I've read a sentence:
"The more you look at something beautiful, the more disgusting it becomes when it deteriorates. ”
Indeed, love always gives people beauty, but it also faces various tests. Especially when it comes to betrayal, it can often get out of hand.
The more you love each other, the more you will lose control and become disgusted even with yourself, such as this Shanghai girl Xiaoying.
Xiao Ying and Xiao Ai have been in love for seven years, and their relationship has always been as sweet as ever.
But recently, Xiao Ying feels that Xiao Ai is a little cold and often absent-minded about herself. Although Xiaoying asked many times, the other party always said "you are too sensitive".
Intuition tells Ying that things are far from simple. So, she began to peek at Xiao Ai's mobile phone and secretly track his whereabouts.
On this day, when Xiao Ying went out to run errands, she accidentally saw Xiao Ai shopping with another woman, and the two behaved intimately, so she quietly took a photo.
The next day, Xiao Ying took the photo and had a showdown with Xiao Ai.
In this regard, Xiao Ai frankly admitted that he had "changed his mind" because he had "no feelings" for Xiao Ying.
Xiao Ying lost control of her emotions, broke down and cried, angrily denouncing Xiao Ai as a "scumbag", saying that no matter how good her relationship is, she will not escape the "seven-year itch".
After that, she took a ride-hailing service and walked aimlessly.
The driver saw that she was depressed and kept chatting with her on the road, trying to comfort her wounded heart.
Xiaoying asked the driver if he was married, and the driver immediately talked happily about his wife and children, and said that although he worked hard, he felt that it was worth it for his family.
The driver's heartfelt expression is "hypocritical" in Xiaoying's eyes. Because she has just been betrayed, she thinks that men are "dishonest".
So, in revenge for her boyfriend's betrayal, she offered to have a relationship with the driver and said that she did not need him to be responsible.
The driver's uncle was stunned for a moment, and then rejected Xiaoying, thinking that this was not only disrespectful to him, but also an offense to his family.
He also said that he would never do anything that was sorry for his family.
Hearing the uncle's stern refusal, Xiao Ying's emotions collapsed again, and tears burst out of her eyes in an instant.
She couldn't understand why the loyalty that others could achieve couldn't be seen in her boyfriend.
After she shouted to get out of the car, she picked up the brick and smashed it frantically to vent the frustration in her heart.
In desperation, the driver had no choice but to call the police.
Later, under the mediation and coordination of the police, Xiaoying sincerely apologized to the driver and promised to compensate for all losses.
After the video was exposed, netizens discussed a lot, thinking that Xiaoying's behavior was too extreme, and praised the driver's responsible behavior.
I think of this sentence:
"Never punish yourself for someone else's mistakes. ”
In love, it is always the one who makes the mistake, not the one who is deceived.
So, don't embarrass yourself for those who don't love you, and don't hurt yourself for those who betray you.
Only rational handling and timely letting go are the king.
Masochistic revenge will only demean oneself
In life, similar "masochistic revenge" is not uncommon.
In Jingjiang, Jiangsu, after a woman learned that her boyfriend had betrayed her, she suddenly lost control of her emotions.
I saw her take off all her clothes and stand naked on the street.
Passers-by and merchants were stunned, men quickly turned their heads, and some women stepped forward to comfort her, trying to clothe her.
But the woman refused everyone's kindness, and still stood there stubbornly, claiming to wait for her boyfriend to appear and let the other party give her an explanation.
It is understood that the woman Li is 25 years old, has been in love with Wang for more than two years, and has begun to talk about marriage.
However, on the eve of her marriage, she found that Wang was having a private meeting with a woman in a hotel.
Li couldn't accept the facts, and his emotions instantly collapsed, and he immediately took revenge on his boyfriend in this "self-abuse" way.
After this incident was exposed, it aroused heated discussions among many netizens.
Some netizens left a message:
"If you strip naked, you will harm yourself, which boy will dare to marry you in the future?"
Yes, hurting yourself is the most ineffective and stupid thing to do.
This is not only difficult to save the relationship, but also makes Wang even more disgusted, and will eventually lead to a complete breakup, which can be described as more than worth the loss.
Zhang Ailing once said:
"In love, don't wronged yourself in order to cater to others, and don't use masochism to win sympathy. ”
If you make a bad decision on the spur of the moment, or act dangerously because of a moment of sadness, you can only end up hurting yourself.
Especially in the face of betrayal, self-contempt is the most dangerous and terrible. This will not only lead to harm to oneself, but will also cause endless distress to the family, until it falls into deeper despair and predicament.
If you live well, your life can be wonderful
Wang Lei, a 30-year-old Anwei girl, is a medical doctor, but was abandoned by her husband because of paralysis.
Today, with one finger, she has created a nonprofit website dedicated to helping others.
The turning point in her life came in 2012.
At that time, she had just come to work in the Second Affiliated Hospital of Nanchang. Soon, she entered the marriage hall with her husband, who is also a doctor.
However, in December of the same year, she suddenly developed a brainstem hemorrhage. Although she was saved by resuscitation, she fell into a deep coma and was found to be pregnant.
At this time, Wang Lei often had a high fever. In order to protect the fetus in her womb, she could only lie on the ice bed to cool down.
It wasn't until two weeks after the birth of his son that Wang Lei had another sudden cerebral hemorrhage, and his condition became more serious.
Half a year later, when Wang Lei woke up again, he was hit even harder: his whole body was paralyzed, his right eye was blind, and his face was distorted.
Wang Lei's rehabilitation process was extremely difficult, and the accompanying muscle and bone pain often made her miserable. But even so, they still insisted and met the standards.
When her parents helped her with massage, she always smiled and said that she had improved again. Gradually, she was able to sit up from bed, sit alone in a wheelchair, and even stand for 1 to 2 hours with the assistance of an instrument.
It's just that fate didn't have mercy on this poor man!
As soon as Wang Lei regained consciousness, her husband filed for divorce.
She understands her husband's difficulties and knows that a man who is just a young man has unlimited possibilities in the future. And his half-paralyzed body, how can the other party be willing to stay by his side?
Therefore, Wang Lei calmly accepted the divorce request.
Accompanied by her parents and young son, she returned home after two years of treatment in the hospital.
As a doctor in neurology, she used to be the pride of her family, but now she has become a "waste" who can't take care of herself, which she can't accept for a while.
When he was first discharged from the hospital, Wang Lei often cried, feeling that his life was meaningless.
But at the same time, she did not give up active rehabilitation.
When she got better, she decided to start a medical forum to do something for the benefit of others.
She learned programming and coding from scratch, popularized medical knowledge on forums, answered case inquiries from netizens, and became a well-known professional doctor on the Internet.
Because she is blind in her right eye, she can only see with her left eye, and she only types two or three words a minute on average. At the end of the day, she could only reply to a few netizens' inquiries, but she insisted on replying to posts every day.
Today, her forum has 8,000 members and nearly 10,000 posts. And she invested more than 8,000 hours.
But she didn't stop popularizing medical science. Hearing that netizens prefer to read WeChat, she registered an official account to continue to help others.
Talking about her progress, she posted her feelings on the Internet:
"Don't complain about God's injustice, but seek to be worthy of yourself. ”
Wang Lei was able to make her life wonderful, because she did not entangle when she was abandoned by her husband, and knew how to turn around and live herself in time, which was the wisest way to do so.
There is a classic line in "Spirited Away":
"Feelings are a part of life, not the whole story. Only by recognizing the reality can we enjoy life better. ”
In the relationship, only by living oneself well can one live a happy life, and only by being happy first can we bring happiness to others.
Many people often take feelings very seriously, and even regard feelings as the whole of life, which often puts themselves in a painful situation.
Therefore, if you want to live a happy life, you can only recognize the reality, love yourself well, and then meet the right person.
May everyone be sober and wise on the road of feelings, live their own lives, move forward bravely, and reap the fruits of happiness.