Introduction:
In China, after the full liberalization of the two-child policy, more and more families are choosing to have a second child. However, second-child families also face some unique challenges and issues. One of the obvious problems is the comparison between the eldest and the second, which often leads to the loss of the eldest intellectually and at the same time puts the eldest under more pressure and hardship.
The intellectual pressure of the boss
The eldest of two-child families often becomes the first child in the family, and they grow up under the pressure of changing Xi, resource allocation, and competition. Compared to the eldest child, the second child often benefits from the improvement of the parent's experience and parenting style because it has more attention and resources. This puts the Boss at a disadvantage in terms of intellectual development. They need to face a lot of pressure from their families, schools, and society to show that they are smarter than their second child to prove their worth.
The boss has a heavier responsibility
In two-child families, the eldest often has to take on more responsibilities and take care of younger siblings. They need to set an example in their Xi, life, and behavior, as well as as to take on the role of older brother or sister. At the same time, they also need to deal with high expectations and pressure from their parents. This excessive burden of responsibility makes the eldest invisibly reduce his childhood time and devote more time and energy to taking care of and educating the second child.
Dynamic relationships between siblings
In second-child families, there are also some special dynamics in the relationship between the eldest and the second. As the eldest son or eldest daughter, the eldest may harbor feelings of jealousy or envy towards younger siblings. They may feel that they have lost the attention and care of their parents, and more resources have been allocated to the second child. This unequal treatment can lead to resentment and frustration in the family.
Epilogue:
The expectations and pressures on the eldest in second-child families are indeed greater, and they need to face intellectual competition and more responsibilities. However, we should realize that every child is unique and they have their own strengths and shines. As parents, we should pay attention to the personality development of each child, encourage them to develop their own strengths, and give them equal attention and love. Only in this way can we allow every child to grow up in an equal, healthy and happy environment.