In China's long history, etiquette has always been endowed with profound cultural connotations, and ancient etiquette has been a shadow, affecting all aspects of people. Weddings, sacrifices, banquets, each ceremony has its own unique etiquette norms. However, perhaps the most overlooked of these are the trivial things in life, such as walking, sitting and lying, and the ancients also had strict requirements for these details.
Ancient etiquette emphasizes that "sitting like a clock, standing like a pine, walking like the wind, and lying like a bow", which is not only to regulate people's behavior, but also a kind of pursuit of inner cultivation. In ancient society, individual behavior was not only for the sake of face and socialization, but also complemented the Confucian concept of self-cultivation. When standing, like a pine tree, when walking, like a breeze, when sitting and lying like a bow ready to go, this series of etiquette requirements make people reflect a calm and calm temperament, reflecting the ancient people's pursuit of both internal and external aesthetic concepts.
However, behind the brilliance of ancient rituals, we also have to mention a controversial saying: "Men shake the poor, women shake the cheap". This sentence seems to associate a seemingly insignificant action, shaking the legs, with social status and morality. However, the act of shaking legs is not taboo in ancient etiquette, but a concept formed in a specific historical period and social context. In ancient times, leg shaking was not explicitly defined as inappropriate behavior, in fact, moderate leg shaking was beneficial for anxiety and fatigue, and even helped cardiovascular health.
So, what kind of concept is "men shake the poor, women shake the cheap"? This proverb actually reflects the values of etiquette in social situations. Etiquette is a tacit understanding of social interaction, and it is a manifestation of mutual respect between people. In a relationship, if the other party keeps shaking his legs, it may make people feel disrespected, and even think that the other party lacks basic education. In business situations, shaking legs may cause resentment among leaders and affect career development. At the same time, shaking legs may give the impression of being restless and unfocused, which can lead to a loss of customer trust in business negotiations, which can affect the success of the business.
However, the saying "men shake the poor, women shake the cheap" is more about emphasizing the social criteria of etiquette in social situations. Traditionally, leg shaking may be seen as a sign of restlessness and inattention, and is therefore associated with derogatory terms such as poor and cheap. This also reflects the strict requirements of ancient society for etiquette, social etiquette is not only a code of conduct, but also a symbol of social status and morality.
However, should we reflect on this proverb today, as the concept of etiquette has changed in modern society. People pay more attention to the independence and diversity of individuals, and pay more attention to respecting individual differences while respecting traditions. The values of etiquette are evolving in this pluralistic era, and people value authentic, natural expression rather than traditional red tape. Therefore, we may be able to look at the act of shaking legs rationally, not too strict on the form, and pay attention to the cultural connotation and social value behind it.
On the whole, "men shake the poor, women shake the cheap" is actually a reflection on etiquette in social and life. Whether in ancient or modern times, etiquette is a way of mutual respect between people, a tacit understanding in social situations. In this process, we need to look at etiquette rationally, and not be overly strict with the form, but pay attention to the cultural connotation and social value behind it. While respecting tradition, we should also be good at accepting new ideas and realizing a better interpretation of etiquette in modern society.