Why is the baby sleepy and can't sleep on his own, and he has to be coaxed and cried?

Baby's sleep problem is one of the biggest problems for parents. Either you fall asleep for two hours and fall asleep for ten minutes, or you fall asleep with your arms in your arms and wake up when you land.

Parents are already very tired from work during the day, and they have to be tossed by the baby at night, and the whole person looks visibly haggard.

Why can't babies sleep well by themselves like adults when they are sleepy, but have to cry and make noise and let people coax them to sleep?

1. Why do babies cry before going to bed?

This is because babies have not yet gained the ability to fall asleep on their own.

We are sleepy and can fall asleep quietly with our eyes closed, which is called self-soothing, which is to calm ourselves by soothing ourselves, so that our body and spirit can relax, and then find a peaceful and comfortable posture and enter a sweet dreamland.

Babies with this self-soothing ability can successfully fall asleep in a state of not crying or rarely crying, even if they wake up halfway, they do not need parental intervention, and can continue to sleep and fall asleep again.

However, this self-soothing ability is not innate, but needs to be acquired by parents and babies with the cooperation of training. Of course, there are also some "angel babies", who can sleep through the full moon, so that parents do not need to be bothered by the baby's sleep problems at all.

However, most babies still need the help of parents to cultivate the ability to fall asleep independently.

2. When will the baby gain the ability to fall asleep independently?

When the baby can learn to sleep on his own, it has nothing to do with the baby's growth and development, and there is no baby who should gain the ability to fall asleep independently when he reaches a certain period of time.

Most babies learn to soothe themselves around 6 months, and some babies may not be able to sleep on their own until they are 1 or even 2 years old, which is normal.

However, it is only a matter of time before almost all babies learn to fall asleep on their own.

3. How to cultivate the baby's ability to fall asleep independently

Of course, if parents want to be liberated as soon as possible, they can develop the ability to fall asleep independently when the baby is still young.

1. Newborns or small moon-old babies

Babies at this age almost do not have the ability to self-soothe, but if parents start to focus on cultivating their children to start falling asleep independently from this time, it will be helpful for children to develop good sleep habits in the future.

Here are a few ways parents can help their children develop habits:

(1) Set a set of sleep routines for your child before going to bed.

Parents can give their children a fixed time to sleep at night every day, and guide their children to sleep at the same time every day, which is conducive to cultivating children's sleep awareness.

Within half an hour before going to bed, it is time to start preparing for bedtime, such as brushing your child's teeth, washing, changing pajamas, turning off bright lights, turning on the dim night light, listening to bedtime stories, playing soothing music, giving your child a hug or kiss, etc.

Parents can choose these methods to use that are suitable for their children, and they do not need to choose all of them.

The key is to keep the lights dim and the sound low, so that the child knows that now is not the time to play and that it is time to go to bed.

(2) If the baby sleeps too long during the day, such as more than 3 hours, you can wake up the baby to avoid affecting the baby's sleep at night because the daytime nap time is too long.

(3) You can try the "4S method" before going to bed to help your child fall asleep better.

The first is to swaddled your baby. This method is only suitable for babies at a young age, and when they are properly swaddled, they will feel as if they are back in their mother's belly, making them feel safe, relaxed and comfortable, and it will be easier for them to fall asleep.

The second is to gently shake the baby, shake the baby slightly, but also can play a role in soothing and helping the baby to fall asleep, pay attention to the shaking amplitude can not be too large, otherwise it is easy to hurt the baby's brain development.

The third is to use a pacifier for the baby, some children like to drink milk before going to bed, but this is too grinding for the mother, you can use a pacifier instead, but pay attention not to use it for a long time, it is best to quit before the age of 3, otherwise it will affect the baby's tooth development.

The fourth is to use white noise or boo slaps to help your baby fall asleep.

(4) You can let the baby sleep in the crib independently and keep the room dark and quiet.

2. Older babies

Parents can still set their child's sleep routine and let them sleep in the crib on their own, but there are a few things you can try:

(1) When the baby is already drowsy, but not asleep, put the baby in the crib and try to let them fall asleep independently.

(2) If the baby is not suitable and starts to cry, don't rush to soothe it, give the baby a little time to see if the baby will soothe itself. If the baby is crying all the time, parents can pat it first or make some noises to soothe it, and do not feed or hold the baby immediately.

(3) If the child cries very severely, parents can also pick up the baby to soothe, so that the baby can not fall asleep overnight, parents need to continue to persist for a period of time, so if the baby is not able to self-soothe, parents still need to give some help.

(4) Parents can provide a doll or other comforting objects to accompany the baby and enhance the baby's sense of security.

In general, it takes a while to change the baby's sleeping habits, some children may see results in about 1 week, and some children may take longer to improve.

When the baby learns to self-soothe, parents must be careful not to give the baby too much help, so as not to make them have a new dependence on the parents, such as excessive boo, the child will begin to rely on the boo, if not to shoot, will not sleep.

When the child is slowly calming down, parents can try to stop the soothing movements and let the baby soothe himself to sleep.