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When I learned that my ex-daughter-in-law had bought a house and my mother-in-law asked to come back and remarry, my heart was full of contradictions and struggles. It may seem like an opportunity to turn down, but I know I can't afford to climb your home. This family, for me, is undoubtedly a high mountain that I cannot climb.
As an ordinary girl, I loved my husband dearly, but I have to admit that our family backgrounds are too different. From my mother-in-law's request, I felt invisible pressure and great challenges, and my heart could not be calm for a long time. I don't really know how to deal with this.
When I sat with my ex-daughter-in-law, I tried to find something to talk about to lighten the mood. She looked at me with doubts and helplessness in her eyes: "My mother-in-law said that she is willing to let me come back, as long as she writes her name on this house." But I can't afford to climb into your house, and I know I can't fit into your life. ”
I was stunned and speechless. Her words were like a slam blow to me, waking me up from my dream. In the face of her resolute attitude, I fell into deep contemplation. She is just an ordinary girl, her family is not rich, but she has strong beliefs and dignity. She didn't choose to give in, she didn't choose to succumb to pressure. She expresses her attitude towards life in her own way.
"I can understand your concern. I tried to enlighten her, "But perhaps, we can face it all together." ”
"Can you understand?" she looked up, her eyes flashing with incredulity, "A family like yours is destined to be unable to understand ordinary people. ”
This sentence was like a sharp sword, piercing my heart. I understood that what she said was not superficial understanding, but inner contradictions and struggles. She's not wrong, and I can't deny that there's a huge gap between me and her. After all, our values and lifestyles are so different.
At that moment, I finally understood more of what she meant. Since she became my ex-daughter-in-law, the distance between us has become shorter, but it also seems to be more distant. Her choice left me in confusion and struggle.
"Perhaps, I can try to change?" I tried to find some reason to convince myself.
"Change?" she smiled, "you want to change, but are you really willing to let go of your vanity and prejudices in life?
Her words pierced my heart like a needle. I couldn't answer her question because I probably didn't have the courage to face a new version of myself.
As I stood beside her, I felt as if I saw my own shadow. She wasn't perfect, but she had a natural courage and tenacity. She didn't choose to escape, she didn't choose to give in, but lived her life in her own way. This makes me feel admiration and envy.
"Perhaps, I really can't climb your house. I muttered to myself and finally chose to face my heart. From that day on, I decided that I would never run away from it, and I would never choose to avoid it again. I have to face the uncertainty and the unknowable in my own way. Just like her, embrace life bravely.
From that moment on, I began to try to change myself, accept my imperfections, and let go of those vanities and prejudices. I told myself that no matter what happened, I would face it firmly. Because, I can't climb your house, but I can choose to be a stronger and braver version of myself.
I gradually discovered that not all problems in life can be solved by money and status. When I let go of those superficial emotions and jealousies and began to really look at her and her choices as an equal, I realized that she was not as unattainable as I thought.
We started talking slowly, and there were no more estrangements and misunderstandings. Perhaps, we can't be best friends yet, but at least, we are beginning to understand each other. The distance between me and her seemed to be getting closer and closer, and the confusion in my heart gradually dissolved.
I began to try to make some life plans with her, invest and manage money together, find more common topics, and travel together. I found that she was not as unattainable as I had thought before, and that she also longed to be understood and accepted.
Once, we went on a trip to Thailand, which was close to her heart. There, I saw her curiosity and enthusiasm for all kinds of customs, and she used her camera to record every scene, every interesting little stall. We tasted local snacks and felt the local folk customs together, and I found that her eyes were full of the pursuit of beauty and love for life. In the face of her like this, I feel extremely surprised and admired.
"You know, I always thought you were a high-minded person, unapproachable, and it seems that I really misunderstood you. I said to her apologetically.
She smiled, and there was a hint of happiness and relief in her eyes: "Actually, we have all misunderstood each other, and it doesn't matter. I also always thought that you were a person who lived in an ivory tower and had no interest in life. It wasn't until now that I realized that we didn't know each other. ”
This sentence made me deeply realize that perhaps the estrangement between people does not really exist, but is caused by misunderstanding and prejudice in our hearts. I began to appreciate her more and be more willing to accept her.
Before I knew it, the relationship between me and her was no longer as rusty and strained as it used to be. We began to open up to each other, sharing stories and feelings, and discovering that we had many unexpected things in common.
And slowly, she gradually accepted the family and maintained a better and better relationship with me. We discussed financial management and took care of the family together, and gradually formed a common force, and we began to face all kinds of pressures and trials around us together.
In a chance conversation, I expressed my determination to her: "Perhaps, I will not be able to climb your house. But I am willing to face the challenges of the future with you and create our own happiness together. ”
After hearing this, her eyes filled with tears: "I always thought that you were the one who couldn't understand me, but it turns out that you also have such struggles and pain in your heart. ”
From that day on, we decided to face everything that would happen together. We are no longer swayed by family differences, but cherish and stick to them with our hearts. We also find that our inner strength is stronger than it seems.
When I see her fighting for our common cause, I am even sometimes infected by her tenacity and persistence. I found that she was not as indecisive as I imagined, but a woman with her own strong beliefs, and I gradually found that I began to become stronger, and there were no longer so many estrangements and misunderstandings between us.
She and I have finally become friends and partners in the true sense of the word. We use each other's ways to create our own happiness together. That time is still so beautiful and precious. We have gone through many difficult moments together, but also shared many sweet moments together. As a result, our relationship became deeper and stronger.
Eventually, I learned that everyone in life deserves to be respected and understood. Different family backgrounds do not mean that they cannot integrate with each other, the key is whether they are willing to let go of prejudice and appreciate each other's value and beauty. Because in the end, what we are pursuing is a love of equality, tolerance and mutual understanding. Perhaps, I can't climb your home, but I can choose to love you with my heart, to understand you, and to create our own happiness together.
A year later, my relationship with my ex-daughter-in-law became more and more harmonious. On this day, we were sitting in a sunny café and suddenly provoked the previous topic.
"I'm glad we were able to come together. She said lightly.
I took my coffee and responded with a smile: "yes, I really didn't expect us to come together before, after all, the gap between us is a bit big." ”
She gently stirred the orange juice in her hand: "Yes, but I think, it's all worth it." Because we have become more and more aware of how to understand each other, rather than being influenced by each other's background. ”
I nodded: "yes, not everyone in life can smoothly integrate into a new family. But I'm glad I didn't miss you, and I didn't miss getting to know you. ”
She smiled slightly: "And I, too, am glad that I have found someone who is willing to face difficulties with me." ”
We quietly savored each other's words. At that moment, I deeply understood that maybe we didn't start from the same place, but we could move forward together in the journey of life. Perhaps, I didn't find a noble family, but I found someone who understood me and loved me.
She looked at me: "Perhaps, life doesn't always go the way we expected, but as long as we are willing to let go of our prejudices and are willing to grow together with each other, there is nothing that cannot be overcome." ”
I smiled slightly: "That's right, being a person who is willing to understand each other with his heart and be willing to tolerate each other is actually a way to have a bigger world." ”
Since that day, our lives haven't changed much, but our hearts have grown closer. Perhaps, I can't climb her home, but I have found someone worthy of love and true happiness. In this relationship, I found what I really should be. And for me, that's happy enough.
For a long time, the relationship between me and my ex-daughter-in-law was like the warm yellow light of the café, quietly maintaining warmth and harmony. Gradually, I also began to realize that happiness does not necessarily come from unattainable things, but more from mutual understanding and tolerance.
One day, my son brought my grandson to visit me, and I was playing and laughing in the yard with them. I felt extremely relieved and satisfied, as if the world had become gentle. When my son told me that he and his ex-daughter-in-law were going to have a wedding, I was moved with emotion. "We feel that we are ready to start again and meet a better future together. My son said to me with a smile of relief.
Sitting in the café, my conversation with my ex-daughter-in-law caused me to think deeply about myself. I looked at her and said slowly, "Actually, I'm really happy that you can be together again. ”
She smiled slightly: "Thank you for your blessings, I know it was not an easy decision, but I believe we are ready." ”
"You know, I'm glad that our relationship is like this. Perhaps, I have always thought that we cannot be accepted and understood between us. I took a sip of my coffee, "But your choices and attitudes have made me realize that love should not be limited to family backgrounds and conditions. ”
She looked up at me: "Yes, everyone deserves to be loved, and every relationship deserves to be respected." No matter what regrets and difficulties there are in the past, as long as we want to, we can always pick ourselves up and welcome a new beginning. ”
I was silent for a moment and nodded: "Perhaps, we can't choose the family conditions we have, but we can choose how to understand and face our own lives. Just like you, go and re-pursue your own happiness. ”
She whispered: "Marriage is not everything, but it can give people strength and support, and become the strength we face together in everything." ”
I smiled: "Yes, I think so." Maybe we've never been able to climb high, it's just that we've been so caught up in the shadow of the suspense of the past that we forget to look forward. ”
In mutual understanding and care, we spent that afternoon together. When I stood at the door of the café and looked back at her smiling and talking to the waiter, my heart was full of emotion and emotion.
Perhaps, I once couldn't climb her house, but I found the happiness I really should do. I will use a more tolerant and understanding way, no longer being swayed by the so-called family conditions, but cherishing and sticking to it with my heart. I will continue to look forward in the days to come and cherish the happiness that I truly have.
Time passed quickly, my relationship with my ex-daughter-in-law became closer, and we became friends and partners that we could rely on in life. Every communication with her was full of understanding and warmth.
One day, we went to my son's house together for a family dinner. There, I discovered that my ex-daughter-in-law and I were not just connected because of our son, and in front of her, I felt that I didn't need to hide myself and could show my true self without reservation. We are no longer limited by family backgrounds, but by mutual understanding and tolerance.
When night fell, we stood in front of my son's house. She looked at me with a smile: "Thank you, mother-in-law, you made me feel the warmth of home." ”
I patted her hand gently: "Thank you, you have made me understand that happiness is not unattainable, but slowly experienced in mutual understanding and support." With you, my life has become much richer. ”
She said softly: "Maybe family is not what we expected, but in the company of each other, it makes home more warm." ”
During this time, we have grown and communicated with each other, and I feel extremely happy. I understand that different experiences and perceptions in life can lead to misunderstandings and prejudices, but as long as we are willing to understand each other with our hearts, we can transcend these boundaries and discover a more colorful life.
In getting along with my former daughter-in-law, I learned how to love with my heart, how to tolerate and understand, and I also realized that happiness does not depend on external material conditions, but is built in the depths of my soul.
Now, I may still not be able to climb her home, but I have found my own home and found my own happiness. In this relationship, we found what we should really be, and we walked into our own happiness together.
For a long time, my relationship with my ex-daughter-in-law has become deeper and deeper. One day, we went to a charity event together, and the volunteer association organized a hospital to help some elderly people with limited mobility.
Downstairs in the hospital, we were supporting an elderly person with limited mobility, and the former daughter-in-law said while supporting the old man: "Now these elderly people live alone, we want to help them tide over the difficulties and let them feel the care of the society." ”
I nodded and responded, "Yes, we can also get joy from it, and it feels like a reward." ”
When we sent the old man to the destination, the old man's smile made people feel warm, and the former daughter-in-law gently patted the old man's hand, and the old man also looked at us gratefully and said, "You are really kind people, thank you." ”
On the way back, we looked at each other and smiled, and a feeling of happiness welled up in our hearts.
I turned to look at my ex-daughter-in-law and said, "It's good to be able to do something like this with you, this experience has made us understand the feeling of love even more." ”
She smiled and nodded, "Well, I also feel that it was a meaningful experience, and our lives have become more fulfilling because of it." ”
Walking in the sun, I felt a sense of happiness welling up in my heart. We've walked so much hand in hand, learned to understand and support each other, and found the strength to love and grow together. In this relationship, I found who I really should be, and I learned to love and understand with my heart. I found that life is like a glass of water, only by relaxing our minds and experiencing it with our hearts will we be clearer and brighter.
In getting along with my former daughter-in-law, I learned how to be tolerant and considerate, and I also realized that happiness does not depend on external material conditions, but is based on inner satisfaction and enjoyment.
Now, I may still not be able to climb the status of her family, but I have found my true home and found my own happiness. In this relationship, we found what we should really be, and we walked into our own happiness together.