Life in the world, through ups and downs, when I enter old age, looking back on the past, I will inevitably have a lot of feelings. Older people are gradually understanding that the world is not as simple as we thought when we were young, and many people and things are not as beautiful as they seem. Therefore, the elderly will take the initiative to choose to cut off diplomatic relations with some people and have less contact, which is not confused, but a kind of foresight of the elderly.
1. People who will only ask for you, but never give back
Many people make some friends when they are young. These friends may not be close, but you are familiar with each other. This relationship can be maintained until old age, but some people will voluntarily cut off contact. Why?
This is because some people will only ask for benefits, or material or emotional help and support from you. But when you are in need, they turn a blind eye and ignore it. This apparent tilt of interest is hard to accept.
For example, Uncle Wang has a friend of many years, Uncle Li. After Uncle Wang retired, Uncle Li often came to chat with Uncle Wang, and sat at his house for a few hours when he had nothing to do. Uncle Wang's wife complained that Uncle Li didn't give a pack of cigarettes every time he came, let alone invite guests to dinner. However, if Uncle Li is in trouble, such as raising a dowry for his son or curing his illness, he will first think of looking for Uncle Wang.
This kind of relationship of only asking for and not giving back is unbearable for anyone. Although they were quite close to each other when they were young, as they get older, they will value this more and more. Therefore, when encountering such people, many elderly people will take the initiative to distance themselves and break off diplomatic relations.
2. People who like to gossip, gossip, and complain
There is another group of people who will also be actively avoided by the elderly, that is, people who like to gossip, spread gossip, and complain about life all day long. Why?
First of all, the information disseminated by these people is not very accurate. They often make false statements and exaggerate them, leading to distorted information. With these people for a long time, it is difficult for you to judge what is real, which also has a certain impact on your life.
Secondly, they often complain about life, which makes people feel down. With such people, it is difficult for you to maintain a positive attitude. Especially for the elderly, optimism is more important than anything else, and such negative complainers are obviously not good companions.
Finally, these people also widely spread gossip that scandalizes others, and there is no moral bottom line. In the company of such a villain, it is easy to be labeled as "gossiping".
Therefore, many elderly people will take the initiative to keep their distance from such people. They would rather choose one or two confidants to get along with themselves than listen to other people's complaints and gossip all day long. This choice is also wise.
3. People who are inconsistent in their words and deeds and make things difficult for others
The last group of older people will avoid those who are inconsistent in their words and deeds and make things difficult for others. This type of person is polite on the surface, but secretly jealous and often designs to frame others.
For example, the relationship between Uncle Li and Uncle Zhang after retirement seems to be good. However, Uncle Li's family background is slightly better, and his children's careers have also improved. Uncle Zhang was very jealous, and in order to hit Uncle Li's self-confidence, he deliberately fabricated rumors that Uncle Li's son had broken the law and spread it among the elderly circles. This put Uncle Li and his family in trouble.
This kind of person who "hides a knife in his smile" is not worthy of making friends at all. Be with them and be on guard at all times to be framed. This is very detrimental to the physical and mental health of the elderly. Therefore, the elderly usually take the initiative to cut off contact with such bad people, which is a means of self-protection.
It is a sensible choice for older people to distance themselves from those who only ask for nothing in return, those who like to gossip and complain, and those who frame others by not saying or doing what they say. This not only avoids being consumed, but also contributes to psychological peace. Therefore, this approach is not confused, but a kind of vision of the elderly, which is worth learning from Xi.