Unexpected gains are inadvertent encounters in life, and there will always be some unexpected discoveries and gains.
The son and daughter-in-law work in the city, and they bought a small house, with the mother-in-law downstairs and them upstairs.
My daughter-in-law, Xiao Miao, is a very diligent girl, she goes out early and returns late every day, but when she is not busy, she can always find some extra chores, such as mopping the floor.
At first, I thought that she might have obsessive-compulsive disorder and paid too much attention to the details of life, but after a long time, I gradually realized that there may be a deeper reason behind her actions.
One day, after dinner, she suddenly asked to visit my hometown. My son and I were a little surprised, but also happy.
The living conditions in the countryside are not very good, and they still live in old houses, but Xiao Miao likes them very much and has been laughing with my parents.
It wasn't until one day, when I was on a video call with Xiao Miao's best friend, that I suddenly realized. My daughter-in-law turned out to be under a lot of pressure from her mother-in-law.
At the same time, she also has a headache about her mother-in-law's expectations. She said that every time we talked about things in the city, my mother-in-law began to chatter, always persuading us to go back to our hometown and find a good job, a good daughter-in-law and a baby.
Her words shocked me and hurt me at the same time. I didn't expect that my mother-in-law's behavior would cause her so much pressure.
This serendipitous discovery when I returned to my hometown suddenly made me feel a little hypocritical and selfish. When I moved into my son's house, I was supposed to help them, but instead of putting myself in their shoes, I brought them more troubles.
After returning to the city, I watched my son's every move. When I walked into their house again, Xiao Miao received me very warmly, and I felt an inexplicable warmth.
However, a contradictory event that I did not expect came quietly.
That night, my son and I were talking about family trivialities when Miao suddenly filed for divorce. I couldn't believe my ears, I looked into her eyes and saw that there was exhaustion in her eyes that I couldn't hide.
My son and I tried to persuade her and ask her what was going on, but she didn't say a word.
We sat down in the café, and Miao slowly spoke out about her troubles. It turned out that after I left, due to some disasters in my hometown, my parents' house had a big problem and needed to be renovated immediately.
She was alone at home to face reality when I couldn't find it, and she felt that she was under too much pressure.
I was so struck by her words that I realized how selfish I was.
Although the contradictions between us are not completely resolved, at least we can face the problems honestly, and this is an important start.
As for the divorce issue raised by Xiao Miao, I will put it on hold for the time being, and I will try to help them rebuild their trust and revitalize their families.
I decided to face the problem head-on and communicate with my mother-in-law and Xiao Miao. One weekend, I invited them to dinner with my son.
"Mom, did you have something to do with us?" the son asked.
"It's nothing special, I just think the atmosphere in our house has been a little tense lately, and I want everyone to talk together and see what is wrong.
The mother-in-law frowned, and Xiao Miao lowered her head and did not speak. I realized that this might not be easy to solve directly.
"Actually, I have something to say to you. Mother-in-law, Xiao Miao, I know that you have different feelings with me, and I also realize that I may not be thinking from your perspective on some things.
"Nothing, I don't think it's anything. The mother-in-law tried to cover it up.
Xiao Miao looked up at me, with an unconcealable emotion in her eyes: "Mother-in-law, I don't think these are nothing, I think ......"
She didn't finish, I motioned for her to stop with my eyes, and I could understand her mood at this point.
"Xiao Miao, say it, you can tell us if you have any ideas. "I encouraged her.
"I know that my mother always wanted me to be a good daughter-in-law in the traditional sense, but I felt that I had a lot of shortcomings in this area.
She said, holding her mother-in-law's hand.
"Silly boy, I don't blame you, I'm just a little worried that you will be wronged outside. Mother is also for your good.
"Mom, Xiao Miao doesn't need to be a traditional good daughter-in-law in your heart, she just needs to be herself.
"I also stepped forward.
Gradually, the atmosphere eased and we began to communicate freely. I realized that everyone in the family has their own thoughts and feelings, and as a mother, I need to listen more and be tolerant.