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Some people think that by lowering oneself and groveling, one can form allies with others and reap the benefits.
But countless facts have proved that human nature is realistic.
The more you lower your dignity, the more others look down on you, and the more you are extremely patient, the more others will bully you.
When you have nothing and are insignificant, any effort will be in vain, and others will only treat you as an object of venting.
Really smart people never wronged themselves, they understand that the essence of interpersonal relationships is value exchange, and only by improving themselves can they have enough say and be comfortable in interpersonal communication.
When you are able to do this, you will also be more awake and live a smoother life later.
01: Stick to the bottom line at all times
There is a cruel reality in today's society, that is: people can't get used to it, the more accustomed they are, the more muddy they become, the more people can't let it go, the more arrogant they become, and the more people can't hope for it, the more they feel cold.
Human nature is far more complex and cold than we think, and it is a big mistake to always hope that others will help us, and to lower our dignity because of it.
When you look down on others, others can't help but come over and step on you, only those who keep their principles and bottom line and don't let others bully them casually can give others majesty.
Stick to the bottom line at all times, you can afford yourself, and others will respect you.
Express basic principles and attitudes in interpersonal interactions, be kind to those who deserve it, and clearly refuse the unreasonable demands of others, so as not to give people with ulterior motives an opportunity.
In short, other people's attitude towards you is all given by you.
Within certain principles and proportions, we can treat others with kindness, but if we want to go beyond this category, we must have the attitude that we should have, so as not to let others gain an inch.
Sometimes, rejecting others is not ruthless, but smart, because only then will they be afraid of you and you will be invincible.
02: Never hope for anyone
Why are more and more people reluctant to participate in interpersonal interactions?
It's nothing more than that they finally discovered that interpersonal relationships do not depend on how often they attend dinners, not on how many good things they say, but only on the value of people.
Writer Lian Yue once said: "Social interaction has to return to personal value in the end."
When you have value, even if you don't say a word, others will come in a hurry and become friends with you, and if you have nothing and no ability, even if you grovel, others will be extremely despised.
Never hope for anyone when you're hitting a low point.
If you lose your value, others will only think you are dragging your feet, and the greater your hope, the deeper the disappointment.
It's better to settle down, work hard to polish yourself, and strive to have the ability to defend everything one day.
As long as you are strong enough, there is always a chance to overcome obstacles and create brilliance.
If you have become shining, others will naturally fall under your light.
Instead of pleasing others too much, it is better to strive to improve yourself, which is the most sober attitude in today's society.
I hope that for the rest of our lives, we will stop wasting our time trying to please others.
The more humble you are, the more you are bullied, the weaker you are, the more others look down on you.
Only by silencing others with your abilities, knowledge, and aura will they have the possibility of respecting you.
In a word, maintain an attitude of neither humility nor arrogance, become a better version of yourself, and the future will eventually be brilliant, and others will praise you.
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