Mr. Liu, 55 years old this year, seems to be preoccupied recently, it turns out that after his wife is menopause, the demand for that aspect has been greatly reduced, and Mr. Liu, as a person with high sexual needs, has repeatedly complained to his wife to no avail, which also makes the relationship between the two husband and wife increasingly tense.
In desperation, Mr. Liu had to take his wife to seek help from the doctor, and after consultation, he found that Mr. Liu's wife was in menopause, and the estrogen in the receptors at this stage was reduced.
In the end, the doctor suggested that the two could communicate more and use lubricants to assist their sex life.
1. Can women still enjoy married life after menopause?
Menopause refers to the permanent cessation of a woman's menstrual periods, and women over the age of 40 can be diagnosed when they have stopped menstruation for more than 12 months after excluding pregnancy or other conditions that may cause amenorrhea. Relevant data show that the average age of menopause for women in mainland China is 48-52 years old, and women may experience sagging skin, hot flashes and sweating, joint pain, dyspareunia, sleep disorders and mood changes after menopause.
But compared to a series of physical and psychological changes, there is a very important question that many women are ashamed to ask, that is, whether postmenopausal women can continue to enjoy their married life.
According to statistics, menopausal women in mainland China have less frequent sex than European women, 70% of women in Europe can have sex two or more times a month, while in China the proportion is less than 40%. Many women are reluctant to have sex after menopause, why is that?
In addition, from the perspective of physiological changes, women's estrogen levels decrease after menopause, vaginal secretions become less, and the vagina becomes drier, so they will feel pain during sex, resulting in women being more reluctant to have sex.
Xiao Bingbing, deputy chief physician of the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology of Peking University First Hospital, explained: menopause only represents the cessation of reproductive function, which does not mean the loss of sexual ability.
1. Enhance immunity
During sex, multiple organs of the body need to work in harmony, and proper sex can help strengthen immunity.
2. Prevent gynecological inflammation
A good sex life can enrich the blood flow of the vaginal wall of women, adjust the local flora of the vagina, and thus prevent the occurrence of gynecological inflammation.
3. Delay aging
A good and healthy sex life can reduce the discomfort of post-menopause and allow the body to release more hormones that are beneficial to the body, thereby delaying the onset of aging.
4. Enhance the relationship between husband and wife
Proper sexual activity can strengthen the relationship between the couple.
2. Will it be harmful to the body if the lubricant is used too much?
Many women refuse sex after menopause, mainly because of the decrease in estrogen and progesterone levels, the vagina becomes dry, and there is obvious pain during sex, in fact, after menopause, you can still use lubricating oil for sex. After menopause, you can use lubricants moderately to assist, but many people are afraid that lubricants will bring harm to the body, can lubricants still be used?
At present, there are three main types of lubricants on the market: water-based, silicone-based and oil-based, and the advantages and disadvantages of different types are also different.
1. Water-based lubricants
The composition of water-based lubricant is mainly water and glycerin, the advantage is that it is soluble, the lubrication feeling is more natural, and the composition is relatively mild, but the disadvantage is that it is volatile, and it will volatilize in ten minutes, and it needs to be added halfway.
2. Silicon-based lubricants
The main ingredient of silicone-based lubricant is silicone resin, which has the advantage of high degree of lubrication, long retention time, not easy to be absorbed by the human body, and low sensitivity, and the disadvantage is that it is difficult to clean and cannot be used with silicone toys.
3. Oil-based lubricants
Oil-based lubricants, which are mainly made of mineral oil, are more durable but difficult to clean, and may irritate the body and even dissolve condoms, so they have been eliminated from the market.
Most regular manufacturers of lubricants are safe, but if the lubricant is hot after use, it may be the purchase of counterfeit or shoddy or three-no products, resulting in vaginal allergies, or the lubricant expires, the ingredients deteriorate, or it may be caused by the use of thermal lubricants, and it may also be caused by allergies to some components in the lubricant.
Whatever the cause, stop using this lubricant immediately, rinse with clean water, and seek medical attention as soon as possible.
Wang Wei, deputy chief physician of the Department of Urology of Beijing Tongren Hospital affiliated to Capital Medical University, said that lubricants are generally harmless to the body, and it is not recommended for normal women to use them for a long time, as long-term use may lead to reproductive system infections and dysbiosis, and normal women generally do not need to use lubricants for a long time.
3. 3 common problems in the use of lubricants
For postmenopausal women, lubricants can help improve the sexual experience, but there are a few things to pay attention to when using lubricants!
1. What should I do if the lubricant is left inside?
After using the lubricant, if it is left inside, there is generally no need to rinse, most of it will flow out with the secretion, and the lubricant remains in it, and there is no need to rinse frequently, so as not to destroy the balance of vaginal flora.
2. Can expired lubricants still be used?
Lubricants have a shelf life, the general shelf life is 3-5 years, even if it expires for 1 day, it is not recommended to use, after all, this is applied to the intimate parts, after the expiration date of the lubricating oil ingredients may deteriorate, which can cause allergic reactions or fungal infections, it is not recommended to continue to use.
3. How to use lubricants correctly
When using lubricants, be sure to identify big brands, stay away from three-no products, and try to choose fragrance-free ones. Do not apply directly during use, it is best to squeeze it in the palm of your hand and rub it before applying, and clean it up in time once you find it expired.
Women can still have sex after menopause, and they can use lubricants to improve their sex experience, after all, there are many benefits to proper sex. Be sure to choose a regular brand of lubricant, and once you find that it is expired, it is best to throw it away as soon as possible!
Resources:
[1] "Can a woman still have sex after menopause for 1/3 of the time?", Obstetrics and Gynecology Hospital Affiliated to Fudan University.2019-07-09
[2] "Answering Readers' Questions: Is Lubricant Harmful to the Body If You Use Too Much Lubricant?", Family Doctor.2021-06-12
[3] "Is Human Lubricant Safe?Should I Clean It If I Stay Inside?Keep in Mind 4 Points, Use It with Confidence".Famous Doctor Online Lecture Hall.2022-04-13
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