What is home?
Some people say: home is a place where people can eat and sleep with peace of mind.
Home makes people set off with hope, and home is also the first place that comes to mind when they are tired and tired.
In the new year, if you want a family to be more and more blessed, these 3 things must be indispensable.
01 home and
What do people value most of a home? not wealth, not fame, but harmony.
Mr. San'in Jing once said: "Those who have not been harmonious, and whose homes are not auspicious." There is no anger in the end, and the family is not decaying. ”
A home without harmony is like a thatched hut with a broken roof, not only can it not provide shelter to its family.
Home and everything can be prosperous.
I especially like a description in Mr. Yang Jiang's "We Together":
There are more than three of us. Each person can be transformed into several people. When she grows up, she will take care of me, like a sister, accompany me, be like a sister, and take care of me, like a mother.
Ah Ying often said: "My father and I are the most 'buddies', we are my mother's two naughty boys, and my father is not worthy of being my brother, only my brother." ”
I became the greatest again. Zhong Shu is our teacher, Ah Ying and I are both good students, if we have any problems, we can solve them by asking, he is very tall. But when he dresses and eats, he needs our mother and daughter to take care of him like a child, and he is very weak.
Every family has its own way of getting along with each other, and the way of expressing love is also very different. But tolerance, respect, and love are the always-on glue that makes home a safe and stable edifice. No matter how strong the wind and rain are, no matter how far away the relatives are, thinking of this home is like sailing into a safe harbor.
If you are the woman who often complains that her children are unconscious and throws her face at her husband;
or the man who was frustrated in the workplace and got angry at home;
Or you are the parent who is dissatisfied with the lifestyle of young people;
I recommend you to read Mr. Wu Zhihong's "Why Does Home Hurt People" and Mr. Yang Jiang's "We", one is a best-selling psychology book for many years, and the other is a touching family memoir.
The French philosopher Montaigne said, "It is a great achievement in life for a person to be able to live in harmony with his family." ”
These two books can give you a lot of inspiration to achieve such an achievement.
02Yakai
Home is a person's energy field. A neat and clean home, the owner will also be refreshed, a home full of clutter, the owner will often be anxious and depressed.
In "Breaking Away", there is such an incident:
There is a lady who has been divorced for seven years but has not told her family about it. She feared that her conservative family would not be able to accept the news.
She lives alone, but the room is full of miscellaneous items, and the largest area is the furniture bought by her ex-husband. After she came into contact with the idea of renunciation, she re-examined her life, threw away the furniture that represented her ex-husband, and bravely told her family the news of her divorce.
Finally, seven years later, she was living a new life.
If you stay in a dirty environment for a long time, your heart will be full of garbage, and if you stay in a clean environment for a long time, your heart will have enough space to load fresh air and bright sunshine.
When the home is clean and tidy, people will be relaxed.
The ancients believed that the cleanliness of the house was a major matter. Like what:
"Wealth does not enter the dirty door, and blessing does not moisten the turbidity. ”
"Repair the house pure, and reap the blessings to live forever. ”
"If you don't sweep a house, how can you sweep the world?"
Zeng Guofan also reminded his younger brother in a letter to his family that if he didn't clean up his home, he would be a "loser".
Tidying up the room is tidying up your life and mood.
Eiko Yamashita:
Working with objects is a pleasant and comfortable process.
The item is not a big trouble, but a small partner.
The air is fresh and makes people want to stay in this environment and take a deep breath.
A clean house is a love for life and a yearning for beauty.
The windows are bright and clean, and the mind is peaceful.
If there is pure air at home, the body and mind will be healthy, and the days will get better and better.
I recommend you to read this book "Breaking Away", which can sell 4 million copies because it has really changed a lot of concepts and helped many people rebuild order in their lives and embark on a new life.
03 Bookish
Writer Lin Qingxuan said: "A family that can smell the fragrance of books and hear peace can awaken the seed in people's hearts, otherwise, this seed will rot alone in the hustle and bustle." ”
A book, a cup of tea, and a quiet time can make people think for a long time and look to the distance.
Wealth and status can certainly make people more valuable, but the fragrance of books is the confidence of a family's prosperity.
Nowadays, it is especially popular to decorate the living room.
There is no coffee table in the living room, replaced by a multifunctional long table that can be used as a workbench or a desk, and a wall-filled bookcase replaces the TV background wall.
I once saw the home of a young couple who had space for books everywhere they could think of, from the hallway to the living room to the bedroom and even the bathroom. From an early age, they have established a perception that reading is as necessary as eating and drinking.
When children come home from school, they plunge headlong into a sea of books except for games. Many parents will be annoyed that their children are always pestering themselves, but their children will be dissatisfied with them because their reading is interrupted.
The ancients said: "Farming and reading have been passed down for a long time, and poetry and books have been passed down for a long time."
Build a space full of books for children, so that they can find the resonance of joys, sorrows, and sorrows in the past and the future, increase their knowledge and enlighten their wisdom. No matter how small the house is and how poor the family is, they still have an infinite world and big dreams.
In addition to accompanying children to read, as parents, but also to read, we are the first teacher of children, we have our own halo in the eyes of children, want to make this halo immortal, can really illuminate the future of children, illuminate the future of the family, we have to become a role model for children.
For example, Mr. Qian Xuesen must read after 7 o'clock every night, and no one can disturb him, and his children have a lifelong habit of reading.
The last book I recommend is Stephen Covey's "Seven Habits of a High-Performing Family", and in order to write this book, he once solicited "family portraits" from children. In many of the paintings, either the father is busy with work, or the mother is cleaning, and there are also families sitting together in a dull manner, or husbands and wives arguing. But one of the paintings, which touched Stephen deeply, showed a couple of parents snuggled outdoors by a grain pile, their children happily frolicking under the stars.
Happiness is so simple.
The family is tolerant and caring, and the windows in the house are bright and clean, full of the fragrance of books, which is the scene of the blessed house.
The Year of the Dragon is approaching, and may every family be happy and healthy.