When I went to visit my 82-year-old father in a nursing home today, my father said to me, "Why haven't you come to see me for several days?"
When my dad cautiously asked me, I almost burst into tears.
Is this still the same dad who scolded me when he was angry? When did he become so humble in front of me?
My dad is 82 years old this year, and he is basically unable to take care of himself now, so this autumn he lived at my younger brother's house, and my sisters and I took turns cooking for him.
My younger brother and my younger sister both have to go to work, and usually my dad is at home by himself during the day, and we just go to cook a meal for him when it's time to eat.
His urine and urine are solved on the mobile toilet in the bedroom, and we clean up for him when we go to cook for him.
Since the beginning of winter, the weather has become colder and colder, and it is no longer convenient for us to take the time to cook for my father.
My father was at home by himself, and we were afraid that he would fall, so our sisters and sisters discussed it and sent him to a nursing home, where we were ready to take him home when the weather was warm.
When my dad first entered the nursing home, he was very Xi, and he called me every day and asked me to accompany him. Sometimes a dozen calls a day.
I was afraid that my dad would not adapt to the life of the nursing home, so I took time out to go to the nursing home every day and talk to him. Let him settle down where he lives.
My dad didn't fit in for the first half of the month, and he clamored every day for us to take him home. After more than half a month, he slowly adapted to life in the nursing home.
Now that he is Xi to eating meals in the nursing home, he has stopped drinking, smoked, and made fewer phone calls, so I have free time to do something of my own.
Now I go to see my dad basically once every three days, go there and ask him if he's okay, and if he's okay, I'll stay for a while and leave.
My younger siblings go to work every day, and they usually come to visit my dad on weekends to buy him some good food to eat, talk to him, and chat.
The last time I went to see my dad was three days ago, and when I went to see him, he asked me to buy him two batteries, saying that the batteries in the TV remote control were not working.
I picked up the remote control and tried it, and there was no problem turning on the TV, so I didn't buy it for him.
My dad was a little upset, but he didn't say anything else, and just whispered as I was leaving: "It's really hard for me to call you once."
After my dad said that, I didn't take it to heart, closed the door of the room for him, and I left the nursing home.
It's been three days since I left the nursing home, and during those three days, my dad hasn't called me for the first time.
I thought he might be adjusting to life in a nursing home, and I didn't call him.
Today my brother called me and said: Our dad called me and said that he had run out of kayser, let me buy him some when I have time, I don't have time to go to work today, you go and send it to our dad.
I feel very strange, my dad used to call me for everything, how do you remember to call my brother today?
Since my brother confessed to me, after I had lunch, I went to the pharmacy to buy a box of Kaiserol and sent it to the nursing home.
I went to the nursing home, went into my dad's room, and saw my dad fiddling with his phone in a wheelchair. When he saw me coming in, he said to me cautiously, "You are finally here, and I am still thinking about what I said to offend you, and you will not come to see me."
I heard my dad say this, my heart is very uncomfortable, he is my father, he beats me and scolds me, I also have to bear it, how can I be angry because of his words?
I said to my dad, "You didn't offend me, why didn't you call me these days?" Are you angry with me?
My dad said: I want to call you, but I can't find your phone on my phone, you can see if I have your phone on my phone.
I took my dad's phone, opened the address book and looked at it, and my phone number was still there, but the name was missing a word.
Just because my name was missing one word, my dad couldn't find my phone.
In the past, my dad called me every day, and it was fine, but this time, how could there be one word missing from the name in the address book.
I guess he flipped through the address book when he was fine, and I don't know when, he deleted a word from my name.
I changed my name in his address book and handed it to my dad and said I had fixed it. My dad was not at ease, he dialed my number again on the phone, and he was completely relieved until my phone rang.
I fixed the phone for my dad, I asked my dad to push his wheelchair to the corridor to exercise for a while, at first he said he wouldn't go, I said: you don't want to exercise, then I'll go.
As soon as my dad heard that I was leaving, he hurriedly said to me: I'm going to exercise, you can push me to the door in a wheelchair, you watch me exercise.
I pushed my dad's wheelchair into the hallway at the door, let him hold on to the railing of the hallway, got out of the wheelchair, pushed the wheelchair in front of him, and let him slowly push the wheelchair and walk in the hallway for a while.
My dad didn't know if he was afraid of me leaving, or if he wanted to show off in front of me, but he took turns walking very steadily today, from one end of the hallway to the other end of the hallway.
My dad pushed the wheelchair to the end of the hallway, and I saw that his legs were a little weak, so I hurriedly let him sit in the wheelchair.
The two of us were by the window and talked for a long time before I pushed him to the dining room to watch TV.
I watched TV in the restaurant with my dad for a while, I saw that it was already four o'clock in the afternoon, and it was time to go home to make dinner, so I said to my dad: I'm going home to cook, I'll come to see you next time.
When my father saw that I was about to leave, he whispered to me, "Go back, remember to come and see me in two days." I said yes and left.