Hello, this is a persistent little steamed bun, today's topic is why China's divorce rate is so high? Do you have any divorce around you? For what reason? Is life after divorce really as comfortable as you imagined? Let's explore with me!
1. When dating, go on a long-distance trip for a week, don't go with a group, and do it yourself. The concept of money, values, world view, how to be unhappy together, how to solve problems, how to perform their duties, what attitude to deal with in a hurry, etc., is much more accurate than many dates that eat and watch movies, and the problem of inappropriateness can be exposed. It's fun to travel together, and if you want to go together next time, there is a high probability that the future will develop in a good direction
2. Is it too early to get married?
I feel that the age of marriage is not too early, I graduated from college and got married on a blind date, and now I think about it at that time, I didn't understand anything, so I got married and got pregnant and had children
3. Is marriage a big gamble?
Marriage is actually a big gamble, only a very small number of gamblers win, and there are not many real gamblers who lose, most people are about to protect their capital when they win and lose, and their mood and life are also good and bad with winning or losing
4. There is no such thing as a perfect person, and it is most important to know what you want.
Not knowing that people have strengths and weaknesses will lead to the other extreme: fear of marriage. I feel that my future partner is both domestic violence and poor and does not do housework. In fact, the other half of most people is better in this aspect and worse in that aspect, and most people themselves have advantages and disadvantages.
5. It's important to be at the door! !️
When I was young, I felt that this was snobbery, and I was carried away by true love, and only after I got married did I know that the two families who were right had the same lifestyle concept and similar education level, and there would not be so many conflicts, and all love would disappear in the contradictions again and again!
6. Marriage requires an economic foundation and an emotional foundation
So I've always felt that marriage needs an economic foundation and an emotional foundation, the former requires people's business and ability to do things, and the latter tests people's spiritual world, often they are calm enough to better love and maintain emotions, many people feel as if people are poisoned by novels and idol dramas?
7. Is marriage a close match?
When you look at pride and prejudice at a very young age, you know that marriage is evenly matched. Although Elizabeth is not as good-looking as the eldest sister, she loves to read, has thoughts, and is willing to admit her own shortcomings for her own prejudices, after learning that Darcy helped her sister, she did not feel ashamed and felt humiliated, but was grateful for the other party's help, and she did not have stage fright when talking to Aunt Darcy, so she met Darcy who was more capable. After confirming that I needed marriage, I began to keep in contact with the opposite sex and try to fall in love, excluding the parts I didn't want in love, slowly confirming my real needs, and finally found my husband. has been together for 12 years, the child is seven years old, giving each other, understanding each other, understanding each other, and taking responsibility for each other, to be honest, it is far from being comparable to the sparse patriarchal original family