Just yesterday, my sister and I made a decision: to give up piano Xi.
I thought that if one thing had been with her for more than 4 years, she would have any reluctance. After all, half a year ago, when I faced the piano with her, she could still make a promise of "practicing for half an hour every day".
And now, she said, I don't want to practice anymore.
Yes, no nostalgia, not at all.
He even laughed out loud like never before.
I even praised her for her bravery, and she told me, "She had the idea of giving up a month ago." ”
The reason why he planned to stop the piano was first proposed by Lao Chen.
I went to see my teeth last Saturday, so after the piano teacher came, it was Lao Chen who was in charge of sparring.
Lao Chen said: "Do you know? The whole process, Grace was very painful, I, the observer, was very painful, and I could feel that the teacher was also very painful. ”
I understand.
Last year, at the age of 8, Grace passed the piano grade 5 exam. Judging from the piano boy, this level is not bad.
But as we all know, the exam is to play tunes, and she doesn't like the piano very much, so she memorizes a few tunes and plays them very well, so she can pass the exam.
I wrote about this on other platforms, and people said, are you too utilitarian and let your child take the exam to make her have no interest.
I want to say: if she didn't take the exam, then she wouldn't have practiced Xi. If you don't practice Xi, you're not interested, and you're not growing, so what are we going to do with this teaching fee?
She's just not happy. I didn't feel any joy in her.
No, not at all.
After more than 4 years of piano Xi, I have the impression that I have never practiced the piano with particular pleasure and enjoyment, and I have never felt that I have any expectations for the piano.
Even when I practice, it's mechanical.
Before that, she had never said she didn't want to play the piano. Occasional competitions are also available.
The competition didn't pique her interest either.
Later, she told me that she didn't dare tell me that she didn't like it, for fear of disappointing me.
Why is this disappointment? Originally, hobbies are because they like them, but if they become a burden, then don't do it.
Correspondingly, she has an extremely passionate hobby - playing table tennis. She has been playing for 2 and a half years, and if she has some achievements, that is, her performance in school competitions is not bad.
Likes and dislikes, in children, are clearly felt.
Before each play, she is extremely excited, preparing her uniform early, putting her board away, and ready to go.
When I was in class, I was extremely serious and refused to fall behind at all.
I didn't have much Xi practice after class, but I saw that she sometimes did some playing movements and practiced Xi by herself.
Moreover, although she does not take the professional route, she is very strict with herself and will take the initiative to ask to participate in some competitions.
The next hobby is programming. We learned Xi at the Children's Palace.
Every time it was time to renew, she would urge me to pay the money quickly. During the summer vacation, I went on 2 issues in a row, and I could feel that she liked it very much.
I am reluctant to fall behind in every class, and when I come back, I will read some programming books.
I don't know if I can read it, but I really like it.
The piano journey is really hard. I started learning the piano at the age of 5, and now it has been 4 years. I can feel that she has also studied hard, but she really can't fall in love, yes, just the feeling of not being able to fall in love.
It's not just the piano, we've given up the cello before.
In a Xi such as music, she has a feeling that she can't enjoy it, or even be happy.
The beat is often wrong, the clef is not remembered accurately, and the internal friction is very serious.
She's in pain, and so am I.
Now that I think about it, it may be that they don't understand each other.
I have Xi been playing the flute since elementary school, and I have been playing the flute for a year, and I have been playing the art troupe of the Children's Palace for a year, and I feel that learning the musical instrument Xi is not as difficult as I imagined. But no, in addition to the difficulty of the piano itself, some children may be born insensitive to music.
Sometimes, I hear the wrong sound, but she doesn't know it, is she not serious? and maybe a little bit, really insensitive.
Every time I see her lazy, I ask her. She said she wanted to continue.
I thought she was just lazy, but she wasn't, she was really unhappy.
I am often asked, "Why haven't you practiced for my sister yet?"
After all, many teachers feel that she has a bit of a talent in music.
Including my sister herself, I really want to learn Xi piano.
I didn't dare, because the chickens and dogs jumping and internal friction of learning piano from my sister had already given me a great shadow. I really can't let her learn piano, or even any instrument, right away, and I don't want my child to learn it right now.
Let me take a moment's time.
This time, my sister resolutely chose to give up.
When you are more than 9 years old, you may have a sense of self, or you may really feel that it is not appropriate, so you should give up.
I think it's good.
Many times, the things that make you unhappy, those choices that are not insisted on, she has the right to give up.
What's more, does she have something she really loves and is willing to stick to for it?
Child, this time, mom chooses to support you.
Happy to you.