, there is an obsession with snow. Tingting wants to see the snow so much. But not every year.

Therefore, during the winter vacation every year, what Tingting looks forward to most is to go back to her hometown with me for a while and wait for a snowfall.

In traditional Chinese culture, family relationships have always been an important part of the social structure. For children, in addition to their parents, grandparents are also indispensable relatives in their upbringing.

A common question for many families is: where should the children go on vacation, should they go to grandma's house or grandma's house?

Although the question may seem simple, the children's responses surprisingly showed consistency, and this had little to do with who they were closer to.

Children are innocent by nature, and they tend to be more inclined to choose places that bring them fun and freshness.

Whether it is grandma's house or grandma's house, it is a place full of family affection and warmth for children, but because of the different experiences and environments, each place has its own uniqueness.

At Grandma's house, children may experience more of the countryside and natural surroundings. They can catch butterflies, pick fruits, dig wild vegetables, and feel the beauty of nature.

At Grandma's house, children may experience the bustle and diversity of the city. They can visit museums, zoos, amusement parks, and experience the modern atmosphere of the city.

It is precisely because of these different experiences and novelties that children often have surprisingly consistent answers to the question of whether to go to grandma's house or grandma's house during the holidays.

They are more inclined to choose places that bring them novelty and excitement, and the relationship with their grandma or grandmother is not the main factor they consider.

Tingting is like this, because she has lived in Shenzhen for many years, where the winter is particularly short, maybe only 10 days, and there are almost 10 months of the year when the temperature reaches more than 20 degrees. Therefore, for Tingting, her hometown is a very novel place. Seeing snow every year has become her expectation during the winter vacation.

(There was a blizzard in my hometown yesterday, and we bought a ticket to go back to our hometown tomorrow, can we still see snow tomorrow?)

For children, in their hearts, whether it is grandma or grandma, they are important people in their growth process, giving them endless love and support. However, in the specific context of the holiday, novelty and excitement become the main drivers of their choice.

This choice of children is not a selfish act. They do not neglect the importance of family affection because of the pursuit of novelty and excitement. Rather, this choice is a manifestation of their natural curiosity and desire to explore, a normal part of their upbringing.

As parents, we should understand this psychological need of our children.

When it comes to organising holiday activities for them, we can offer as many options as possible to meet their needs for freshness and excitement.

At the same time, we should also pay attention to cultivating their importance of family affection, so that they can feel the warmth of family and affection while enjoying the holiday.

This winter vacation, are you going back to grandma's house or grandma's house?

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