Recently, a house rule from a mother-in-law to her daughter-in-law called "Lin Fu Family Rules" has caused heated discussions.
On the one hand, the daughter-in-law is required to be elegant and decent when she is outside, and to be decent when she comes to guests, and to be cautious in her words and deeds, which is quite the style of a large family.
On the other hand, I always pay attention to the special dishes in the community group, requiring 10-15 yuan to eat 6 dishes, and the dishes must also meet the collocation of 2 meat, 2 vegetarian and 2 meat and vegetarian, get up at 4:30 every day to cook, and the part that is not enough is made up by the daughter-in-law's own salary.
This trivial and terrifying family rule is full of a sense of separation and a strong desire to control, which has triggered widespread discussions and complaints among netizens.
In fact, behind this family rule reflects a false idea of "inheritance", that is, "I was oppressed by my mother-in-law back then, and now it is time for me to oppress my daughter-in-law". But this thinking is very wrong. First, if you really suffer from injustice, young people should reflect on whether the marriage should continue.
Marriage is not about serving someone else for the rest of your life. Second, as a mother-in-law, it is best to interfere less in the children's small family and let the young people manage their own marriage. Too much external intervention, it is difficult for young couples to run in.
On the eve of the 2024 New Year, this absurd family rule has triggered a reflection on the traditional concept of marriage. Women are not born as tools to serve others, but should also have their own lives.
I hope that in the new year, people can reflect on the harm of traditional misconceptions and establish a new type of marriage values of equality, freedom and rationality, so that every woman can enjoy a happy and happy married life.