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My name is Lin Xiao, a thirty-five-year-old ordinary housewife, and in this small town, my life is like a serial drama, and the joys, sorrows, and sorrows of the family are staged every day. My husband Li Gang is an ordinary company employee, and we have a pair of children, our daughter Lin Xin is seven years old, and our son Lin Hao is five years old. My life seems ordinary, but there are many hidden waves.
That afternoon, I was busy preparing dinner in the kitchen. I peeled the shrimp while listening to the children playing in the living room outside the kitchen. I thought it was going to be another quiet evening, but things turned out to be unexpected.
"Mom, I want to eat shrimp too!" Lin Hao said excitedly as he ran into the kitchen. His eyes sparkled with a desire for food.
I smiled and agreed to him, "Okay, mom will peel a few for you." So, I put the peeled shrimp in his small bowl.
At this moment, Lin Xin also ran in. When she saw that there were shrimp in Lin Hao's bowl, she immediately said dissatisfiedly: "Mom, why don't you peel the shrimp for him and not for me?
I quickly explained: "Xinxin, Mom will also peel it for you, you go wash your hands first." ”
However, Lin Xin didn't listen, she ran back to the living room in a huff, still muttering. I sighed and continued peeling the shrimp.
At dinner, Li Gang also joined in this little family drama. While eating, he jokingly said, "Xiaoxiao, why are you so partial, only peeling shrimp for Haohao and not for Xinxin?"
I replied helplessly: "I'm not partial, it's that Xinxin hasn't had time to say it, and I've already peeled it off for Haohao." ”
After Lin Xin heard this, she looked at me with tears in her eyes: "Mom, do you really not love me?"
I felt a sour feeling in my heart, and hurriedly comforted her: "Of course not, my mother loves you two the same." ”
At that moment, there was a knock at the door. I went to open the door and found that it was Aunt Zhang, the next-door neighbor. Aunt Zhang is a warm-hearted person and often comes over to chat.
"Xiaoxiao, I saw that the lights in your house were still on, so I came over to see if there was anything I needed help with. Aunt Zhang said with a smile.
I invited her into the house, and Aunt Zhang saw the dishes on the table and praised them: "Xiaoxiao, the dishes you cook are really good, the shrimp looks so attractive." ”
I replied with a smile, but in my heart I was thinking about Lin Xin's reaction just now. I feel that small conflicts in the family are like undercurrents that may erupt at any time.
After dinner, when I was cleaning up the dining table, Li Gang and Aunt Zhang were sitting in the living room chatting. Li Gang said
"Xiaoxiao, don't be too tired of yourself, children are like this sometimes, just a little emotion for a while. He tried to temper the atmosphere with this relaxed tone.
Aunt Zhang nodded, and then said, "Yes, the children are still young and don't know how to understand the hardships of adults. Xiaoxiao, you also have to pay attention to adjusting your mentality. ”
I smiled in response, but there was something wrong with me in my heart. I know that what Li Gang and Aunt Zhang said is for my good, but I always feel that they don't really understand my distress.
That night, I was tossing and turning in bed. Lin Xin's reaction today deeply troubled me. I wondered, as a mother, did I really not do well enough? Did I inadvertently favor Lin Hao?
The next day, I decided to take the kids out for a walk. We went to a nearby park. The park is full of greenery and flowers, and the children are chasing and playing on the grass, looking very happy.
Lin Xin and Lin Hao were tired of playing and sat next to me to rest. I tried to chat with Lin Xin to find out what she really thought.
"Xinxin, are you still angry about how your mother peeled the shrimp for Haohao yesterday?" I asked cautiously.
Lin Xin shook her head, "Don't be angry, Mom." But I just think you love your brother more. ”
My heart tightened, trying to keep my composure, "Xinxin, Mom loves you and my brother the same." There may be times when your mother's expression is not good enough and you misunderstand. Mom will pay more attention in the future. ”
After hearing this, Lin Xin seemed to be a little relieved, she leaned on my shoulder and whispered, "Mom, I know." ”
I hugged her softly, but in my heart I thought that as parents, we often unknowingly make mistakes that can deeply affect the hearts and minds of our children.
On the way home, we met my husband's colleague, Mr. Zhao. He is a kind middle-aged man with a wealth of life experience.
When Mr. Zhao saw us, he greeted us with a smile: "Lin Xiao, take the children out to play, this is the best parent-child time." ”
I nodded and smiled, "yes, take them out to breathe while the weather is good on the weekend." ”
Mr. Zhao looked at Lin Xin and Lin Hao, "The children are so cute, you must be a happy family." ”
I smiled in response, but I wondered what he would think if he knew about the little conflicts in our family.
That night, I decided to have a good talk with Lee. I told him about my worries about Lin Xin and how confused I was about my role as a mother.
After Li Gang heard this, he was silent for a while. Then he said, "Xiaoxiao, I know you're working hard. We, as parents, will all have nos
Perfect time. But it is important that we learn to learn from our mistakes and to take better care of our children. ”
I nodded, grateful to Li Gang for his understanding and support. We decided to work together to create a more harmonious family environment for the children.
A few days later, I organized a small house gathering with a few neighbors and their children. I want to make Lin Xin feel the warmth and happiness of her family through such activities.
At the party, the children had a great time. I have prepared a lot of small games and snacks that the children will love. Lin Xin and Lin Hao also quickly integrated into this joyful atmosphere.
Aunt Yang, a mother in the neighborhood, walked up to me and said with a smile: "Lin Xiao, you really have the heart to see the children having so much fun." ”
I smiled and replied, "Yes, I am also happy to see the children happy." ”
Aunt Yang looked at Lin Xin, who was playing with other children, and suddenly said, "Lin Xiao, I noticed that your daughter seems to be a little depressed recently, is something happening?"
I was taken aback, but I didn't expect Aunt Yang to notice. I briefly explained to her some of the things that had been going on at home recently.
Aunt Yang nodded, and then said, "As parents, we always want to give our children the best, but sometimes we accidentally ignore their feelings. I have been in a similar situation before, and then I have communicated more with my children to make them feel equal and loved by the family. ”
I listened carefully to Aunt Yang's words and felt very grateful in my heart. After the party, I decided to follow Aunt Yang's advice and communicate with Lin Xin more to understand her thoughts and feelings.
A few days later, I took Lin Xin and Lin Hao to a nearby library. There, I found out that Lin Xin was interested in a book about family stories. I bought the book and read it to her and Lin Hao at home at night.
As I read and read, I noticed that Lin Xin's expression gradually relaxed, and she seemed to be attracted by the warm family picture in the story. After reading the story, I asked her softly, "Shin Shin, do you like this story?"
Lin Xin nodded, and then said, "Mom, I also hope that our family can be as happy as in the story." ”
My heart warmed and I hugged her tightly: "Shin Shin, Mom will work hard, and together we will make our home warmer and happier." ”
The next day, I decided to discuss with Li Gang again, in order to give the children a better environment to grow up, we planned to do some family activities, such as weekend parent-child outings, evening story time, etc.
Li Gang was very supportive of my idea, he said, "Xiaoxiao, this is a very good idea. We work together to give the kids a boost
A home full of love. ”
We decided to arrange a family activity every weekend, whether it's a picnic in the park or a visit to a museum, so that the children can learn while having fun while strengthening the bond between family members.
Over the next few weekends, we went to the nearby zoo, the beach, and even hiking and hiking. These activities not only excited the children, but also allowed Li Gang and me to rediscover the joy of family life.
During these activities, I paid special attention to observing Lin Xin's reactions. I found that when she saw that Li Gang and I treated her and Lin Hao as equals, her smile was even brighter. I know that our efforts have not been in vain, and the atmosphere of the family is gradually changing.
One night, Li Gang and I were sitting on the sofa planning next weekend's activities, Lin Xin and Lin Hao ran over, and Lin Xin said excitedly: "Mom, Dad, I want to go hiking next weekend? ”
Li Gang and I looked at each other and smiled, and then I replied, "Of course, climbing the mountain sounds interesting." ”
Lin Hao also jumped in agreement, and I saw their excited looks, and my heart was full of satisfaction.
That weekend, our family of four went to a famous mountainous area. Although the journey to the mountain was hard, seeing the beautiful scenery from the top of the mountain, we all felt that all the hard work was worth it. We took a group photo at the top of the mountain, and at that moment, I deeply felt the happiness of my family.
On the way home, Lin Xin suddenly said, "Mom, Dad, thank you." I now feel like our family is the happiest family in the world. ”
Hearing Lin Xin say this, Li Gang and I looked at each other and smiled, feeling extremely relieved. We know that despite the ups and downs in family life, if we work together, we can overcome the difficulties and fill the family with love and happiness.
At night, I lay in bed and thought about the past time. I realized that as a mother, I need to care not only about my children's material life, but more importantly, about their emotional needs. Every child is unique, and their feelings and needs for love are different.
I decided that from now on, I will pay more attention to the communication with the children, try to understand their feelings, and make them feel loved and valued by everyone in the family.
A few days later, at a family dinner, I proposed, "Kids, let's have a little game, and everyone takes turns talking about what they've been most happy about recently and why." ”
Lin Xin was the first to speak: "The happiest thing for me was the day I went to climb the mountain, because our whole family was together and saw such a beautiful scenery." ”
Lin Hao said: "The happiest thing for me was when my mother taught me to make cakes, because my father and sister said that the cakes I made were delicious. ”
Listen to the children's answers,
I felt very homely. Li Gang also said with a smile: "What I am happiest about is seeing our family become closer and happier because of these common activities. ”
Then when it was my turn to share, I took a deep breath and said, "The happiest thing for me is to see each and every one of you happy." Because the happiness of my family is the most important thing to me. ”
Our laughter and conversation echoed around the dinner table, and at this moment, I deeply felt the harmony and happiness of the family. I realized that although there will inevitably be conflicts and misunderstandings in life, as long as we are willing to communicate and understand, we can always find a solution to the problem.
A few weeks later, I noticed something new again. Lin Xin began to take the initiative to help me with housework, and the quarrels between her and Lin Hao were significantly reduced. I am very relieved that she has become more sensible and considerate.
One afternoon, when I was tidying up my house, I overheard Lin Xin talking to Lin Hao. "Haohao, in fact, my sister used to be jealous of you sometimes, because Mom and Dad always seemed to take better care of you. But now I know that Mom and Dad love us all the same. ”
Lin Hao looked at her and blinked his big eyes, "Sister, me too, sometimes I am jealous of you, because you always do better than me." But I also know that Mom and Dad love us. ”
Hearing the children's conversations, my eyes moistened. I realized that our efforts not only improved the atmosphere in the family, but also helped the children learn to understand and be considerate.
Over time, I have not only found balance in my family life, but also gained new things in my personal growth. I started participating in parent-child activities organized by the community to share our experiences and insights with other parents. These interactions not only allowed me to gain new friends, but also allowed me to further deepen my understanding of family and parenting while helping others.
During a parent-child event, I met an Aunt Li who is also a mother of twins. She shared her experience with me: "In twin education, the most important thing is to make each child feel unique and valued. Every child has their own light, and we, as parents, strive to discover and nurture their uniqueness. ”
Aunt Li's words touched me deeply. I began to pay more attention to observing Lin Xin and Lin Hao's personalities and interests, and encouraged them to develop their own strengths. Lin Xin has a strong interest in painting, while Lin Hao is particularly interested in music. Li Gang and I decided to give them more learning opportunities.
Time passed quietly, and in the blink of an eye, the children had grown up. Lin Xin's paintings won an award at the school's art exhibition, Lin Hao
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