As the saying goes: "The same year is different months, and the children and grandchildren of the same month are missing", what does this sentence mean?
As we all know, in ancient times, special attention was paid to future generations, especially large families, and the importance of offspring was far greater than we imagined. It is even believed that the more children the better, so as to lay the foundation for the development of the family. After all, only after someone can have a future, in addition to family development, you can also follow the family bloodline, so that the family blood can continue. For this reason, many people will maintain the system of polyandry and concubines, and these women are nothing more than male reproductive tools.
Therefore, when choosing a wife and concubine, special attention will be paid to their fertility, and in this case, a series of sayings and sayings have also been extended. Among these sayings, the most famous is: "the same year is different months, the same month is missing", through this sentence, it is not difficult for us to see that the ancient people attached importance to the birth date of the husband and wife when they got married and the taboo of the same year and different months. So, what does this mean? Is it true that children and grandchildren will not be born at the same age and in the same month?
In fact, there is no scientific basis for this sentence, it is just the feudal thinking of the ancient people. You know, in ancient times, people's understanding of nature and life was limited, in this case, they would Xi the inertia of pushing the husband and wife to other aspects of the matter, such as: time, location and other human factors or directly to the woman, thinking that the woman has a physical problem. In order to avoid this, they will ask the woman about her birth date before getting married.
Then find a special gentleman to account and see if there is a problem between men and women. If the fate is restrained, it will also lead to problems such as no heirs and quarrels between husband and wife. It will also have a great impact on the relationship between husband and wife. In fact, this step is also the "name asking" link in what we often call the three hires and six ceremonies. After going through this link, a good day will be chosen as the wedding date, which is also a blessing to the newlyweds.
However, because the ancient people were particularly obsessed with the concept of children, they would think that young women were easier to have children, so when marrying, men often chose those who were younger. In this way, it is convenient to give birth, and in ancient times, medical technology was not so perfect, and if you are older, it is easy to have dystocia. Once the rescue is not timely, it will lead to one corpse and two lives.
But it will be easier for young women to give birth, and relatively speaking, their physical fitness is stronger and more suitable for childbearing. If they can, they will choose the young women. If you meet a woman you particularly like, you can choose even if you are the same age as you. However, you also need to pay attention when choosing, and avoid people in the same year and month as much as possible, because couples in the same year and month have similar growth experiences and are prone to conflicts.
When young couples often have conflicts, how can they get pregnant and have children? Moreover, women mature earlier than men, and although men and women are the same age, women tend to be more mature than men. In this way, women need to bear more pressure. If men have no way to grow up quickly after marriage, it is easy to lead to conflicts. In this respect, it is understandable that the elderly are worried.