Life has ups and downs, sometimes smooth, sometimes bumpy.
Many times, we love to complain about the unsatisfactory life, but rarely reflect on our words and deeds.
In "Aphorisms and Walls", it is said: "Sitting quietly and thinking about one's own mistakes, gossiping and not talking about others." ”
This means that when a person is alone, he should always reflect on his own mistakes;
When talking to others, don't talk about their rights and wrongs.
When we can face ourselves squarely and objectively look at others, we can treat life more calmly.
01
- Ponder your own mistakes and be strict with yourself.
As the old saying goes, "If a person is not a sage, he can do no wrong." After that, it can be changed, and it is very good. ”
No one is perfect, who can not make some mistakes, but can correct mistakes when they do them, it is very good.
People experience too many things in their lives, and sometimes, mistakes can be made if they are not careful.
And if you can reflect on your words and deeds three times a day, you will not repeat the mistakes of the past in your future life.
If you know that you have done something wrong and let it go, you will only know your mistakes and make mistakes, and you will not be able to achieve good results.
Meditating on one's own mistakes is not to think too hard, but to be strict with oneself.
The way of a gentleman lies in self-cultivation. Only by thinking about oneself can we be diligent in our cultivation and have no obstacles.
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- Don't talk about people's wrongs, treat people with generosity.
There are many things that don't go well in life and people who don't like the eyes.
If you have to talk about them one by one, you will not only waste your own energy, but also easily offend others.
In the Analects of Wei Linggong, it is written: "If you bow to yourself and blame others, you will be far from resentful." ”
Blame others less and be generous so that you don't get into trouble for yourself.
Everyone's birth, experience, and vision are different, and we cannot expect ourselves to be the same as saints, and we have no right to judge the affairs of others.
The world is not as good as it could be.
Talk less about the rights and wrongs of others, reflect more on yourself, and treat others with generosity, which is also to accumulate goodness for yourself.
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- A gentleman is virtuous and has a happy life.
何为君子？《文子·上义》：
"From ancient times to the present, there has not been a person who can do all his deeds, so a gentleman does not blame others. ”
There is no such thing as a perfect person, but a gentleman rarely blames others.
What is virtue?
Ming man Hong Yingming said: "Don't blame people for small mistakes, don't make people selfish, and don't remember old evils." The three can cultivate virtue and also avoid harm. ”
Far from being a villain, not talking about the privacy of others, and not holding grudges, is the quality that a virtuous person should have.
Think twice about everything, change when you know what you are wrong, and treat people calmly and leave room for them.
In order to accumulate goodness and fame, convince people with virtue, and live a happy life.
Constantly thinking about one's own faults is for self-cultivation and self-cultivation, and not talking about human wrongs is for the unity of virtue and conduct.