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Zen Master Zongyan said: "The birth and death of a person is like a drop of water, which is born and extinguished, and returns to water." ”
Life is like a drop of water, starting from springs and mountain streams, passing through streams and rivers, and returning to the sea in a hundred turns. When you reach the sea, your life is over. If, in the future, the water droplets evaporate, turn into clouds, and fall to land, it is an afterlife.
Regarding life and death, it is very indifferent to say, after all, no one can hide. But when life reaches the threshold of life and death, or is approaching the threshold, it is inevitable that you will be worried.
In the novel "Alive", it is said: "Don't be confused, the dead still want to come back to life, and you can't die as a big living person." ”
It is not difficult to find that it is everyone's long-cherished wish to live well, but many people turn their lives into a mess because they are afraid of life and death. As long as you adjust yourself and live naturally, the quality of life can be improved.
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First, when people are old and can't walk, they must let go of their inner fears and remain calm.
Before his death, Confucius said: "Yesterday evening, I gave my dream to sit on the two pillars, and I gave it to the first Yin people." ”
He had a dream that he knew the ins and outs of his life, and then talked peacefully with his student Zigong.
"Murphy's Law" tells us that the more you fear something, the more it will happen. Bad things, when they take root in your heart, will continue to get bad.
When you have sunshine and spring in your heart, the days when you can't walk will also have warmth and more love.
As you can imagine, an old man with a smile on his face is more popular than an old man with a sad face. Young people like to listen to good words and look good.
We came to this world because we have a fate with the "world", and when we return, our fate with the world has come to an end, and at the same time, all our sufferings have been liberated, which is not a bad thing.
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Second, when people are old and can't walk, they should take the initiative to arrange the aftermath and say goodbye with dignity.
Before Zhuangzi died, his disciples prepared a very valuable coffin for him, and he said: "I take heaven and earth as coffins, the sun and the moon as the connecting stones, the stars as pearls, and all things as gifts." ”
In the face of life and death, he can also talk to his disciples about philosophy, telling everyone that when treating the elderly, we must be generous and buried, and don't do it vigorously after the old man passes away.
Happiness belongs to everyone, but it really belongs to the "posterity". If it is a deceased person, it leads to a large amount of family expenses, which is obviously a drag on future generations.
When Zhuangzi was young, he refused to go to the imperial court to be an official, and said that he wanted to be a free turtle in the mud, not a turtle shell to be enshrined.
Zhuangzi, who was indifferent to fame and fortune all his life, has been admired by countless descendants, and this is the real "farewell".
There is a familiar saying: "There is a man who lives, and he is dead; Some people are dead, and he's still alive. ”
At all times, you must have spirit and don't let your ugliness be laughed at by outsiders.
Talk to the younger generations about their wishes and talk about life. In the future, the younger generations will follow suit, and your good practices can be spread in the family, thus forming a good family style.
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Third, when people are old and can't walk, they must let go of all their interests and grievances and live simply.
For as long as we can remember, there have always been people who disgust us, and there are people who hurt each other. Grievances between people, in the final analysis, are conflicts of interests. At the same time, there will also be some desires in our hearts, hoping for money and status.
There is a good saying: "A man dies like a lamp goes out." ”
Everything has come to naught, and you are still scheming with others, which is obviously superfluous. When your inner thoughts are simpler, and you can shake hands with your enemies, your pattern will become bigger. Moreover, you did not leave the hatred to the next generation.
In the Spring and Autumn Period, Qi Jinggong went to Niushan to play, saw the vast wilderness of Qi Kingdom, and said with tears in his eyes: "I am a monarch, if I never die, it would be good." ”
Minister Yan Zi replied: "If your wish comes true, then your elder Qi Huan Gong is still alive, how can you become a monarch? ”
Qi Jinggong had an epiphany, and then smiled.
When a person's heart is free of desires, life will be peaceful. When people are old and can't walk, it doesn't matter, their hearts are still happy, and they are still happy with three meals a day.
In the twilight of my life, I was confused and ignorant because of something that "I don't take away when I die".
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Fourth, when people are old and can't walk, they should care about their spouses and retain their true feelings for a lifetime.
"When you're old, your hair is gray, you're sleepy, when you're old, you can't walk, you take a nap by the fire, and you reminisce about your youth. ”
A few popular lyrics let us see the beauty of dusk, and also let us look forward to a lifetime of love. In the last days of life, we can still have our wife by our side, be able to chat, recall the happiness of having children, and the excitement of the first encounter, which can make us forget the pain.
Before my second aunt passed away, she often said to my second uncle, "In this life, I am fortunate to have you." It's a blessing for me to go first. ”
Regarding the issue of twilight love, the second aunt said that she should not deliberately block it. If you can have the right person, accept it calmly, after all, when two people get along, there is no loneliness.
Yes, the person who left first received the best care from his wife, which is a sign of "blessing to old age". If you pick and choose your wife, it will make your wife sad.
Romance knows no age, and it doesn't need to be inhibited. Therefore, in front of our wife, we must say nothing and live as the poetry of "death is as quiet and beautiful as autumn leaves".
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"Alive" said: "As long as the family is together every day, they don't care about any blessings." ”
I hope that the children of the world can understand the difficulties of their parents and accompany them patiently in their last days. It is not difficult to deliver meals to parents, but the difficult thing is to make them happy.
You know, everybody gets older. The love you have for your parents today will come back to you years from now.
I hope that the old people in the world can grow old naturally, not toss life, and do not torture their bodies. Even if the pain comes, it can lead to a lighter pain because of a good attitude.
The family is surrounded and reunited, which is a hundred times better than having a thousand dollars in the waist.
Finally, may you and I be as blessed as the East China Sea and live longer than Nanshan.