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In 2000, Cao Zhaogang and his wife sold their property, smashed the pot and sold iron to scrape together 70,000 yuan, and sent their only daughter to study abroad. Before parting, everything was normal in my daughter's condition, but within a few years, my daughter who was far away in Germany suddenly lost news and did not return home for more than 20 years.
Later, the two old people suffered from cancer one after another, and it was the time when their daughter came forward to take care of them, but they disappeared for a long time, and after this incident was reported by the media, I learned that my daughter was living a good life, and she became a German professor.
This parents are having a hard time at home, but she is enjoying happiness abroad, and many people think that this daughter is "unfilial" and "white-eyed wolf". But when I understood what happened, I found that it was not simple.
Why didn't the two old men's daughters come home? Is there something hidden in that? Did they finally get in touch?
Study abroad, nowhere to be seen
In 2000, Cao Zhaogang's daughter Cao Qian took the money her father had collected and set out on the road to Germany. Before going abroad, the couple also took a family photo with their daughter.
As you can see from the photos, they were very happy at that time, and their short-haired daughter snuggled up to her mother, very close.
After going to Germany, Cao Qian also reported her safety to her family, and in the first three years, Cao Qian was still in contact with her family, and during this time, she studied language courses for two years, and later entered the University of Hamburg, where she studied German.
Because the family is not wealthy, Cao Qian wants to live in Germany, in addition to the living expenses of her parents, she also has to work outside. But this job is not stable, and the boss often squeezes her and deducts her salary at every turn, and Cao Qian will also complain to her parents about these things.
Although her life in Germany was a bit hard, Cao Qian gritted her teeth and persevered in order to successfully complete her studies, and later she also took courses across grades. The old couple also hopes that their daughter will complete her studies as soon as possible and the family can be reunited.
But in 2003, Cao Qian, who was far away in Germany, had no news after a phone call with her family, as if the world had evaporated, which made Cao Zhaogang feel very strange.
With the loss of contact with her daughter, many people think that she abandoned her parents, but Cao Qian has been very obedient since she was a child, and there was nothing unusual before the loss of contact, Cao Zhaogang did not believe this statement. So why did Cao Qian lose contact? This has to start from her experience.
The daughter was born, sensible and obedient
Cao Zhaogang and his wife Liu Yuhong are from Lushun, and soon after they got married, they became pregnant with a child, and in 1979, Cao Qian was born. Although the family conditions are not wealthy, the two have not treated their daughter badly since she was a child, and tried their best to give her the best life.
To their gratification, Cao Qian's results are okay, and she has won a lot of awards, especially in Japanese, which is particularly outstanding, and she also won the first place in the single subject of Japanese.
Because their daughter is excellent, the two of them are also proud of her, and every time they hear others praise their daughter, they will be very happy.
After her daughter went to middle school, Cao Zhaogang encouraged her daughter to participate in various competitions, Cao Qian was also very good, and she also qualified for the finals of the mathematics competition, and her results in the high school entrance examination were also very good.
After the college entrance examination in 1998, Cao Qian's score reached the first line, at that time, the two of them were very excited, but it also meant that their daughter was getting farther and farther away from them, which made them very difficult.
So in order not to let their daughter go too far from home, they suggested that she apply for Liaoning Normal University, but Cao Qian had a different idea, she wanted to leave home and see the wider world.
But under the repeated advice of her parents, Cao Qian finally compromised, she applied for the education technology major, and successfully entered Liaoning Normal University.
In 2003, the school had a place to study in Germany, which made Cao Qian eager to sign up immediately, and successfully obtained the qualification to go abroad.
However, this quota is special and is not assigned by the school, so the expenses after going abroad must be borne by yourself, which is about 70,000 or 80,000 yuan.
But in that situation at that time, it was difficult for Cao Zhaogang to come up with this money, their annual salary was less than 10,000 yuan, and in addition, Cao Zhaogang happened to be laid off, and the two could not pay the money.
In the end, in order to meet their daughter's wishes, Cao Zhaogang and his wife decided to send their daughter to study abroad, during that time, they were frugal, and they owed 60,000 yuan in debt, and finally got the money for their daughter to study abroad.
But what they never expected was that after their daughter went abroad for three years, there was no news. When they sent their daughter abroad, their hair was still black, but their hair turned all white, and they didn't wait for their daughter to come home.
In addition to the loss of contact with their daughter, they also suffered another bad news, that is, cancer.
Suffering from cancer, the search for a woman was unsuccessful
In 2020, Cao Zhaogang and his wife suffered from cancer one after another. My wife has breast cancer, her hair is all white, and her heart is not good, and she has been rescued many times.
Cao Zhaogang also suffered from kidney cancer, and in the case of illness, he had to take care of the family's cherry orchard and take care of his wife.
The successive illnesses of the two also made them feel that their time was running out, and their only wish was to see their lost daughter, and to have news of her, hoping to know about their daughter's situation before she died.
After his daughter lost contact, Cao Zhaogang also searched for his daughter everywhere, but the final result was the same, that is, there was no news.
At the beginning, Cao Zhaogang and his wife found some Cao Qian's classmates, hoping that they would help contact them, and also found many relatives and friends, but the result was not very satisfactory.
Some people say that Cao Qian is doing well in Germany, but there is no contact information, and there is also a saying that Cao Qian is married, and has become a German citizen.
But there is no evidence to prove these news, in the eyes of the old couple, these words are also to comfort them, and also to let them stop tossing and give up looking for their daughter.
In 2018, the elderly Cao Zhaogang wanted to apply for a death certificate for his daughter because she could not be contacted for a long time. And when the staff learned about his situation, they also came forward to contact him to see if they could find his daughter in Germany.
After receiving the request for help, the staff of the Consulate General also looked for Cao Qian, but no matter how they searched, there was no news, and the only thing they found was the phone number that Cao Qian used in 2005, but this number has long been unusable.
At that time, German newspapers and magazines also published a notice about Cao Qian's missing person, and the German police also investigated, but there was no news. In addition, the two letters sent back by my daughter at that time were long gone, and there was no address for her, so it was very difficult to find them.
Moreover, at that time, when going abroad, modernization was not so comprehensive, and it was very difficult to find it. But after suffering from cancer, the couple was unwilling and wanted to continue looking for their daughter. In their opinion, now that the Internet is so developed, their daughter will definitely be able to see it.
So in 2020, Cao Zhaogang and his wife approached the media and asked them for help, asking them to help find their daughter, so that they could see their long-lost daughter when they died.
After some searching, there was finally news of Cao Qian, she is still living in Germany, and she has not encountered any accidents. So why didn't they contact their parents and not return home when they were safe and still in Germany?
Ushering in the dawn, the reason for the loss of contact is a mystery?
After receiving the appeal of Cao Zhaogang and his wife, media reporters, as well as German students, and local Chinese also joined the lineup to find Cao Qian.
After searching for more than 20 days, with the assistance of the police and the Civil Aviation Administration, they got news from Cao Qian that she had returned to China to visit friends in 2004 and then went abroad.
It is reported that Cao Qian lives in Hamburg, Germany, not only married, but also changed her name and surname to become a university professor, and lives happily and peacefully in Germany.
But Cao Qian did not say the specific reason why she didn't contact her family, and she didn't want to be disturbed by the outside world. The reporter conveyed Cao Qian's news to Cao Zhaogang, and he hoped that Cao Qian could contact her family.
But Cao Zhaogang did not have hope for whether Cao Qian could contact them after getting the number, but felt that with Cao Qian's character, he would not take the initiative to call home.
After learning the news of their daughter, Cao Zhaogang and his wife also got a little comfort, and Cao Zhaogang then said that as long as Cao Qian can support herself, she will not want them to support her for the elderly.
As for the reason why Cao Qian didn't contact her family, there are also different opinions outside. Some people say that Cao Qian is not filial and too ruthless, and she even left her parents who have raised her for many years and eats and drinks spicy food and spicy food alone, which is a proper "white-eyed wolf".
But some people also said that the reason why Cao Qian was reluctant to go home was because she had a deep conflict with her family, so she was unwilling to contact her family again.
According to Cao Zhaogang, in 2003, Cao Qian asked her family twice for money, but when she asked again at the end of the year, she was scolded by her father. Perhaps it was because of this conflict that Cao Qian was hurt, so he ruthlessly did not contact them.
After initiating the report of the search for his daughter, Cao Zhaogang learned that his daughter had become a professor in Germany, and he was also afraid that his actions would affect his daughter's future.
Therefore, he no longer pursues too much, as long as he knows that his daughter is still alive, he is already very satisfied, and as for whether he can come back, he doesn't ask for anything.
summary
Some people say that Cao Qian's approach is very ruthless, her parents gave birth to her and raised her for many years, but when her parents needed help, they left them, and ruthlessly left their parents for more than ten years, and did not contact the family, even if there are more contradictions, as a child, you can't do this.
There is also a saying that "it is difficult for a clean official to decide family affairs", why is Cao Qian so ruthless, and what happened to make her have such a deep contradiction with her parents?
Some people think that parents have too deep control over their children, for example, when filling in the volunteers, they do not follow the wishes of their children, but they are willing to send their children abroad, which is a bit unreasonable.
And in this trip to find a daughter, although I also got news of my daughter, it was not satisfactorily resolved. It is reported that before Cao Zhaogang and his wife died of illness, they did not wait for their daughter to come home.
Information source: Harbin Daily "I sent my daughter abroad 20 years ago, and I haven't heard from her for many years| Mommy is dying, where are you?"
Jinyun News "The old couple both suffered from cancer, and their daughter was missing from studying abroad for 17 years: "I can figure out her condition, and I am blind"
Peninsula Morning News "Cao Qian Found"
Hebei Youth Daily "Studying in Germany for 17 years without news, daughter...... Your mom is dying, where are you?"
Liaoning Daily "The Only Daughter Studied in Germany for 17 Years and No News"