Shortly after Yu Mingjia debuted, he was forced by his parents to go on a blind date, and the other party was just an ordinary person.
But what made Yu Mingjia feel very unhappy was that the two were only meeting for the first time.
The other party put forward the view that staying at home with a noble husband and children, and it is shameful to go shopping and do beauty.
Yu Mingjia secretly swore that he would never marry him.
But only half a year later, Yu Mingjia, who had just passed his 28th birthday, suddenly changed his mind and chose to marry each other.
Her decision made her parents tremble.
Although they want their daughter to get married early, they don't want her to make such a hasty decision.
After all, the two met on a blind date, and they also do different professions.
But Yu Mingjia can ignore these and decisively get the certificate in the worried eyes of his parents.
Now 13 years have passed, how is she getting along with her ordinary husband?
01
Yu Mingjia is a post-80s generation whose hometown is Changchun, Jilin.
Although her father is just a very ordinary traffic policeman, her mother is a lady born in a scholarly family.
In her mother's house, my aunt is a heroic diplomat, and my uncle is a successful person who has emigrated abroad.
It can be said that the family is excellent.
As the only daughter in the family, her parents poured all their efforts into Yu Mingjia.
's mother even copied her own education method when she was a child, and she was very strict with Mingjia.
At home, Yu Mingjia is not allowed to speak loudly, and he must be respectful to his parents.
When eating, her parents don't sit, she can't sit either, her parents don't move the first chopsticks, and she can't move either.
Not only that, but her mother also asked her to get up at six o'clock every morning, get up and read English, and she must not sleep lazy.
You must go to bed before 10 o'clock at night, and you must not eat before going to bed.
In Mingjia's house, all kinds of rules and regulations emerge one after another, making her miserable.
What makes her even more unbearable is that her mother's requirements for her in school Xi have reached the point of "inhumanity".
When she was in elementary school, her mother never asked her how many places she took the exam, but directly asked if it was 100 points.
In the eyes of her mother, she is qualified only if she has a full score in the exam.
On the one hand, her parents are strict with her, and on the other hand, they are worried that she will become a "nerd".
So I enrolled her in various interest classes, dance, piano, singing, calligraphy,
Fill her schedule with her free time.
In the eyes of his classmates, Yu Mingjia has good grades in Xi, good looks, and good family conditions.
When others were walking, or when his parents were picking him up by bicycle, Yu Mingjia had already taken a private car.
There is a driver to and from school every day, and she is like a princess living in a fairy tale world.
But Yu Mingjia doesn't think so, she always feels that she lives in a cage without freedom,
Through the car window, she was very envious of her classmates who were running and playing on the way to school.
Finally one day, she couldn't suppress her desire for freedom, and at the invitation of her classmates, she didn't come home on time after school.
Instead, I followed my classmates and went to the roller skating rink.
Yu Mingjia is like a bird that has been in the cage for a long time and has returned to nature, playing happily on the roller skating rink.
Before she knew it, she lost track of time, and she didn't think about going home until the entire roller skating rink was lit up.
But the family became a mess of porridge, and his parents kept calling teachers and classmates to ask where Yu Mingjia was.
It's equivalent to Mingjia having fun, and when he returned home, his mother was already crying and her eyes were swollen.
Her father was even more angry, and hit her for the first time.
After being beaten, the grievances in Yu Mingjia's heart also broke out, and his parents were secretly shocked when they heard it.
They didn't expect that their daughter would accumulate so much unhappiness in their hearts,
So from then on, her parents' discipline of her was relaxed, and her uncle abroad often said good things for her:
"You have to learn more from foreign parents, give your child more freedom, and let her make her own decisions about many things. ”
But because of this decision, when Yu Mingjia was about to graduate from high school,
made a decision that the whole family opposed, and in the eyes of the family,
She is not just messing around, but also destroying her future.
02
The person Yu Mingjia admired most since he was a child was his aunt,
Therefore, she decided early on that she would also become a diplomat when she grew up.
But after high school, Yu Mingjia's thinking gradually changed,
As the backbone of the school's literature and art, she is often praised by teachers and classmates:
"If you become an actor in the future, you will definitely become a big star. ”
Slowly, Yu Mingjia's dream of becoming a diplomat began to waver, combined with his childhood growth experience,
Her rebellious side began to show, and she began to hate her parents' arrangements and the step-by-step life of ordinary people.
Yu Mingjia has won many awards in competitions because of her excellent academic performance and Xi, so she won the place of escort to the Foreign Affairs University early.
While other classmates were working hard to prepare for the college entrance examination, she was extraordinarily idle and participated in various extracurricular activities.
It wasn't until the college entrance examination was about to take the college entrance examination that she mustered up the courage to tell her parents:
"I want to take the college entrance examination, I want to apply for an acting school, I want to be an actor. ”
Her parents were startled by this idea, but no matter how her parents persuaded her, she was unmoved.
There is no way, her parents also mobilized her aunt and uncle to persuade her and help her analyze the pros and cons.
But she said: "My life has been arranged by you for 20 years, and this time I want to make my own decision." ”
Listening to her words, the parents could only sigh helplessly, although they protected Yu Mingjia very well,
But I also know in my heart that when the child is older, she will always have to go her own way, and her parents can't follow her for the rest of her life.
In this way, Yu Mingjia took his own information and went to the registration point of the Central Academy of Drama.
The teacher in charge of admissions was very entangled after reading her information.
On the one hand, he is very fond of Mingjia's conditions, beautiful appearance, dignified temperament, and versatile.
But on the other hand, she not only had excellent grades in Xi, but also won a guaranteed place at the Foreign Affairs Academy.
The teacher was also unsure whether if he had helped her or hurt her if he had admitted her.
In the admissions teacher's inquiry, she also expressed her thoughts:
"I don't care if the future is not promising, I just want to do what I love now, I just want to be an actor. ”
At this time, the admissions teacher realized that Yu Mingjia really has a personality, and he is also a little different from others.
Many people want to be actors in order to become famous, but Yu Mingjia is out of love from the heart.
Isn't that what they want?
When Yu Mingjia got the admission letter for Chinese opera, her parents were both happy and worried.
My own children grew up in an ivory tower, if they enter the entertainment industry, can they resist the temptation there?
However, this time they really underestimated Yu Mingjia.
03
In Chinese opera, Yu Mingjia became classmates with Wang Lei, Gao Lu, Gu Zhixin and others, and as one of the best beauties in the class, there was an endless stream of people pursuing her.
Yu Mingjia is different from most girls, she has a superior family since she was a child, and she has strong self-control.
So in the face of the small snacks, small gifts, and flowers sent by the boys, she was always indifferent.
In school, she put all her energy on learning Xi, neither taking on dramas nor advertisements, and devoting herself to studying acting.
This kind of Xi attitude made the teachers who taught her very satisfied.
In 2004, after graduating from Mingjia University, she was admitted to Beijing Renyi with excellent grades, and became colleagues with Song Dandan, Pu Cunxin, Feng Yuanzheng and other old-timers.
At that time, many people advised her:
"There are rules for talent and art, newcomers are not allowed to go out to take on dramas within a year, and the salary is still small, why are you bothering?"
Yu Mingjia smiled and said:
"What a great opportunity to learn Xi from those old gentlemen, and I'm willing to pay for it. ”
Although Yu Mingjia said it very easily, in actual work, it is not the case at all.
As a newcomer, she can only start from the trick, and she doesn't even have a line.
But even so, she is often criticized by the old gentleman, saying that she walks too much, makes too many small movements on the stage, etc.
This gradually made Yu Mingjia realize that on the stage of human art, there is no matter the size of the role, as long as he stands on the stage, he should strive for excellence.
A year later, Yu Mingjia was able to go out to take over the play, and many directors took a fancy to her appearance and temperament, and also threw an olive branch to her.
But she refused, she was immersed in the stage of the drama and couldn't extricate herself, and she also became a supporting role from the beginning of the show.
From having no lines at the beginning, to having one or two lines, her spirit of being able to endure loneliness and being willing to study,
It has been highly praised by Song Dandan and others.
Until 2007, when director Zheng Xiaolong made the TV series "Golden Wedding" again, he sent an invitation to Yu Mingjia.
In the play, she is Zhang Guoli and Jiang Wenli's daughter "Tong Duoduo", and there are many rival scenes,
But even in the face of these old actors with strong aura, she did not have stage fright, she played steadily and steadily, and was unanimously praised.
Yu Mingjia's starting point is quite high, and after making his debut with "Golden Wedding", he collaborated with Wang Zhiwen, Chen Daoming, Mei Ting and others in the TV series "Mobile Phone".
These people are all veteran actors with superb acting skills.
In 2009, Yu Mingjia finally won the recognition of human arts, and Pu Cunxin's father Su Min directed the drama "Cai Wenji".
hand-picked her to play the heroine "Cai Wenji", by this time, she had been polishing on the stage of human art for five years,
Except for the two dramas "Golden Wedding" and "Mobile Phone", I have not taken over other dramas.
At this time, Yu Mingjia was 27 years old, not only was he always single, but he had never even talked about the object.
Her parents couldn't help but be secretly anxious, for fear that she would become a leftover girl in the entertainment industry.
So as soon as the old couple put it together, they decided to help Yu Mingjia and began to launch their relationship and find a partner for their daughter.
forced her to go on a blind date.
04
As soon as he heard the word "blind date", Yu Mingjia was a little big, what era is this, and no matter what,
She is a female star, as if she can't get married.
But parents don't care about this, one day Yu Mingjia was rehearsing a new play in Renyi, and suddenly received a call from his father,
Her father told her that there was a very nice young man who wanted to meet her and talk to her, and that the place had been set up and that she must go after work.
Yu Mingjia suddenly had a headache, she has cooperated with such a blind date many times, but none of those blind dates are reliable.
So she played a petty temper and said that she had to work overtime, but she really didn't have time.
But her father had already figured out her careful thoughts, so he "threatened" and said:
"Okay, then I'll take him to your unit to find you, and let your colleagues check it. ”
As soon as she heard this, Yu Mingjia hurriedly begged for mercy, if she let her colleagues know, where would she put her face?
There is really no way, Yu Mingjia can only go on a blind date honestly.
The man she met this time was named Hu Jun, who worked as a salesman for a car sales company in Shanghai.
It's okay to say that the work is okay, what makes Yu Mingjia a little unacceptable is that this man is 7 years older than her,
She really couldn't understand what her parents thought, and introduced her to such an "old man." ”
Before the meeting, Yu Mingjia had been fully mentally prepared, she felt,
The other party must be a greasy man with glasses, a fat figure, and a suit and leather shoes.
But after the real meeting, Yu Mingjia couldn't believe his eyes,
Even though she was mentally prepared, she still had the urge to turn away immediately.
A man in his thirties, but he is still wearing ripped denim, and his shirt is also full of bells and whistles, and what is even more excessive,
He even had curly hair, and in the sunlight, it was obvious that his hair was also dyed.
Can such a person be reliable? What she likes is the kind of boy who is sunny and handsome, clean, and refreshing.
What made Yu Mingjia even more unbearable was that the other party turned out to be a straight man, and he said bluntly,
He wants to find a good wife and mother type of person to marry, and he doesn't like women to always go shopping and go to beauty salons.
Without finishing a meal, Yu Mingjia left in a hurry, and she sent a text message to tell her father,
自己跟胡俊根本就不可能。
But her father smiled and imparted experience, and said that it was generally cultivated and promoted, so she could try to associate with Hu Jun first.
If it really doesn't work, can you have a few more?
Yu Mingjia was suddenly one head and two years old, and she found that she was still lagging behind compared to her father.
But what Yu Mingjia didn't know was that after Hu Jun returned to Shanghai, he fell in love with her completely.
Under the "betrayal" of his father, Hu Jun did what he liked, put on normal clothes, and got a neat short haircut.
He even applied to the company and was transferred to Beijing.
05
At the end of 2007, Yu Mingjia drank too much at a party with friends, and she searched through the address book.
In the end, she sadly found that only Hu Jun seemed to be able to pick her up.
Hu Jun cherished this opportunity, not only sent Yu Mingjia to his residence, but also volunteered to make a bowl of noodles for Yu Mingjia.
Relieve stomach discomfort.
But as soon as he opened the refrigerator, Hu Jun was dumbfounded, there were only all kinds of drinks in the refrigerator of Yu Mingjia's house, and nothing else.
Yu Mingjia was also happy herself, she told Hu Jun that she didn't know how to cook at all, and she didn't want to learn.
If he wants to marry himself home, then he must think about it, he will definitely not be a good wife and mother.
But Hu Jun said:
"That's okay, I'll do it, I'm willing to do it for you for the rest of my life. ”
It was this sentence that made Yu Mingjia's heart completely confused.
In 2010, Yu Mingjia agreed to Hu Jun's marriage proposal on his 28th birthday, and they had only known each other for a little more than half a year at this time.
Yu Mingjia's father was surprised how his daughter's attitude changed so quickly.
After getting married, Yu Mingjia gave birth to twin daughters, and for the sake of her daughters, she temporarily put her career on hold.
It wasn't until 2012 that he began to make a comeback to filming.
has to take care of her daughter and work, Hu Jun feels very sorry for her and persuades her to stay at home.
But she said:
"A woman must have her own career, and she must always be beautiful, otherwise, one day you will dislike me. ”
Hearing her say this, Hu Jun was helpless, but fortunately, she had a very good mother-in-law, and after learning that she was going out to work,
I specially rushed to help her take care of the children and let her go out to work hard for her career.
After his comeback, Yu Mingjia filmed film and television dramas such as "Mendi", "Peach Blossom Luck", "My Wife is a Post-80s", "Love is the Source of Joy", "Twenty Don't Confuse", "Beautiful Days" and other film and television dramas.
became an actress who was loved by the audience.
When she is not filming, Yu Mingjia loves sports and fitness, even if she is over 40 years old, she still keeps her figure very well.
I can't tell that she is already a mother of two.
And everything is as he thinks, she has been married for many years, and her husband and mother-in-law are very good to her,
And she also sticks to her principles, insisting on not cooking, not doing housework, and putting all her time on time, her children, and herself.
In her concept, having children is her responsibility as a wife, and it is also an indispensable part of life.
But no one stipulates that women must go around the pot, which is not fair.
Rather than conquering her husband's stomach, she is more willing to make herself independent and strong, so that others will love you.
Yu Mingjia's sobriety, how should everyone?
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