"My son has never served anyone like this, why do you let him serve you? I have not been willing to let him do any work since I was a child, how can I find you, he will have to work" my mother-in-law yelled at me.
"I just asked him to help me get a couple of couriers"
"Every day online shopping, big bags and small packages, express delivery is always unfinished, how can you not control your own spending, you really can't live at all, I don't know how your parents taught you. ”
"I said at the beginning that you can't find an only daughter like you, who is pampered. ”
Facing my mother-in-law's accusations against me.
My husband hid to the side and didn't speak for a long time, watching my mother-in-law yelling at me.
At this moment, I stayed where I was, remembering my old ......
My husband and I met in college in Shenzhen, I am from Shenzhen, and my husband is from a small place in Sichuan.
Because I have a good figure and good looks, I was chased by a lot of people during college, and my husband was also one of the suitors.
Because I shared a musical hobby with him, we quickly got along.
After graduating, we had agreed to stay in Shenzhen together for development, and he was willing to settle down in Shenzhen for me.
But as the only child in the family, he was forced by his mother to return to his hometown in Sichuan to develop.
It is said that graduation is breakup season, and we are no exception.
Just when I thought we wouldn't have anything to do with each other again.
Two years later, we met at a class reunion, and as expected, we sparked again, and I immediately decided to give up my current job, leave my parents, and follow him back to Sichuan to get married.
After returning to Sichuan, we began to discuss the purchase of a wedding house.
At this time, my husband's mother told him: You are still young, you don't need to buy a house in a hurry, and you will not take care of your own life, live with us, and we can also help you with laundry and cooking.
At that time, I didn't want to live with my parents, but my husband said, "My parents are getting older and want to be with them more."
Seeing that my husband is so filial and considerate, I also agreed to the proposal to buy a house in the future.
Later, just like other young couples, we started to prepare, take wedding photos, book hotel banquets, etc.
When we went to take wedding photos, the clerk recommended to us: I liked to take pictures while traveling, so I told my husband: I want to set this set.
At this time, my mother-in-law called and said something, but I didn't hear it too clearly, and my husband, who hung up the phone, turned his head and asked the clerk: Is there anything cheaper?
I asked my husband with a blank face, "Didn't you decide to take a good trip?"
My husband said with an embarrassed face, "My mother thinks that taking pictures while traveling is a bit expensive, and we can travel on our honeymoon after marriage, and we don't have to travel so tired while taking pictures." ”
I can't understand this matter, girls may get married once in their lives, why can't they choose a set of wedding photos they like?
My husband didn't have a clear opinion, but just said lightly: Anyway, I won't look at the photos every day after taking them, and it doesn't matter what I shoot.
As a bride who is about to get married, I uphold the principle of "one more thing, not one less thing", and did not insist on choosing travel photography.
In this way, we had the wedding as scheduled and lived with our parents-in-law.
After we got married, the two of us were also busy at work, so we rarely ate at home, but my mother-in-law cooked early every day and took the bus for more than an hour to bring lunch to my husband's company.
Not to mention my husband's clothes, every day I only need to take off my dirty clothes, and my mother-in-law will wash the clean clothes for him, iron them, and put them in a place where he can reach them.
Of course, my mother-in-law is not doing this to the two of us, but only to my husband.
Sometimes I even take my clothes out of the washing machine and wash my husband's alone.
Because of the frequent overtime, I often go home without food, so I will order some takeout, usually eat by myself, this night, my husband also felt a little hungry, so I plan to eat some more together, my mother-in-law saw it and said: "Son, you don't eat these takeaways, after all, the food outside is not very clean." ”
I wondered, why can't I eat it?
What I didn't expect was that my husband really put down the chopsticks and didn't eat a bite.
On our wedding anniversary, my husband and I planned to go out together and have a bite to eat.
While we were struggling with what to eat, my husband suddenly said, "Why don't you call and ask my mother?" ”
"Why do you want to ask your mom for dinner, and your mom knows what we both want to eat?"
It was the first time I felt that my husband was so dependent on his mom.
After my mother-in-law answered the phone, she suggested that we go home and eat instead of eating out.
I told my husband, "If you want to go home and eat, you can go back by yourself, I'll eat outside." ”
He ate out with me, but he didn't take a few bites, and I didn't care.
When we got home after eating, my mother-in-law asked us what we were eating, and we were obviously eating hot pot, but my husband lied directly, and he told my mother-in-law that we didn't eat anything.
I wasn't surprised by his answer, after all, my mother-in-law had already advised us to go home and eat.
Seeing my husband like this, I even felt that I had put him in a dilemma.
Before we got married, we talked about children, but I didn't really have any plans to have children in the short term.
Today we were all watching TV in the living room, and my mother-in-law mentioned to me, intentionally or unintentionally, that the neighbor next door had given birth to a son.
"My mother is in a hurry to hold her grandson, we can have a child. ”
When my husband says this, I always say, "You are still like a child, how can you be a good father?"
My mother-in-law always instilled in me that taking care of children is a mother's business, and men don't have to take care of their children.
I asked my mother-in-law, "Isn't a man the father of a child? Only a woman is a mother? Why is it that a child is born as a woman's business?"
"Men have to go to work to make money, how can they take care of their children when they come back from work all day?"
I thought to myself, don't I have to go to work? I go to work and take care of the kids, so I don't get tired?
I also argued with my husband many times about this.
I wanted my husband to get rid of the care of my mother-in-law, so I proposed to go out to buy a house and live separately, but I was opposed by my father-in-law, mother-in-law and husband, and my mother-in-law said: "Now this house will be my son's house in the future, what house else will he buy?"
My father-in-law also said on the side: "What kind of money do you spend indiscriminately, why do you buy so many houses?"
My husband said coldly next to me: "Buy a house, move out, who will take care of my food, drink, and home? You can't take care of me so well like my mother." ”
I was very angry, obviously I just said that I would not buy a house for the time being, and now that I have been married for so long, I can live separately.
And we also have to learn to take care of ourselves, we can't be taken care of for the rest of our lives.
Just when I was still worrying about the house, I found that I was unwell, my lower abdomen was sore, I was sleepy all day, and I was listless every day.
At this time, my colleague reminded me: Could it be that I am pregnant?
As expected, I was indeed pregnant.
After learning that I was pregnant, I didn't have the mood to have a child before, and I was ready to welcome this new life.
But after my mother-in-law knew that I was pregnant, she should have been very happy, but she looked sad every day.
One day I got off work early, and when I came home, I heard my mother-in-law say to my husband: "Now that she is pregnant, you will have to work hard in the future, and my mother really doesn't want to see you so tired for others." ”
I thought to myself, who is someone else? Is it me?
I pushed the door open and asked, "Who is someone else? Is it me? Or is it the child in my womb? I haven't even said that I am pregnant, what is there to work hard for your son? I don't know and think that it is your son who is pregnant."
Because of the early morning sickness reaction and various discomforts, I quit my job and waited at home to give birth, and in the face of my uncomfortable reactions, my mother-in-law did not take care of me at all, and even wanted me to return to my parents in Shenzhen and let my parents take care of me.
I asked my husband, "What does your mother mean by letting me go back to Shenzhen to live for a while?
At that time, I was hot-headed, because I was too angry, and my words were a little excessive, but what I didn't expect was that it was this simple sentence that pushed my marriage to the edge of the cliff.
My husband actually taught my mother-in-law exactly what I said.
I didn't know afterwards, and I was still thinking about whether what I said was too heavy, and whether I should go to my husband to reconcile.
But at this time, the bedroom door was kicked open, and my mother-in-law pointed to my face and told me: "The child must have our surname, not yours, unless you are not our daughter-in-law." ”
At this moment, I could no longer suppress my anger, but I was surprisingly calm, and I made a decision.
I told my husband and his mother: "If we divorce, I will go back to Shenzhen to give birth to a child, and let the child take my surname, and the child and I will not have anything to do with your family in the future." ”
When my mother-in-law heard me say this, she was instantly shocked, and she lost her former domineering.
My husband stood beside my mother-in-law, cried bitterly, and asked my mother-in-law to persuade me not to divorce.
I know that my mother-in-law's concern is not about the children, but about child support, after all, we have been living together for so long, and we already know each other's thoughts every step.
My husband asked me if I had any room to maneuver.
How to answer, how should I continue with the man who stands behind his mother even when I mention divorce?
After choosing to divorce, I returned to Shenzhen without the slightest regret.
Although our marriage was a failure, but once our love was beautiful, we were sincere and passionate, I can for love,
If you marry far away, you can also leave your parents for him, and you are willing to give up your original job for him.
But love is not the end of life after all, partners who rely on each other should be able to give each other a certain amount of strength, can solve problems for each other, can stand up without hesitation when the other party needs it, and hide aside, do not say a word, and let things develop.
As an adult, my husband does not have his own thinking, nor does he have an independent way of thinking, he is more like a "flower" in a greenhouse, protected by his parents, listening to his parents' opinions again and again, and not being able to take charge of his own in marriage.
As a soon-to-be mother, I also failed, I didn't maintain a good marriage, and I couldn't give my children a complete home.
If I had insisted on my own ideas, bought the house before marriage, and lived with my husband from the beginning, would the outcome be different now?
But there is no turning back when the bow is opened, after anything happens, we can only look forward, go forward, don't look back, how hard the road is when we come, only we know, whether we are happy in marriage, only we know, go according to our own ideas, don't regret, don't complain about the past, live every moment in the future.
Why are the rearview mirrors so small and the front windshield so big?
Because the road ahead is more important than the road behind.....
This story is purely fictional, if there is any similarity, it is purely coincidental, please do not sit in the opposite number