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Do you support the abolition of the bride price?
In July last year, a male college student stood on the cusp of public opinion on his own.
It turned out that he, who was still a college student, claimed that he was asked for a bride price of 288,000 yuan.
This amount is really not small, and the boy's subsequent behavior is even more surprising.
Here's how it happened:
According to the boy's own description, he and a girl in Zhenyuan County, Gansu Province have known each other for a year, and they have a strong relationship, and they both like each other very much.
However, just after they told their parents about their relationship, the woman's parents stumped him with a word.
The other party talked about the topic of bride price, and said that the minimum bride price in the county is 288,000.
Because this amount is quite different from the average bride price of 120,000 yuan in the boy's own location, and the woman's parents have not said anything about the car and the house.
This made the boy himself very dissatisfied.
However, he did not directly choose to reason with the woman's parents, but actually left a message in the "leadership mailbox" of Zhenyuan County, imploring the county to rectify the high-priced bride price.
"How many families and couples like us can be benefited by this. ”
The boy said.
The boy's message was followed up and replied to.
But the matter did not end there, but set off a lot of waves on the Internet.
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After the incident was exposed on the Internet, there were voices for and against boys.
The subsequent development was also unexpected.
After verification, the staff said that the boy was a first-year student, and the parents of the two parties had never met, and the topic of bride price had not been officially discussed.
The so-called 288,000 bride price and the divorce and other relevant information need to be re-verified.
However, although the incident has not yet been defined, the topic of bride price has once again returned to people's vision.
Many things have made people realize that the contradictions in real life of the bride price have become more and more acute.
Just like not long ago, even the Chongqing high school entrance examination began to ask 14-year-old children to analyze the reasonableness of the bride price.
We have to admit that the topic of bride price has reached the point where we have to pay attention to it.
How many people's peaceful lives have become unpeaceful and disintegrated because of the bride price?
Just this month, such an incident occurred in Henan.
A couple is about to get married, because it is not easy to understand the man, the woman's family took the initiative to reduce the bride price from 188,000 to 60,000, and the car gift was also said to be 20,000.
As a result, on the day of the wedding, the man actually repented, didn't take a penny, and only brought a pig over, making the woman's family a local joke.
There is also a family in Anhui Province that needs a bride price of 300,000 yuan for marriage, and the son has a dispute with his parents, and the mother drinks a bottle of paraquat in a fit of anger......
Some people try to take advantage of everything, some people open their mouths wide and force their families to be ruined, and some people regard the marriage bride price as a kind of business......
According to statistics from well-known bloggers, there have been at least 190,000 cases about bride price since 2014.
Among them, there are many extreme tragedies.
In the modern era when the bride price is gradually magical, people's hearts and human nature are also vividly reflected.
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What can be done to reduce the occurrence of such tragedies?
He thinks that the most important thing is to be clear about the attitude towards the bride price.
In fact, throughout the above, many tragedies often occur because of the pressure of high-priced bride prices.
In some areas, the high price of the bride price is just a culture of comparison, and some even disrespect women and use their daughters as a tool for buying and selling.
This bad atmosphere naturally needs to be resisted, because it amounts to blackmail in disguise, far beyond the scope of bearing.
However, it must be admitted that in some areas, the bride price is high because of the local economic power.
If the woman's family has such financial strength and the dowry given is similar in value to the bride price, then such a high bride price is obviously not excessive.
If the man's family can't take it out, don't scold the other party for selling their daughter.
Rather than blindly complaining, it is better to think about whether each other is really suitable and the right person.
The husband has always advised the woman to receive a proper bride price.
First of all, the bride price has been there since ancient times, which is not only a respect for the woman, but also a kind of support for this small family of the newlyweds.
In addition, the bride price actually has the role of screening character.
I have seen such a story about a girl who falls in love with a boy and is with the boy even if she marries far away.
Seeing this, the woman's family put forward a request for a bride price of 300,000 yuan, but the boy smashed his mobile phone angrily when he heard it, slammed the door and left, and he didn't have a good face for the girl.
In this regard, netizens are congratulating the woman's family.
They congratulate the woman on testing a person's personality with a single number.
300,000 is indeed a lot of money, but let's ask, a person who gets angry about something, doesn't even discuss, and leaves directly, is such a character really suitable for life?
Even if my daughter marries far away in the future, will she really be happy?
All girls should remember the saying that a man who escapes the pressure of bride price when he gets married will also escape the pressures of life after marriage.
No one is completely interested in a marriage that has not invested any costs, and women have to take on more tasks and risks in marriage.
Why do some parents insist on bride price because they are "stubborn" and "unkind"?
That may be because, as people who have come before, they know that everything will have the worst outcome, and the bride price is also the last layer of protection for their daughter.
We resist the high price of the bride price, but we will always support the girls to bravely fight for the normal bride price and protect their own rights and interests.
What kind of bride price do you think is appropriate?
Let's share and discuss.